Lolita Wolf's Predictions & Predilections

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~ The Top Three Posts ~

Assent Matters by SherynB – Find your emotional power to recognize and say “no” to what you don’t want BEFORE you get naked and tied up and give up your actual physical power to walk away to anybody.

Forever The Night – ‘Why the hell shouldn’t I listen? This is my home, my bedroom after all’. So I do listen and I do feel myself twitch at every minute sound on the other side of that fucking wall.

Hands. Fingers. Pleasure. – This was the first time a boy’s fingers had such unfettered access to my pussy. Prior gropings under and through clothes had never been like this.

~ e[lust] Editress ~

The Fake Orgasm: You think you know, but you have no idea – I am 34 and I have faked orgasms. There ya have it. But I have never and will never qualify doing so as “I did it for him”.

~ Featured Post (Picked by Lilly) ~

Sadie Says… Awake – In the haze of my missing libido I also lost myself. I began to wonder if I remembered who the hell I was?

Kink & Fetish

Connection, Intimacy & Trust
DQ Earns a Pass from Chasity
Five Little Words
Naked and kinky in a busy sex shop
Sharp Tongues and Good Pain
Sexual violence
The Duke Story
‘Twas the Night Before Kinky
The Pink Elephant
Who I Am
Who Are You to Change Us?
Waking You

Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

Busy Writing
Help! My Vibrator Won’t Work
Men and Visual Stimulation
Slippery and sticky and covered in lube
The Safe Zone – Giving Yourself Permission To Screw Up in Non-Monogamy
Until Death Do Us Part

Sex News, Interviews, Politics & Humor

Interview With Senior Sexuality Advocate Joan Price

Erotic Writing

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A Read to Remember
Aurelia (A Dirty Kind Of Grace part 1)
A Fistful
banana bread
Christmas Day
Last night in Cap D’Adge
Later On In The Evening
Meat Hooks & Butcher’s Twine
Reside
Sugarbutch Star: blckndblue, The Pink Dress
she and he and me…
Surprise Orgasm
wind

Krysta Kaos and Skin Diamond on theupperfloor.com

Don Quixote was locked up in a chastity device. It had been over a week. He needed to get out. He had a date with these two guys. A big overnight date with lots of bondage and sex.

Sometimes he has dates and I don’t let him out of the chastity like here and here. His dates are not my problem.  But this time it sounded like a particularly hot date and I felt we could work something out.

“You need to get me off, but really well, and then I’ll let you out for your date,” I told him. And, so, we made a date.

I arrived at his place. The sling was set up. The Hitachi was plugged in and a bunch of favorite toys were laid out. I told him that I wanted him naked and he went off to get undressed while I got comfortable in the sling. He came back naked except for the chastity device and a surprise for me. He wore a dildo gag. How perfect that he was not only gagged and silent but that he also wore a cock for my pleasure.

DQ worked diligently to get me off with the dildo gag, various toys and his dextrous hands. When I was close, I grabbed the Hitachi and was very satisfied with the outcome.

I sent him off to his date and the next day was regaled with hot tales of boy-on-boy action complete with photos.

I am going to be a judge at Deck The Balls hosted by the guys of Onyx NY/Northeast on Sunday Dec 18th at the LGBT Center 208 West 13th Street from 5pm to 8pm. There will be Fun, Food, Drink, Family, Friends, Raffles and a Contest to boot! Come join us. HO! HO! HO!

I’m glad I visited Oscar Wilde’s tomb before they cleaned it and sealed it off.

This weekend, I’ll be at Just Play, an event designed to bring women and transfolks together to play and socialize and learn from each other. The event takes place at Play House Studios in Baltimore, MD. You must rsvp to Glenda for the address.

Friday night is open play from 9pm to 2am plus an Erotic Dance and Performance workshop at 10pm taught by Coco Monroe. Bump, grind, shimmy and shake! Whether your goal is to learn how to bring a little tease to your current performance technique or into your bedroom, come get a taste of this over-the-top performance art. This workshop will cover a brief history of Burlesque and striptease in the US and, most importantly, how to make the art of tease your own. Bring your make-up, corsets, pasties and questions. Practice makes perfect!

Saturday afternoon at 2pm we go together to the Visionary Arts Museum.

Saturday night 9pm to 3am is more open play plus a Spanking Workshop at 10pm taught by me followed by the annual Strip Tease/Lap Dancing fundraiser for the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom which starts at Midnight (please bring cash to tip our dancers – the tips go to NCSF). Anyone can dance in the NCSF Extravaganza – just bring your music on CD or I Pod.

Sunday is more open play from 1pm until 8pm. There will be a potluck brunch (bring a dish to share) followed by a workshop at 3pm on Breaking Skin: Decorating the Body with me. There are so many pretty things we can do! Demos will include making designs with needles and staples, attaching beads and other pretty adornments, making string patterns, making corsets and more.

$75 for the weekend, $30 per day/night. Please bring something to share for our food table. A limited number of work exchange positions are available. Parking is available for only $5 per car per night in the attached parking garage if you arrive between 9pm – 10:30pm on Fri and Sat nights and between 1pm and 3:30pm on Sunday. Street Parking is always available in the neighborhood but please take normal street parking precautions and secure your belongings.

Overnight accommodations are available for $10 – $20 per person per night (sliding scale) – please bring your own towels and sheets – there are lots of pillows and blankets.

RSVP to Glenda.

Friday night I went to Charles Gatewood‘s opening at the Leslie-Lohman Foundation.

This is one of Kymara‘s mannequins at the exhibit. Those are antique love letter accessorized with a leather blindfold, collar and leash from Purple Passion, a sponsor of the show.

Some really cool people showed up. Mike and Nayland were there!

Recently, I spent a week with six other kinky people on a 50 foot Beneteau sailboat in the British Virgin Islands. As you can see in the photo above, our ship proudly flew a pig flag.

I don’t want to bore you with a full report of my vacation, so here are the highlights:

Best SCUBA dive: The Indian
Best Dinner: Foxy’s Taboo at Diamond Cay
Best Lunch: Katie’s grilled cheese extravaganza
Best Overnight Spot: Marina Cay
Best Drinks: Jumbies at Levereck Bay
Best Shopping: Pusser’s
Best Night Time Experience: Being surrounded by sharks at Diamond Cay
Biggest Disappointment: Jellyfish at Anegada
Best Conch Fritters: Pusser’s at Soper’s Hole
Best Fruit Popsicles: Locally Yours in Roadtown
Best Shore Trip: The Baths at Virgin Gorda
Hottest Date: Peggy and Joe
Funniest Moment: Running our dingy ashore in front of Whistling Pines
Friendliest Person: Edward of The Moorings
Best Captain: Peggy O.

And a bonus list…
Things that went overboard:
Cup (not retrieved)
Jerry’s glasses (not retrieved)
Katie’s hat (twice, both times retrieved)
Michael’s shorts (retrieved)

I know that the Littles Contest was conceived as a parody, just for fun. And it is fun. And I entered to have fun with it. In my 20+ years in the scene, I had never run for a title before, but this contest just called out to me. It was so perfect for me. I wanted to win this.

Being the first has the advantage of there not being any precedent. I was able to do what I wanted with the title. I took my sash with me everywhere on every trip and always tried to work the title in at some point.

I taught age play classes at Dark Odyssey Winter Fire, TES Fest, Thunder in the Mountains and Floating World

I wore my sash at other contests with the other titleholders: the International Mater/slave Contest, International Ms Leather, Great Plains Olympus Leather and the Dark Odyssey Dirty Pig Contest

I was also visible at other events with my sash: Leather Pride Night, Folsom Street East and Fet Fest. I even got to be one of the judges at the Dark Odyssey Littles Contest!

My favorite event of all was hosting the Littles Party at IMsL. I was able to create a safe, fun space where several people (who will remain nameless) were able to explore their little personas for the first time. There were also littles who had never met other littles before! It was a very empowering event for many of the attendees. I could not have done it without the help of my leather family. Thank you.

I especially would like to thank my Daddy Nay who always treats me like a Princess. It was also a growth year for him as his balloon sculpting skills have vastly improved. 😉

Thank you for the opportunity to be the first International Little Miss Littles and I hope whoever wins this year will have as much fun as I did.

The Ultimate Guide to Kink: BDSM, Role Play and the Erotic Edge

I have a chapter in this book! It’s Chapter Two and it covers Spanking, Caning and Flogging! The list of contributing authors to this book reads like a Who’s Who of BDSM: Patrick Califia, Midori, Laura Antoniou, Barbara Carrellas, Lee Harrington, Jack Rinella, Madison Young, Hardy Haberman, Felice Shays, Ignacio Rivera, Sarah Sloane, Mollena Williams, FifthAngel, and Edge. I am so excited!

The book is not out yet, but you can preorder it on Amazon for a deep discount.

Monday October 10th is the first installment of Bare Stories, which showcases people telling stories of sex, desire and romance. The topic is First Times. This will also be my first time on stage as a story teller! So please come out and hear me tell my story.

Get details at Bare Stories.