Lolita Wolf's Predictions & Predilections

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Bondage Insecurities

March 2nd, 2012 · No Comments

We all have our insecurities. Right? Right???

Well, okay, that was a generalization. What I mean is that I have some things that I am insecure about.

One of the people I have been playing with is a bondage professional. She has been tied by the best riggers in the business and she has tied others in the most fantastic ways. Every time we played I avoided doing bondage with her. There was always plenty to do, like spanking, sex and just being together and close. And it’s all been good.

I had avoided any bondage because I feared that I would not be good enough, that my skills would be inadequate. But I know that is wrong. It is not about bondage perfection. It’s about the connection and having a good time. I needed to get past this craziness and just tie her up!

So, the last time we played, I brought rope and tied her up. It was not a fancy, complicated tie. It was just something that would do the job. I beat her ass until she had an orgasm in my rope! It was great.

I need to always remember what’s important when I play with someone. It is not about bondage perfection. It’s about the connection and having a good time. I look forward to playing with her again.

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