Lolita Wolf's Predictions & Predilections

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April 9-12 – Atlanta, GA
Frolicon: teaching How to Play With Needles, Stuff Yer Hole, Sensory Deprivation and Fantasy Role Play

May 10 – Washington, DC
Whole DC: teaching TBA

June 20 – NYC
Leather Pride Night: coordinating volunteer

June 24-29  –  Northern MD
Leather Retreat: teaching classes TBA

July 2-5  –  Piscataway, NJ
TES Fest: coordinating the Celebrity Auction and teaching TBA

July 17-19 – Denver, CO
Thunder In The Mountains: teaching Decorative Bloodsports, The Dynamics of Co-Topping and Metal Bondage.

October 23-25 – Chicago, IL
Kinky Kollege : teaching Kidz Rule and CBT in a Nutshell

Do you only teach at events? Would you be interested in doing any private lessons?

I have been doing private lessons. Most of it is bondage, but also various other things. Most of my clients are couples who are rather private and don’t want to go to meetings and events to learn. I really enjoy these sessions and it’s really rewarding to help them enhance their skills.  I also like the extra money!

March is Question Month. You can ask your question here, but the Babeland contest is over and slave7 is the winner.

Hurry!  Buy your tickets now to see Felice Shays this weekend in her newest show, The Possibility of Response.  It’s playing two nights only, and Saturday night is already sold out.

Felice is really funny, especially if you are a Dyke or a Jew.  $15 at Dixon Place.

I know I have some readers here that know and use ASL and they will probably like this signed version of Womanizer as much as I do.

Vote in the National Kinkiest Komics Karacter Kontest: Kinkiest Kouple

I knew this. It is difficult to distinguish the face of pain vs pleasure.

Gloria Brame posted some hot dyke photos by Phyllis Christopher.

Jefferson is back to writing. This one’s about me.

Do you have a “single most favorite” thing to do as a top? How about as a bottom? If not, why?

One thing? Just one thing? I can’t just pick one thing. Like most questions, the answer is “It depends.” It depends on my mood and it depends on with whom I am playing. My scene at the Friday night LSM party incorporated some of my most favorite things: flogging, knife play, single tail and a little bit of caning. Another key ingredient is that the bottom enjoyed it as well.

March is Question Month. You can ask your question here. The contest is now over; slave7 is the winner.

You’ve heard about financial domination, right?  Well, I have a financial dominant.  It’s Mr. S.  Whenever I am in San Francisco, I can not stay away from the shop and I always spend money there.

So, of course, I went to Mr. S with Don Quixote.  I’ve had my eye on their Stainless Steel Ball Weights for a while now, so I had him try one on.  It is tightened with an allen wrench.  It’s not so easy to get in without pinching the skin, but there is a trick!  Bind the balls with a thin leather strip and then put it on over that and then take the strip of leather off.

I love this!  It’s pretty!  Made of shiny stainless steel; no nickel and no plating that can chip.  There are four sizes/weights.  We settled on the 1.5? inch model that is 1.5 pounds.  A nice weight he can wear for a while.  He knows it is there.  It can be worn as a weight – even under clothes. Or I can also attach the eye hooks to add more weight or use for bondage attachments.  I really love this and I look forward to playing with this lots.

I spent Thursday night in San Francisco at the Citadel.  I taught a class on Fantasy Role Play.  I also toured the club which is a well-appointed dungeon and sex club.

I’m envious that NYC does not have a place like the Citadel.  NYC no longer has a playspace where you can have sex. The NY State Safe Sex laws have sanitized our city in an effort to make it more safe.  It’s not really safer.  It’s just driven our BDSM sex parties underground and private.  BDSM sex is now less accessible here.  But that does not stop people from searching it out.  Inaccessability (and the shame associated with it) makes finding BDSM sex more dangerous.   Newsman George Weber turned to the Craig’s List to find BDSM sex.  He was murdered. Perhaps if there were BDSM sex clubs to go to in NYC, this would not have happened.

NY is trying to prevent sex.  They have shut down clubs like El Mirage and many professional dungeons.  They do this in the name of safety, but people will always search it out.  Abstinence doesn’t work.  We need our spaces to have sex safely.

Florio’s in Little Italy is one of the only restaurants where you can smoke in NYC these days.  It’s because it is technically a cigar shop that also has a bar and a restaurant.  The food is excellent and well-priced for what you get.  I had the veal paillard with broccoli rabe and it was delicious.  The people there were very friendly and the service was very good.

Boymeat with a big fat cigar.

Nayland and Thor with their cameras.

Luisa and DK were visiting from across the pond.

I taught a four hour Mummification intensive on Friday at IMsL and this is one of the works of art that the class did together.  It was a lot of fun!

I like to go to San Francisco. I like to meet some people there……………..