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Kinky is NOT a Diagnosis!

September 16th, 2008 · No Comments

DSM Revision Petition

The DSM Revision Petition is gathering signatures from individuals and organizations calling on the American Psychiatric Association (APA) to adhere to empirical research when revising the diagnoses in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM).

Statements currently within the DSM Paraphilias criteria are contradicted by scientific evidence therefore NCSF must conclude that the interpretation of the Paraphilias criteria has been politically – not scientifically – based. This politically motivated interpretation subjects BDSM practitioners, fetishists and cross-dressers to bias, discrimination and social sanctions without any scientific basis.

Petition:
“We, the undersigned, support the American Psychiatric Association’s (APA) own goal of making its Diagnostic and Statistical Manual (DSM) a scientific document, based on empirical research and devoid of cultural bias. A diagnosis of a mental disorder can have a severe adverse impact on employment opportunities, child custody determinations, an individual’s well-being, and other areas of functioning. Therefore we urge the APA to remove all diagnoses that are not based upon peer-reviewed, empirical research, demonstrating distress or dysfunction, from the DSM. The APA specifically should not promote current social norms or values as a basis for clinical judgments.”

To sign, go to: www.thepetitionsite.com/1/DSMrevisionpetition
(You can make your signature anonymous on this secure petition site so it doesn’t appear on the Internet)

To find out more about the DSM and the Paraphilias section, read the NCSF & ITCR: The Foundation for NCSF’s “White Paper on the DSM Revision” at www.ncsfreedom.org

For more information, email: DSMrevisionpetition@yahoo.com

Please distribute to organizations and individuals and ask them to sign on!

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Sugasm #146

September 16th, 2008 · No Comments

Lobo, Maestro, Princess Donna, Lorelei Lee, and Billy on thetrainingofo.com

The best of this week’s blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Highlighting the top 3 posts as chosen by Sugasm participants. Want in Sugasm #147? Submit a link to your best post of the week by emailing directly to radicalvixenatgmaildotcom

This Week’s Picks
Nipple clamps, butt plug, Hitachi – oh my!
“Once the plug is in, I’m going to send you on a little walk.”

I discover transcendental orgasm
“It was peaceful, and like holding on to a live wire at the same time.”

When We Were Kids: Thoughts on BDSM
“The tying was always my favourite part, whether I was the one tied who had to escape, or the one who got to do the tying.”

Mr. Sugasm Himself
Sugar Bank

Editor’s Choice
Like a Prayer – Part 2

More Sugasm
Join the Sugasm

See also: Fleshbot’s Sex Blog Roundup each Tuesday and Friday.

Erotic Writing and Experiences
Bite Me
Chess
Lunch Date
On the phone
People we’ve always wanted to be
Submitting Again: Part 3
Top
Webcam
While it rains outside…
Your Gorgeous Polish Girlfriend does not feel like having sex tonight

Sex Work
The Age of Porn: Performers, Attraction, and Age
Day 5 of the Sexumentary
So there I was, with a caller…
The Whore in the House Next Door

NSFW pics
Dana by Goncharov (Met Art)
Fetish Model & PornSLUTkitty Gets Her Head Tattooed
A Fully Naked HHNT
Not a masochist

Sex News, Reviews, & Interviews
The Lelo Mia
Nea: by Lelo
Njoy’s Amazing Butt Plugs – A Sex Toy Review
Sex News Roundup

BDSM & Fetish
After the Party … (part III)
Catalina loves Naughty Secretary Roleplay
Charlotte Vale And I (Mz Berlin) In Bondage Gangbang On The Training Of O
The Enigmatic Angel’s Kinky Cinematic Journey
The Pleasure Of Torment
Push Button Behavior Modification
The Sarge And Backdoor Bondage Have Great Impact Play And Hogtied Style Bondage Content
Shoes, it’s really all about the shoes.
Snap, Crackle, and Pop
Whipped Pussy Reminds You To Always Keep A Spare In The Trunk

Sex Advice
Help, my boyfriend won’t go down on me!

Thoughts on Sex and Relationships
Can A Threesome Help You Find Your True Love?
Eco Sex and Green BDSM
Femme is a Noun, an Adjective, a Verb…
If You are Charming Smart, but Ugly, I Fuck You For Sure!
It’s a struggle.
Stripper Milf versus Stripper Teen: 69 points to ponder
Where The Hell Did My Boobs Go?

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Lipstick

September 10th, 2008 · 1 Comment

The porn world has “gay for pay” actors. Now are we seeing “gay for play” ball-players?

The Exxxotica New York convention moves from Secaucus to Edison, NJ in the same space that hosted TES Fest 2006 and Floating World.

TES Election results: Parliamentarian: Nayland
Arbiter: Lady Velvet
Board 2 year terms: Thrash, Goddess Coko, Wes, Lady M
Board 1 year term: Richard Cordage
Continuing on the board for another year: Bo, Lady Sabrina, Michele, Sir Guy
Interesting tidbit of info: 50% of the board is African American.

I leave today for Dark Odyssey. I’m traveling with Barbara Carellas. A bunch of my leather family will be there. I am so excited.

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NYC Weekly Leather Dates – Sept 11-17

September 10th, 2008 · 2 Comments

Charley Chase and Lochai on hogtied.com

Thursday, September 11
Queens BDSM munch

Friday, September 12
Apple Munch
ClubFEM NYC Munch
DSF: ” Pressure Points To Cause Pain – 101” w/ Tomo

Saturday, September 13
TES: “Learning the Single-Tail Workshop” with Thrash
New Museum: “The Sade I Know: Screening and Lecture” w/ Paul Chan
Desire Play Party

Sunday, September 14
Brooklyn Leatherfolk munch
BYTE party

Monday, September 15
Conversio Virium Meeting: Welcome back Show and Tell!

Tuesday, September 16
TES: “Performance Anxiety: Keeping your Head Above Water in Service Positions” w/ a panel

Wednesday, September 17

TES Dominant Women/submissive men’s Group: “Demystifying Singletai

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Chop chop

September 8th, 2008 · No Comments

In addition to TES elections on Tuesday night, as a New York Democrat, I have to vote in my local primary. These aren’t the big races that garner a lot of media attention, but rather races for like Surrogate Court and Civil Court. Local politics do make change, so it’s important to vote and make a difference.

The Mayor of Secaucus is trying to stop the EXXXOTICA New York convention. The Mayor should stop worrying about what consenting adults do at a private convention. Doesn’t Secaucus have real issues to deal with?

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Don’t Slam The Door

September 8th, 2008 · 23 Comments

I’m preparing for Dark Odyssey Summer Camp. Whoo hoo! Camp is sold out. Oink Cabin will be very crowded this year with a great bunch of people. We are not a wild party cabin, nor are we a quiet cabin, but my cabinmates are conscientious of the other people in the cabin. Oink only has one rule: Don’t slam the door!

In June at Leather Retreat, Don Quixote gifted this paddle to the cabin. Of course we had to use it! Our rule had to be enforced several times. The paddle will be back at Oink for Dark Odyssey.

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Hope for the best (expect the worst)

September 7th, 2008 · 1 Comment

My blog is on the list of Top 100 Sex Bloggers of 2008!

Midori’s next Rope Bondage Dojo will be in Kansas City, MO on October 18th and 19th. Like all the others, it will sell out!

I never thought of Toy Story this way.

Kinky is a documentary about Black Americans into BDSM.

Save $25. Buy your New York Leather Weekend VIP passes at TES meetings for $75 rather than the $100 on-line price.

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Glenda

September 6th, 2008 · No Comments

We celebrated Glenda’s birthday with a weekend in West Virginia at the Pond House.
Lime cake and chocolate/peanut butter cake

No internet, no cell phones. Just a lot of relaxing. We hot tubbed, played Pirate Monolpoly, and rescued damsels that had been left tied up in the woods (first we molested them). Of course there was amazing food. And great sex.

I brought bagels and lox from NYC.

For her birthday I gave her an NJOY Pure Plug (medium). This is just like mine. It’s shiny smooth stainless steel and very heavy. I love the weight and, unlike most butt plugs, it stays in my butt! I hope she loves it just as much as I love mine.

It seems like lately, I am getting these for all my favorite people. For Don Quixote’s birthday, I gave him the NJOY Pfun Plug which is shaped specially for guys to stimulate the prostate. He likes it a lot.

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Sugasm #145

September 6th, 2008 · No Comments

Billy, Berlin, Lobo and Charlotte Vale on thetrainingofo.com

The best of this week’s blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Highlighting the top 3 posts as chosen by Sugasm participants. Want in Sugasm #146? Submit a link to your best post of the weekby emailing me directly at radicalvixenatgmaildotcom

This Week’s Picks
Being Civil
“They couldn’t understand what the appeal of a civil union was for us.”

Clandestine Rendezvous
“He turned around to kiss me and I melted.”

Hotel Sex
“The excitement is too much for both of us”

Mr. Sugasm Himself
Sugar Bank

Editor’s Choice
You Can’t Make This Shit Up, Part 2

More Sugasm
Join the Sugasm

See also: Fleshbot’s Sex Blog Roundup each Tuesday and Friday.

Thoughts on Sex and Relationships
Let’s Pretend…
Masturbaticon I
Our Peculiar Erotica
“Pay No Attention To That Man Behind The Curtain”
Taking Charge of Your Own Pleasure
Tease and Denial: In Defense of Subtlety
Things that make you go Mmmmmm

Sex News, Reviews & Interviews
Babygate Continues!
Vibrators of the Future

Sex Work
Pillow Humping Cam Pussy

BDSM & Fetish
Arms to the sky
Beads
brock’s Last Task
My surprise for Daddy
Naughty, Naughty…Nice
The New Pet (fiction)
A proper thank you
The Runaround.
Welcome to Kinky Sex Link

NSFW Pics, Videos & Audio
Bare back HNT
HNT – Stripping for the Bath Brush – F/m Spanking Pic
Sasha Grey (NewNudeCity)

Erotic Writing and Experiences
8:55 – On My Way…
Asian massage parlors
Awakening
Brains in her cunt
The “Ex-Pat” Love [2nd. Revision]
Fantasy Friday: Lips Like Sugar
Hausfrau
In the Early Morning Darkness
Not Quite Poetry
On the Back of a Motorcycle
Release
Your first time with me

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William Howle

September 6th, 2008 · No Comments

William Howle passed away on August 21st at the age of 49, from liver cancer.  His partner, John, is asking everyone who knew him to please announce the memorial service which he is arranging in William’s
honor.  It will take place 6pm on Sunday, September 21 at 300 W. 46th Street, community room and garden. All are invited.  Please come and share your memories of William.

I knew William through Leather Pride Night.  He volunteered every year.

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