Lolita Wolf's Predictions & Predilections

DragonLily on everythingbutt.com

September 16-21 – Maryland
Dark Odyssey Summer Camp: teaching Kidz Rule!, Rope Bondage & Sex, Popping that Suspension Cherry, and The Well Hung Hand

September 25-27 – San Jose, CA
Folsom Fringe: teaching The Art of Co-Topping and Look Ma No Rope

October 23-25 – Chicago, IL
Kinky Kollege: teaching Kidz Rule! and CBT in a Nutshell

October 30-November 1 – Washington, DC
Black Rose: teaching Co-Topping, CBT, and Decorative Bloodsports

December 7 – NYC
Conversio Virium: teaching Trust

January 22-24 – Phoenix, AZ
Southwest Leather Conference: teaching The Art of Co-Topping and Look Ma No Rope

Feb 5-6, Columbus, OH
Winter Wickedness: teaching TBA

February 26-28 – Dallas, TX
South Plains Leatherfest: teaching TBA

April 15-18 – San Francisco, CA
International Ms. Leather: teaching TBA and coordinating the Celebrity Auction

Janie Blooms tells us all about her first trip to La Trapeze.

New York Leather Weekend loses street fair location.

Nayland Blake posts eloquently about the death of the sex scene in NYC.

Judge silences defendant with duct tape. I wish they had a photo!

Some really nice words about Jack.

PEG-ASS-US
A wholesome kink-comedy about butt-sex, with puppetry, song, dance, and… mythical creatures!

Winner, Best Comedy – 2008 San Francisco Fringe Festival
“Sex-ed at its best!”  Drs. Carol Queen & Robert Lawrence (Center for Sex & Culture, SF)

John Leo and Sophie Nimmannit have crafted perhaps the silliest, most heartfelt romantic comedy about anal sex imaginable. Build in their passionate lover’s quarrels that unearth the messy entanglements of desire, fear, the need for acceptance, the hope for a sexual revolution – and the duo bumbles to a climax where everyone gets off.

From Pack of Others
Created & Performed by John Leo & Sophie Nimmannit
Directed by Leslie Strongwater

Fri’s & Sat’s at 10pm: October 2*, 3*, 9, 10, 16, 17, 23, 24

Dixon Place, 161A Chrystie Street (between Rivington and Delancey), NYC.
Tickets: (*$10 Previews) $15 General Admission / $12 Students & Seniors
Reservations: 212-219-0736, dixonplace.org

Watch the trailer.

I am enjoying my sexy marzipan girl.  One body part at a time.

Tyler Saint and Dean Tucker on boundgods.com

Thursday, September 3
The Baroness’ Fetish Retinue Back To School Party

Friday, September 4
NYC Munch
DSF: “End of the Summer BDSM Barbeque Party & The Speed Dating Game”

Saturday, September 5

Sunday, September 6
LSM Safety & Orientation
NY Bondage Club

Monday, September 7

Tuesday, September 8
TES Membership Meeting – Annual Elections
Blaque: A New Look at Fetish, Vol. II Book Release Party

Wednesday, September 9
TES Novice Group: “Ask the ‘Kink Friendly’ Therapist” with Larry Iannotti, LCSW

This is my favorite photo of Al Schlong on the Ultra Femme Porn Tour.  It captures the frenzy of his entire performance.

© Tom of Finland Foundation

The goal of the Leather Hall of Fame is to recognize those who have made a lasting contribution to the Leather community and to provide a historical and educational reference for the community.

The Leather Hall of Fame represents all people in the modern leather community around the World, without regard to gender or sexual orientation.

Anyone can nominate a person or organization to be considered for the Leather Hall of Fame. The annual deadline for nominations is October 1st. The Board of Governors will select three inductees each year among eligible nominees.

The 2009 inductees were John Alexander Scott Coutts (1902 –1962) aka John Willie, Charles “Chuck” Renslow and Touko Laaksonen (1920 –1991) aka Tom of Finland.

The Board of Governors are Robert Miller, Jeff Willoughby, Daniel Ruester, Race Bannon, Gayle Rubin, Rob Bienvenue, Daniel Doumont, Larry Burden, Viola Johnson, Derek Cohen, Gloria Brame, Jim Taylor, and Nancy Irwin.

I’m not big on processing, but sometimes I think it worthwhile to take a step back and look things over.  Relationships are not stagnant, even though I am not one to push them along.  Actually, I am loathe to push them along at all.  And just to where would I push it along that could be better than this?  Why try to change something that is fun, fulfilling and working?  I am not goal oriented about my relationships.  And there’s a certain freedom around that.  There’s no pressure to change.

But relationships do change, seemingly on their own.  And the relationship with Don Quixote is going on three years and it’s changed.  It’s gotten more intimate, more trusting, more loving.  As much as I want to stick my head into the sand about it, that change can’t be ignored.  I especially can’t ignore it because my friends and family treat us more and more like a couple and they make fun of me for refusing to define the relationship further than calling him my jellybean.

Just what am I supposed to do now?  And without fucking it up?  Is this all about a label?  Would they be satisfied if I called him my boyfriend?  Or my partner?  Ugh!  Those labels carry all sorts of baggage.

We have no rules and no expectations of each other.  Either one of us can do anything we want.  I guess there are some unspoken rules, like, for instance: we don’t lie to each other, but regular good friends don’t lie to one other either.  We are considerate to each other, just like good friends.  We support each other and do nice things for each other, just like good friends.  Are these rules?  Not really.  I don’t make rules with friends.  And I don’t think we need rules here.  I don’t have higher expectations.

So, do I really need to call it something else?

I showed this to the jellybean and he wrote back to me:

“The thing is: the only people we really have to worry about with this thing are each other.  I feel really lucky that our honesty and receptiveness keep bringing us along.  The name jellybean has come to be perfect for it.  Maybe other folks want it defined in some other way, but I’m very happy to just think of you as my Princess.”

That’s totally perfect!  So stick that in your pipe and smoke it!

Great video of Midori and her LoveSeat at this year’s  Seattle Erotic Art Festival.

Another reason to want an iPhone. Kinkerbelle found a knot app.

RIP Teddy Kennedy and thank you for all you did.

Dark Odyssey Summer Camp is very close to selling out the beds. Register now or else stay in a tent.

NCSF has named Howie Zusel its 2009 Volunteer of the Year.

Last night I attended Mistress Yin and Richard’s Fetish Gala, which was the start of their big wedding weekend.  Many friends and lots of great entertainment.

Julie Atlas Munoz

The Brazilian Sisters

Amanda Wildefyre and friend

The happy couple, Mistress Yin and Richard