Lolita Wolf's Predictions & Predilections

As a BDSM Sex Educator and Author, I don't just talk about it. I do it! And then I write about it.

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Bye bye, so long, farewell

June 5th, 2009 · No Comments

Felice Shays has been a part of the NYC scene for many years.  She worked hard as an educator at LSM, Babeland, TES and more.  She put a lot of sweat into revitalizing LSM and made ASL interpreting of our events there a priority.  She was always hosting play events like Submit.  A lot of people will miss her.  She’s moved to Portland.

Why would she move to Portland?  It’s a beautiful city, but Felice is such a New Yorker?  The answer is Venae!

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NYC Weekly Leather Dates: June 4-10

June 4th, 2009 · No Comments

Ten on hogtied.com

Thursday, June 4

Friday, June 5
DSF: “From The Bible Belt: Kinbaku-bi 21st Century” w/ Pastor Ken & Dr. Mattathias
NYC Munch

Saturday, June 6
Kinbaku-Bi 21st Century Exhibit
ClubFEM NYC Party

Sunday, June 7
MAsT Metro NY: “Creating your own Emergency Repair Kit for your Dynamic”

Monday, June 8

Tuesday, June 9
TES: “Invisible Service” w/ Lexi

Wednesday, June 10
TES Novice SIG: “The Art of Negotiation” with Goddess Coko
GMSMA: Annual Meeting + S/Mmer Vacation: Travel Toys www.gmsma.org

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A three hour tour

June 3rd, 2009 · No Comments

I love when out-of-towners come to NYC.  I get to do the touristy stuff like the CircleLine boat trip around Manhattan.  It’s been years since I’ve been on it and the tour has been updated with stories about Flight 1549 and other stuff.Rose and I enjoyed the sunny day and each others company.

Being on the water gives me a whole different sense of the city.  I especially love all the bridges.

Which reminds me.  I want to take the free IKEA water taxi and visit the Red Hook Ball Field Vendors again soon.

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Find Lolita – June 2009 and beyond

June 3rd, 2009 · No Comments

Dak Ramsey, Nash Lawler and Brock Armstrong on BoundGods.com

June 20 – NYC
Leather Pride Night: coordinating volunteers

June 24-29 – Northern MD
Leather Retreat: teaching Single Tails – The Epitome of SM and CBT In A Nutshell and coordinating Taste of Extreme

July 2-5 – Piscataway, NJ
TES Fest: coordinating the Celebrity Auction and teaching Rope Suspension for Bigger Bodies, The Erotic Impact of Spanking and Water Bondage 2

July 17-19 – Denver, CO
Thunder In The Mountains: teaching Decorative Bloodsports, The Dynamics of Co-Topping and Metal Bondage.

August 21-24 – Edison, NJ
Floating World: teaching King Tut’s Kink: Mummification, Stuff Yer Hole, and Power Flogging

October 23-25 – Chicago, IL
Kinky Kollege: teaching Kidz Rule and CBT in a Nutshell

October 30-November 1 – Washington, DC
Black Rose: teaching Co-Topping(w/Boymeat), CBT, and Decorative Bloodsports

February 26-28 – Dallas, TX
South Plains Leatherfest: teaching TBA

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Has the Scene Changed For Better or Worse?

May 29th, 2009 · No Comments

PPA SceneTalk Online Expert Panel Discussion: “Has the Scene Changed for Better or Worse?”
Join us for a Webinar on May 31
Space is limited.
Reserve your Webinar seat now at:
https://www2.gotomeeting.com/register/702431107
Join us on Sunday, May 31 at 9:00 pm ET for Power Play Academy’s  biweekly SceneTalk expert panel discussion. This week’s panel will tackle a topic that’s sure to provoke thought and diverse opinions:

“Has the Scene Changed for Better or Worse?”

The individuals addressing this question are four well-known names in BDSM education and advocacy:

* Jack Rinella
* John Warren
*  Lolita Wolf
* Auburn Goddess & Her Devious, Moderator

Audience participation is encouraged. You can submit questions when you register, or participate live during the session via  text chat or voice.

If you have a computer, an internet connection, and speakers, you can attend this event no matter where in the world you are. To participate by voice, you’ll also need a computer headset or microphone or a regular telephone.

NOTE: Please register under your scene name or a pseudonym if confidentiality is an issue and you wish to participate by voice. Your name will be visible to others when you’re speaking. You may also use text chat instead of voice for submitting questions and comments.

This session will be recorded for possible educational, promotional, or other use by PPA or the panelists. The identity of all attendees will be protected.

This is a free public service event but registration is required. In order to attend, you  MUST: 1) be over age 19 or of legal age in your state or country; 2) understand that this event will involve frank discussions and/or images regarding  alternative sexuality practices between consenting adults; 3) not find such content offensive; and 4) be legally permitted to view such materials where you live.

If you have questions or need assistance, please e-mail Help@powerplayacademy.org

Title: PPA SceneTalk Online Expert Panel Discussion: “Has the Scene Changed for Better or Worse?”
Date: Sunday, May 31, 2009
Time: 9:00 PM – 10:00 PM EDT
After registering you will receive a confirmation email containing information about joining the Webinar.

System Requirements
PC-based attendees
Required: Windows® 2000, XP Home, XP Pro, 2003 Server, Vista
Macintosh®-based attendees
Required: Mac OS® X 10.4 (Tiger®) or newer

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Midori in NYC

May 27th, 2009 · No Comments

Midori‘s in town!  Selina and I went to see her “Art of Sensual Feminine Dominance” class at the Museum of Sex last night.  Midori really knows how to teach to various audiences in a way that they can grasp the topic.  I came away with some fresh inspiration into my own play.

Afterward, we all went to Planet 212 for some Thai and sushi.  Very yummy!

You can catch Midori tonight teaching “Aural Sex: Seduction by Voice” or Thursday night teaching “JoyStick Secrets: How to Thrill a Man.”  Both classes are held at The Pleasure Chest.

Her next big adventure is the AIDS/Lifecycle Ride in California.  I have donated to support her.  You can donate, too!

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My past (Part 13)

May 27th, 2009 · 1 Comment

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Wednesday 5/27 – NYC – Hojojutsu w/ tomo

May 27th, 2009 · No Comments

Wednesday May 27

TES Bondage SIG
presents
“Hojojutsu-The Art of Tying the Non-Compliant” with tomo

Hojojutsu – Japanese martial art of securing a prisoner with rope. Ties attack air, energy, blood pathways – struggle means pain. We’ll cover safety, history of Hojojutsu and several ties. This is a hands on class. Bring rope (20’ twisted 1/8″ or similar). tomo will have rope to lend.

260 West 36th Street, 3rd floor, NYC
Doors open 7:30pm; meeting begins at 8pm
Members of TES and other BDSM groups $4; Non-Members $8

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Shibaricon

May 27th, 2009 · 1 Comment

I attended my first Shibaricon weekend and I had a great time.  I traveled and shared a room with Viviane and, once again, she proved herself to be a great travel buddy.

I went to a lot of classes and learned a lot of new ways to tie.  Almost all the classes had a lot of hands-on practice so we really got to do everything.  I went to Lee Harrington‘s beginner class with Viviane and she tied me up.  There were a lot of great riggers getting tied up in the beginner classes.

I also went to Tony Buff and Derek DaSilva’s class, One Rope, Two Knots, Three Ties.  When Tony Buff  asked for a demo bottom, I raised my hand and cried “Ooh ohh!” (just like Horshack).  It was a crazy fangirl moment and he picked me.  Swoon!   After that, I did some tying in their Partial Suspension Rigging For Play class.

My favorite classes were with Mike West.  That guy is hot and he really knows his shit and he is a very good instructor as well.  I learned a lot of neat things from him.  I also took a class with Scott Smith and did my first inverted suspension.

There were also some private teaching moments.  Julia showed me a couple of neat tricks that she learned from Mark Yu‘s class.  I taught someone else how to do various cock and ball bondage ties.  One funny moment was when I did a helicopter.  She was freaked out by this and worried about her partner.  I took one look and said, “Nah, look at how hard his cock got from that.  He liked that best of all!”  She looked at his big hard-on and was surprised yet very happy to see that.  Hard cocks don’t lie!

The dungeon was open three nights and had great bondage equipment. I played a lot.  I’ll most likely be telling some of those stories in a later post(s).

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Things I Loathe #6 (in no apparent order)

May 21st, 2009 · 2 Comments

There’s a group of us and we are sitting in a restaurant.  There is much camaraderie and everyone is having a good time.  And then a phone rings.

The phone is fished out of a pocket, the owner looks at the screen to see who it is and answers it.  Conversation at the table comes to a dead stop.  Well, all conversation except for the person on the cell phone.  We sit frozen in silence as the call goes on for too long.  It’s not like we are listening in, but people talk louder on a phone and we do not want to talk over the call.

I understand that the phone call may be important, but the one-sided call is dominating the table.  We wait.  I seethe.

This is just plain rude.  If you are sitting with a group and have to take a call, then just get up from the table and walk away with the call.  Let us continue our conversation.  We should not be subjected to this.  When you are done with your call, just come back and rejoin the conversation.

This has happened on more than one occasion and with different people.  When it happens again, I will interrupt and tell them to take it outside.

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