Lolita Wolf's Predictions & Predilections

I spent Thursday night in San Francisco at the Citadel.  I taught a class on Fantasy Role Play.  I also toured the club which is a well-appointed dungeon and sex club.

I’m envious that NYC does not have a place like the Citadel.  NYC no longer has a playspace where you can have sex. The NY State Safe Sex laws have sanitized our city in an effort to make it more safe.  It’s not really safer.  It’s just driven our BDSM sex parties underground and private.  BDSM sex is now less accessible here.  But that does not stop people from searching it out.  Inaccessability (and the shame associated with it) makes finding BDSM sex more dangerous.   Newsman George Weber turned to the Craig’s List to find BDSM sex.  He was murdered. Perhaps if there were BDSM sex clubs to go to in NYC, this would not have happened.

NY is trying to prevent sex.  They have shut down clubs like El Mirage and many professional dungeons.  They do this in the name of safety, but people will always search it out.  Abstinence doesn’t work.  We need our spaces to have sex safely.