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Jack McGeorge – obituary

August 18th, 2009 · 72 Comments

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“I am who I am. I am not ashamed of who I am — not one bit.”

Harvey “Jack” McGeorge passed away on August 18, 2009.  He was 59 years old.  The quote above is what he said when the Washington Post outed him in 2002 when he was a weapons inspector with U.N. Monitoring, Verification and Inspection Commission (UNMOVIC).  He did offer his resignation to Hans Blix, who had known of his BDSM from the beginning. Blix refused to accept his resignation.  Jack was a former Marine, a munitions expert, a sharpshooter and a chemical and biological warfare expert.  He had his own consulting company, Public Safety Group.

Jack was a bondage enthusiast and a metal bondage collector.   He acquired his first pair of handcuffs when he was eight years old.  His first explorations with others came while he was in the Marine Corps and, then later, in Mensa.  He was a founding member and an emeritus board member of Black Rose in DC and served in several capacities including Chairman of the Board, President, Secretary and Co-chair for BR10.  Additionally he had been a member of TES, GMSMA and Delta where he had served as a chief DM.

Jack was also passionate about latex, role play, teaching and activism.  He taught on a wide variety of topics for many groups and events over the years.  Jack served for five years on the Leather Leadership Conference board, was the Co-chair for LLC2000 and an Emeritus Board Member. Jack was a past Chairman of the Board of National Coalition for Sexual Freedom and served as Chair for the CARAS Board.

Over the past dozen year, Jack explored a passion for Master/slave dynamics.  He established a household, the Order for Discipline and Service.  He was greatly influenced by monastic and military structure and developed household manuals, uniforms, brochures, and a household philosophy. Jack and slave raven held the Northeast Master and slave title in 2005.

His community awards included:
Black Rose Vaughn Keith National Education Award in 1998
Dr. Anthony F DeBlase Professor of SM Arts and Letters in 1999
Pantheon of Leather Mid Atlantic Regional Award in 1998 and 2000
Black Rose Elder Award in 2000
Pat Bond Community Service Award from TES in 2003
Pantheon of Leather Man of the Year Award in 2004

Jack was my primary partner from 1993 to 1999.  He seduced me with his fascinating stories and kept me enthralled with his incredible play style.  Together we built our first leather family.  I helped him with his metal bondage collection and he encouraged me with my teaching (It’s not a real presentation if there’s no handout!).  We worked together on projects like BR10, LLC and NCSF.  We did not always agree on everything, but we were always on the same side.  And we were friends until the end.

Many others in the BDSM/Leather community were touched and inspired by Jack.  This is a huge loss.

Funeral Arrangements for Jack McGeorge are as follows:

Service Sunday, August 23, 2009  7PM (Completely vanilla)
Mountcastle Funeral Home
4143 Dale Blvd.
Dale City, VA 22193

Please, no flowers.Times have been hard for many, including Jack and his family.  If you would like to send a donation to help, you can do so by sending a check or money order to:

Justin Tanis
8750 Georgia Ave Apt 131A
Silver Spring, MD 20910

There will also be a basket at the service if you would like to place a donation there.

Jack’s wishes were that the community be able to attend his funeral service. It is our hope that those of you who can attend do.

A Leather family Memorial Service will take place on Saturday, August 29th at 2pm at the Crucible.

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Jack teaching Leadership at IML 1999

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Jack and I at Len and Michele’s jumping the broom ceremony
circa 1995

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  • http://www.kinkystickfigure.com Lynsey

    Lolita, I’m so sorry for your loss.
    .-= Lynsey´s last blog ..You Always Hurt … =-.

  • http://www.cmhurt.com Ms Cynthia/CM HURT

    Lolita, thank you for sharing your pictures and stories. I, like many others, was touched, moved and motivated by Jack and the examples that he set. The thought of not having him around makes me feel sad but I am sure that many others must feel the same. I understand that your personal loss is great and may you find serenity in knowing that Jack loved you as much as you loved him.

  • Mikki B.

    Hey Lo. Could you please add that the service on Sunday will be completely vanilla. There will be another service for the community later.

  • http://pursedlips.com Debra Hyde

    Lolita,

    Lovely words formed from wonderful memories. I’m deeply touched by your eloquence and ability to cherish.

    My condolences,
    Debra
    .-= Debra Hyde´s last blog ..An Auspicious Milestone… =-.

  • http://www.sxysadist.com Suzanne SxySadist

    Jack’s passing is indeed a huge loss to our community and everyone who knew him. My heartfelt sympathies and condolences to all who are grieving his loss. Sadly .. Suzanne

  • Master Steve & slave tami

    Master and i are saddened at this loss and send our condolences. We will be at the Crucible for the Leather Family Memorial Service on August 29th.

  • Master Z Chicago

    Jack was a very special person. He was the Master’s Master and will be missed. I had the utmost respect for him and enjoyed having him as a Presenter at our events. Jack was the ultimate Leatherman and I am proud to have called him my friend.

    Z

  • Cheryl

    I’m so sorry, Lo. What a terrible loss for all of us. I hold you in my thoughts.

    Peace,
    Cheryl

  • Sue

    Lolita, I’m so sorry to hear about Jack. What a loss for his family and the community he served so passionately. I admired him mostly from afar, but I extend my condolences to you and others who knew him, worked closely with him, and loved him.

  • http://nyghtowl.livejournal.com Paul NyghtOwl

    Please accept our condolences and thank you for writing these words.
    .-= Paul NyghtOwl´s last blog ..Mike Portnoy sings Zappa =-.

  • Margo Eve

    I keep trying to find the words and find myself at a loss. I am so sorry for your loss, personally. I am sorry for the loss of the entire community. He paved the way for so many of my generation. During the whole inspection debacle he came across as fearless. I remember speaking with him about it… my regret is not speaking to him more about other things.

  • Pat

    Thanks for sharing your heart! Living for every moment is never more important when we lose those close to us! Jack & I crossed paths in strange ways but he will be missed. I offer a hand and a shoulder!

    ~p

  • Rick Umbaugh

    Jack McGeorge was the best of the best, a gentleman and a lifestyle player extraordinary. He was a great teacher and someone who advanced the art of BDSM. He will be missed.

  • http://www.MySpace.com/SirViktor Sir Viktor

    A gentleman and a scholar. A big loss for everyone in the community.

    May the higher power protect his soul and ease the pain of his loved ones.

  • Jan Hall

    A man who shared his insights about community building. A huge loss.
    —Jan Hall, NLA, Columbus OH

  • Mym

    I’m sorry love. He will truly be missed by all of us. I’m keeping you in my thoughts and will be at both his services.

    His absence is felt keenly.

  • http://www.makinascene.com aurora

    What a loss to the community. I met him at SWL when he gave a workshop. The information he gave was so helpful to me and I chatted with him afterwards to tell him so. He was so kind and friendly and took the time to chat with me even though I was a little no-body slave. I was very touched by his spirit.

  • Ellen

    Beautiful description of Jack…we’ll miss him. Thanks for sharing the pictures too.

  • Goddess Roze

    A fine tribute to the memory of a man who touched many lives in this community. There are many of us who will have our own Jack remembrances and I thank you, Lolita, for sharing yours at this time of great loss for you personally. I am still dreadfully shocked and grieved at his passing. We must always remember him.

  • anna

    good job all the way around. lo i know this is esp hard for you. keeping you in my thoughts.

  • http://leatherphoenix.info Siobhan Phoenix

    Lolita,

    As I posted before, my heartfelt condolences and sympathies. Jack will be missed from this community in many ways. He was always someone I looked up to Jack – his service, his ethics, and his passion for what he did is what I aspire to be. I certainly did not have his experiences or the knowledge to run a household in the way he did – but his family always impressed me.

    You were very lucky to have him in your life, and hold and cherish those memories forever – I know you will – but it never helps to remind :)

    -Trish
    .-= Siobhan Phoenix´s last blog ..Psychology of Humiliation =-.

  • tomo

    Dear Lolita,

    I am very sorry for your loss. I will never forget Jack and all he has done for our community.

    Love,
    tomo

  • Master Tony

    Although I didn’t agree with everything Jack had to say, I respected him and his right to say it. He was an amazing man – an inspiration to us all. Throughout his ordeal, he stood up with pride in who he was. He was a patriot, and I’m proud to say that I knew him. I’m only sorry I never got to know him better. My condolences go out to his family, both vanilla and leather. He will be missed very badly by those of us who knew him and those who never did will have missed a tremendous opportunity.

  • Rae

    He will be deeply missed by many. I know his Family will surround justin and elizabeth and help them get through this loss. My thoughts are with them and all who loved this amazing man.

    Journey well, Jack.

  • Paul and Monique

    Jack,

    Your spirit, tenacity, and dedication not only to who you are, but to what you believed in, will live on in all of us for decades. You motivated, taught and inspired a generation of us to believe in who we were, and to live life with your motto of: “I am who I am. I am not ashamed of who I am — not one bit.”

    I not only salute you for your bravery, but for you unwavering dedication. Your history has improved us all and that IS the power of your legacy that will live on in your spirit at this sad day of your passing.

    Semper Fi my fello veteran.

    Lolita: My heart aches at your loss, take strength from Jacks power and I am sure he is looking down on you now wishing you a speedy return to living life large as he did.

    Paul
    Master of my slave monique

  • Lady Red

    So very very sorry to hear about Jack. I am sorry for your loss, and for the loss to the whole community. He was the best of all teachers and a role model for my work to develop the TES Novice Group. He was also an amazing top and a wizard with knives, and taught me a lot about both. I am one of thousands who will mourn his loss. Rest in peace.

  • Mike H

    Lolita
    please accept my deepest condolences. Jack was one of the first people I met in the leather community when I came out in 1988. He was such a loving man and such a leather, metal, and rubber enthusiast. I have such loving memories of Jack. I am at such a loss for words. He will be remebered by me and by many very lovingly as a man who lived his life by his convictions and very proudly.

  • Fluffy

    So Sad. I always enjoyed Jack when our paths crossed and will miss him.

    My condolences to you L and the rest of the family.

    Fluffy

  • Evil_Geoff

    I only had the opportunity to meet Mr. McGeorge briefly this past June at South East Leather Fest where he was a judge for the SELF titles. But he was no stranger to me.

    I was a member of NCSF and the CP Rep for my BDSM group while they were an NCSF Coalition Partner. I remember how he was outted in the press and then vilified, and I remember how proud I was to be in Leather when instead of running and hiding, he stood tall, and proud and told the US press, and the world, that he was proud of who and what he was.

    Amazing.

    He was an advocate, an educator, a decent, caring, courageous man. And his influence will be felt for years to come. He made a difference, just because he was who and what he was.

    Lolita, we met while I was a CP Rep and I offer you my heartfelt condolences. Please convey my sympathies to his family as well. You are all in my thoughts and prayers.

    Safe Journeys, Jack.

    In Sympathy,
    – Geoff

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  • http://www.BondageLessons.com Max

    Lolita –

    I’m so sorry to hear this.

    I met Jack a long time ago and saw him rarely – yet he left a powerful and indelible impression. He was a great man, and radiated confidence, integrity, pride, and love.

    Thank you for taking the time to prepare and post this obituary – Jack was important to so many people. I’ll send some money and some love, and I hope others are able to do the same.

    Please accept my condolences.

    Max
    Seattle

  • raven

    Lo,

    I am eternally grateful for every moment I got to share with Master Jack and bewail yhe fact they were too short. I know you and he loved and cared for each other deeply. We all grieve and I thank you for sharing this part of him and I hope it helps you as it does me.

  • http://www.scenewear.com Lady Elaina

    We are all so much poorer for Jack’s passing. He was such a big part of our community, and responsible for so much of the progress we have made in our lifestyle. He gave so much..to so many…and i always knew i could learn things from him, and held his friendship dear.

    May he rest in peace,
    Lady Elaina

  • http://theghidrah.com/ Mako Allen

    Jack was a brilliant and kind man, who did so very much for our community. I liked him immensely, and will miss him.

    I admire him for the way he lived his life fully.

    “He holds nothing back from life;
    therefore he is ready for death,
    as a man is ready for sleep
    after a good day’s work.”

  • Master Malik

    Master Jack McG was one of those rare people who walk in the aura of inner strength and conviction. His departure from this world to the next one leaves a vaccumm. It was always a privilege to visit with him during many events I have the opportunities to attend. His memories shall always be in my heart and so shall the man himself.

    Malik

  • http://www.recon.com/tyutumi Tyutumi

    Jack was a warrior in our world, one whose dignity, humor and fearlessness will continue to serve as an example. It is an honor to have known him.

    Lolita, my condolences for your personal loss.

    -Andy

  • Master Bear Robert

    Lolita,

    I am stunned and so sorry to learn of Master Jack’s passing. He was continually one of My influences in My journey as a Master. I was lucky enough to study from Him for the last time at the Master Seminar at Sir Stephen’s residence in Monroe Township, NJ on July 25, 2009. His journey was an inspiration to all of U/us, and I send you My deepest condolences for your loss.
    In Leather Heart and Spirit,
    Master Bear Robert

  • Weirdwulf

    From all of us at LynX Charlotte NC.. Rest easy Sir…

  • willow

    Lolita i sympathize with your great loss. Though i have only met Jack on 4 occasions i was greatly inspired by him and feel our community has suffered a great loss way too soon.
    willow

  • Miss Rae and chris

    We will always consider ourselves fortunate for having had the pleasure of meeting Jack. He took time out of his day to sit with us and offer advice and words of encouragement. He spoke from his heart and the feeling of friendship will never leave us. He was a true man. A real man. A good man. And one that will be missed by us.

    In Leather,

    Miss Rae and chris

  • http://www.masterdaddy.com Masterdaddy

    You gave more to life and was always willing to help and talk to others and never ask for anything in return. You will always have my deep respect and the respect of so many. Semper Fi my brother Marine and I know St. Peter is going to meet you at the Gate and tell you welcome home.
    Semper Fi

    Masterdaddy
    &
    MistressAnniev

  • Alexander

    Lolita,

    Thank you for sharing from your heart, tho it must ache deeply.

    What a great loss to our community and to those of us who got to know Jack.

    He left an indelible impression on me of high standard and virtue, whether in service to our country or his unwavering support of our BDSM/Leather Community. Jack’s generosity with his time and resources crossed all lines without hesitation. I shall always hold his memory close.

    Lolita, my condolences and sympathy for your loss.

    Alexander (nee Officer Hogg)

  • slave Jezabel

    He will be greatly missed by many, but for those who knew him, he will forever be in their hearts.

  • Pete

    Lolita–

    I never met him, and now I wish I had. My deepest condolences.

  • http://www.urbantantra.org Barbara Carrellas

    What a huge personal loss! I am so so sorry. Please know that I am thinking about you and sending you so much love and peace.

  • dee

    I just pray there’s a naughty angel up there who can appreciate a good knife scene…no one could even come close to Jack’s…alone in his dungeon…in the middle of the night…gives me the willies even now! Lo, your lives were and are and ever will be entertwined…he will always be with you. Just the merest thought of his beautiful hands and there he will be, full blown in your mind and heart. My enduring love to you…dee

  • lucky1guy

    Lolita,

    I am very sorry to learn of Jack’s passing.

    I went to several classes he taught at BR and visited with him at the TES event in NJ in 2006. He was a very bright guy and a very nice guy.

    It seems the good die young.

    Lucky

  • http://www.scony.com Margaret Davis

    Jack was one of the first people I met when I came to the scene in DC before I moved to NY. He probably forgot meeting me but I remember him as gracious, kind and very informed about anything in the community. He was a truly wonderful person and his passing is a great loss to the community.

    Margaret Davis

  • Michele

    I heard this first thing in the morning from The Boyfriend, who happened to know Jack reasonably well. And I didn’t want to believe it. And then I cried a little. And then I laughed, because now Len has someone to argue with again. And The Deity knows how The Dead Guy loves to argue.

    What can one say about Jack? He was funny as hell. He was to the right of Attila the Hun. I enjoyed arguing with him. I thought he was wrong about a lot of things, except for the discipline of SM itself. He was one of a very tiny number of straight men who ever garnered my total respect and admiration. He knew his shit.

    I used to tell ‘Jack’ stories to my anthro students. They thought I was making stuff up. I didn’t have to. Jack was one of the nicest, most generous, honorable, kindest, sweetest, brilliant assholes out there, and I know from assholes- I was happily with one for close to eight years. I mean it as the highest compliment. I cannot express how much I loved him, even though I hadn’t seen him in ages.

    I will miss Jack. He was one of the few people who has always retained a part of my cold, mean-spirited heart, and he always will.

  • Mistress Annette

    Lolita,
    I am sorry you lost your dear friend.
    Annette

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  • pup

    Lo,
    I’m deeply saddened by the Loss of Jack. You have my condolences! He was one of the greatest men I ever met. He left an indelible mark on me. He treated all people with respect and dignity. He was a Master’s Master to say the least and a real gentleman to boot. I feel truly privileged to have been to parties at his home. He was a wonderful, generous host and he will never be forgotten by me. When I was the faculty director for Leather University I used to ALWAYS make sure that I got to pick Jack up from the airport, so that I could have uninterrupted time with him in the car alone! It was hard to do otherwise. LOL! He was so popular because he was such an expert at so many things, but mostly because he was an incredible human being!!! He will be sorely missed but his memory will live with me forever warmly in my heart! ~~~pup

  • silkyropes

    Lolita,

    I am so sorry for your loss – your writings so eloquently show just how much Jack meant to you. A part of him will live on in your heart forever.

    My heart goes out to his family and friends – and to everyone whose life he touched. He was an honorable man who had great reason to be proud of who he was.

    He will be remembered fondly by many, many people.

    He’s in peace now, and his star is shining down on all of us.

    silky

  • Velma

    Lolita, I am sorry for your loss, and for the world’s. Jack was a true mensch, and even though I’d not seen him in years, I always remembered him fondly.

  • Kat’s, Robert

    Lolita,
    I’m so sorry for your loss. As a student of Jack’s at ESI, I had the pleasure of gaining knowledge from one of the most intelligent people I have ever known. His teachings have made me a better professional, and will always be with me.

  • http://DeepLoss Lace

    Indeed the community has lost a very special man.
    He touched countless lives..including mine.

    Nights in his dungeon…
    are forever burned into my soul.
    I thank him for all that he gave all of us.
    We are better…
    for having been touched by him.

    Fair winds.

  • Danny

    I was at a loss for words… and then reading threw all the previouse comments, I was struck by a common thread: Jack was an educator and an inspiration, who gave so much more to our community then he coudl ever take. As a person, he will be missed… but the impact he has had on our communitee will live on for years. Danny Winters

  • http://www.tribalproductions.org Master Z – Texas

    Fare the well Master Jack

    I enjoyed your mind and admired your tenacity regarding that which you believed. You live on in the memories of those who were inspired by you and recognized your dedication to being a Leatherman.

    woof..

  • Alex & cassie

    Lolita,

    My wife/sub and I are both deeply saddened at the loss of Jack. It’s almost hard to believe. He influenced me and was the icon of BR…at least to me…on how to be a Dominant. He influenced and encouraged my girl to be what she wanted to be. I am sorry for your loss and and can’t begin to fathom how you must feel. We will certainly attend the Leather gathering next weekend. For a man who did so much for both of us, it’s the least we can do. The scene, state, country, and humanity lost a truly warm and caring man. May he rest in peace.

    With great respect,
    Alex and cassie

  • Talyn

    Jack came to the aid of ROPE wen we needed him most. I admired his honestly and his willingness to help as we saught to create a supportive DS community here in Richmond. “Uncle Jack ” will truly be missed, because of him we are all closer t being able to declare “I am who I am. I am not ashamed of who I am — not one bit.”Jack M . 2002. I bit him a fast and speady voyage.

  • bob

    You days on watch in this world have past. You’ve left two communities with memories of your accomplishments. Your spirit will live on in our hearts, minds and souls.
    Fair winds and following seas on your new journey shipmate.
    bob{ }

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  • http://mistressyin.livejournal.com Yin

    Thank you for posting this, Lolita. I bow my head in respect and remembrance. Though I did not know him well, I took his classes and had the opportunity to talk to him about bondage. Jack was an inspiration as a courageous lifestyle role model and a great teacher. He took the time to share his expertise with me when I was just starting off as a baby-dom.
    with heart felt sympathy
    .-= Yin´s last blog ..The Fabulous Fetish Wedding Gala =-.

  • Geoffrey Thomps

    It saddens me, I had met this wonderful soul on several occasions. He was one of my own Mentors, he will be missed. He was a tru gentleman.

  • Loraine

    Jack lives in my memories, as many of you have said, as a proud and loving man who taught many of us a lot. I will never forget his amazing collections of instruments and his playful scolding me for “enjoying myself too much” at one of his parties. And yes, like others have said, it was so inspiring to see him stand up for himelf and us all during the Blix mess. Namaste, Jack!

  • Eli

    I am so sorry to hear of your loss, my sincerest condolences to you and your family.

  • SusieQ Degnan

    The world has lost a GREAT man. A leader, a mentor, a father, a husband, and a wonderful friend. He will be greatly missed!

    I have wonderful memories of Jack hosting me and others in his home. And the amazing basement/dungeon! (Domestic metal bondage in one room, foreign in the other!)

    May your hearts soon be filled with wonderful memories of joyful times together as you celebrate a life well lived.

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  • Art

    I was on the first Board of Directors of CAPEX in Charlotte, NC in 2000 and we asked Jack to give a presantation. He did not hesitate. That night at our social I asked him to do me a personal favor and do a short knife play scene with my wife. Though he had onle met she and I once earlier, he did not hesitate. Though it was only a three minute scene it was most instructional. I may have only known him for one day but, will remember him for all of mine. Jack gave of himself unselfishly. He will be missed. Our sympathy Lolita.

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  • http://MasterKelly.com penny and Master Kelly

    Lolita and Jack’s leather family,

    We’re stunned to have just learned of Jack’s most untimely death, and are deeply sorry for your loss.

    Jack means so much to us — his passing will never change that. We were honored to call him friend, and to be given the extraordinary privilege to interact with him as a teacher, mentor, host of the best parties, and deeply caring man.

    Jack and His boy Andrea played a major role in bringing us together as Master and slave, and although we had to leave BR, the former Phoenix Society and the DC area much sooner than we wanted to, we have never forgotten him or all that he taught us and the invaluable contributions he made to the leather community in its broadest sense.

    Again, we are saddened by Jack’s death, and wish him, and you, peace.

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