Lolita Wolf's Predictions & Predilections

Welcome to e[lust] – Your source for sexual intelligence and inspirations of lust from the smartest & sexiest bloggers! Whether you’re looking for hot steamy smut, thought-provoking opinions or expert information, you’re going to find it here. And in this edition you can read all about the best sexuality conference of the year (ever?), Momentum, in a one-time-only Editor’s Choice anomaly: I couldn’t choose just one, so I chose them all! Want to be included in e[lust] #26? Start with the rules and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!

~ This Week’s Top Three Posts ~

Where We Are – It was only supposed to be about the fucking. I don’t know how I convinced myself that it could be. I fretted before we began, about how I could ever possibly separate sex from emotion.

The Edible Slut – His hand made an audible crack as it connected with her ass, loud in the dim bedroom. Did he really sink his hand into her hair, turn her head to face him, and shout, “Stop being such a brat!”

Beyond Bisexual – I don’t identify as bisexual, because I am interested in so many more people than just two of the variety of sexes or genders out there. Except, that is a word that a lot of people understand.

~ Featured: Momentum Conference Posts (Lilly’s Picks) ~

An Extraordinary Gathering (and a Gathering of the Extraordinary)
Finally! A Real Momentum Post
Inspired by MomentumCon
#mcon Rehash
Momentum
Momentumcon, Part One

~ e[lust] Editress ~

To Be or Not To Be….Anonymous, That Is – If you’re out or decide to be out….you’re not just outing yourself. You’re outing them all. And did they give their consent? Probably not, I’d guess. And even if they did give their consent could they even have a clue what consequences there will be?

All blogs that have a submission in this edition must re-post this digest from tip-to-toe on their blogs within 7 days. Thank you, and enjoy!

Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

A Bump In The Road – A Swinger Party Goes Bad
Bridging the Gap (Between Swinging and BDSM)
con-sent
Eating Pussy
Jane Says: What Does Sex Feel Like For A Man?
Let’s talk about food
Safe Word
S&M And Abuse
The Rules, Revisited
The Wet Patch
Who Cares About Your Open Relationship
Where There’s Smoke…

Kink & Fetish

BDSM Advice: Nipple Clamps
bloodfucking
Communicating by touch
Consent [Violated]
Debasement
getting ready…
He mixed pleasure and pain, and my body responded to it all
Invitation
On Mentoring: Pain
Stolen
Safety Scissors
Topping From the Bottom: An Ode
Wantonly Restrained
You Can Make It Feel So Real

Erotic Writing

3. Wrath
Cunt Licking
Definition of Inspiration
Linger
Miss Me?
My Sex Life: The Journey Continues, Part 2
Silk Memories
Sexy Dance-Ing
teacher sweaters and the cock that haunts me
The Casino
The miseducation of Ms. Mullins
Wow. Confession #558
When I come
WWWednesday
You Want This

Sophie Monroe and Maestro on TheTrainingOfO.com

You never need them until you need them. And at some point, you will need them. Trust me, you will.

I needed them about 10 years ago with two bottoms who were tied up together. One of them got nauseous. I cut the rope in time so he wouldn’t throw up on her. Unfortunately, it was a dungeon with a really nice carpet, Yuck!

But, really, you usually never need them. It’s just a good idea to have them, just in case.

I was at an event recently. I had someone securely tied up to a chair. And I heard someone yelling, “Does anyone have safety scissors?” Mine were in the front pocket of my toy bag. I grabbed them and told my bottom to stay put. He wasn’t going anywhere and he was okay with me going. He may have even been happy that his balls would be getting a break.

I brought the scissors to the other scene. The bottom had passed out while tied in a harness to a cross. She was cut out of the ropes and I returned to my scene.

If you go to any rope class or read any rope bondage book, everyone emphatically tells you to have safety scissors on hand. They are cheap. We sell them at Purple Passion for $4.00. Other places sell them as well. You have no reason to not have them. (BTW I prefer the brightly colored handles so that you can locate them easily in a dark dungeon or a toybag filled with dark objects.)

Please own a pair of EMT safety scissors and carry them with you when you play. There may not always be another person around to help you.

I am here and having fun at the  annual 25th International Ms Leather weekend in San Francisco, CA. The big contest was last night. Sara Vibes of New York City is the new International Ms. Leather.  She totally rocked her speech and her fantasy. KD of Portland, Maine is the new International Ms. Bootblack. Congratulations to both of them!

This weekend is International Ms. Leather in San Francisco and, because I am International Little Miss Littles, they are letting me host a party! I’m so excited. Of course, I have lots of people helping me make sure it will be fabulous.

My Daddy Nayland wil be there making balloon animals. He says that he has gotten better at this and not everything will look like a cock and balls. I decided to give him a second chance.

My Daddy Faye (yes, I have two Daddies – I am a very lucky girl) is in charge of tail. We’ll play Pin The Tail on the IMsL Guess which IMsL is our Ponygirl.

Miss Jessica is bringing books and will read her favorite stories to us. We also have a bunch of coloring books and crayons in case you want to get artistic.

And my Uncle Niko Boy (aka Monica) went shopping so that we will have lots candy!

Everybody is invited! It’s happening Sunday at IMsL in the Hospitality Suite from 12:30 to 2:30pm.

Spanky at Folsom Street East 2008

Spanky passed away this week after a long battle with cancer. I met Spanky in the early 90’s when we were both active with National Leather Association. He was friendly, fun and a tireless volunteer.  I remember when he became the Northeast Drummerboy in 1993; there was a travel fund for Northeast Drummer but not for him and that struggle was the seed of his “boy” activism.

Spanky dropped out of the community for a few years but he came back and was more active than ever. He was Mr. New Jersey Leather 2008, a founder of Jersey boys of Leather, a member of Team Eagle, and was was involved in both The Imperial Court of New York and the Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence. He was also a very dedicated member and hard-working of the Leather Pride Night committee.

There will be two viewings on Saturday April 9 (2-4pm and 7-9pm) at Buckley Funeral Home, 509 Second Avenue, Asbury Park, NJ. Club Colors and Title vests welcome. Please no flowers, donations may be made in his honor to the Foodbank of Monmouth and Ocean Counties or to a charity of your choice.

A Memorial Celebration of his Life will take place the afternoon of Saturday, May 7 at Paradise in Asbury Park.

Spanky at Night Of A Thousand Gowns 2010

This brief bio was written by Gil Kessler and reprinted with permission.

August Kalin passed away in New York City on April 4, 2011 following a major stroke two weeks earlier. Augie was 55. He was born in Syracuse, NY and lived most of his life in the state. For the last 5½ years he lived with me in a wonderful Sir/boy relationship, both in New York City’s Greenwich Village and at our country home near Port Jervis, NY.

Augie was intelligent, creative, loving, and handsome. He was “harleyxr” on Recon, and had many dear friends. We first met at the 1993 March on Washington for Gay Rights when a group of us in leather left the hotel and passed this innocent waif standing on the corner. He asked if we knew where the Eagle was. “Come with us, little boy” was our response, and later in the evening I took him “home.” That began our friendship, culminating in Augie’s moving in with me in October 2005.

He had several careers, including managing a 12 million gallon petroleum bulk facility for Sunoco, working for the NYC Parks Department as a gardener, and reorganizing and running the offices of a Brooklyn construction company. He converted the second floor of our country garage into a large dungeon (including innovative equipment), and had many fun scenes there. He especially loved clothespins, bondage, flogging, and rubber, and his interest in photography leaves me with many wonderful pictures.

Augie was an avid motorcyclist, and rode all over the US. His first trip abroad was with me to London, then Costa Rica, then Turkey and Greece. Very favorite book: Lord of the Rings; favorite opera: Barber of Seville; favorite music group: ABBA; favorite classical music: Gil playing Rachmaninoff’s Prelude in C# Minor on the piano; beloved pet: Jake, the basset hound, still living upstate with Augie’s previous lover (and our good friend) Paul.

For many years, Augie was a member of GMSMA, Delta, and TES. He took the Novices SIG in 2005, then we shared the teaching of the course each year since. He took very good care of me (now I’ll have to even relearn how to cook!), and I will miss him so very much.

Augie is survived by his mother, sisters, and brother. He passed peacefully in hospice, his hand in mine.

Come and join the Bootblack Brigade at the historic Stonewall Inn (53 Christopher Street) in NYC on Saturday, April 9th from 7:00 – 10:00 PM for an evening to benefit the 25th anniversary of International Ms Leather.

It’s time to get your spring cleaning started and what better way than by having your leathers blacked by the amazing Bootblack Brigade. They will be there not only to shine you up but they’ll be tempting your taste buds with their world famous rum balls. And they’ll be happy to measure you inseam to boot or around the chest for a chance to win one of our many prizes in our raffles. They will be running raffles all night with prizes from Purple Passion DV8, JT’s Stockroom, La Chateau Exotique. Goodies donated from Laura Antoniou, Midori and Karen Taylor. There will also be a free registration for the 2012 IMsL contest raffled off!

They are doing all this and even more to help raise funds for the Bring an IMsL to IMsL Project where our history will be brought alive this year April 14th – 17th in San Francisco. IMsL is planning panel discussions with all of their International Ms Leather and International Ms Bootblack alumni about IMsL’s past, present and future; one-on-one interviews with each titleholder; an Alumni Party that welcomes each and every contestant for the last 25 years back to share their memories; displays of memorabilia, photographs, videos and articles; and more. Of course IMsL intends to cover all of this with high quality video and sound recordings so that it may be preserved for the future and shared widely with all of our communities.

Spruce up your boots and join us to celebrate 25 years of women’s leather history!

Welcome to e[lust] – Your source for sexual intelligence and inspirations of lust from the smartest & sexiest bloggers! Whether you’re looking for hot steamy smut, thought-provoking opinions or expert information, you’re going to find it here. Want to be included in e[lust] #25? Start with the rules, check out the schedule and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!

~ This Week’s Top Three Posts ~

Women, Swinging, and Seduction – From Meeting to Fucking in the Swinging Lifestyle: “My wife wants to drop out of swinging and instead have an open relationship…” announced a good friend of mine..

The Scent of a Woman (Or How I Learned to Stop Worrying and Love my Snatch): Years back, during a scene, I had my dominant lean in and whisper lasciviously that he could “smell my wet pussy” and I started to cry.

5 Kinky Toys from the Office Supply Store: If you’re a nerd like me, you find the idea of office supplies a little bit arousing already but Pet & I paid a recent visit with an even more focused purpose — finding the best pervertibles Staples had to offer.

~ Featured Post (Lilly’s Pick) ~

Two Fantasies in One: The sexting progressed from just spanking and fingering to fingering both my holes, to slipping a butt plug in to punish me for being a naughty girl. By the time Tuesday came around we were both very horny and on edge to get together.

~ e[lust] Editress ~

Ethics in Blogging: Ethics don’t always equal human kindness/respect for others. You can be a snarky, grumpy shit-stirrer but still be ethical. You can be sweet as pie on the outside and be unethical.

Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

Barriers
Being a Slut
Bush. Confession #556
Effects of Effexor
Honesty and Courtesy
#LadyPornDay
Master and Slave?
My Experiences with Porn
Question Month: #1
Thoughts on Porn by Holden
What if His Is Much Larger Than Mine? – His & Hers Perspectives on Cock Size And Swinging
Wet Pussy

Sex News, Interviews, Politics & Humor

Introducing the charity spanking anthology

Kink & Fetish

A Negotiated Spanking
Cuff Me to the Bed
Don’t Let Go
given
I Want In
Sexlopedia: Edge Play
Sex as a Tool
Sometimes
The cute checkout girl browsed my bare cleavage
Worth The Wait

Erotic Writing

Back to the scene of the crime
blood/lust [pt.one]
Deals
dirty me…
Hooray for Half Term
Honey, I’m Home
I Like Your Dream
Naughty Nurse Night At The Swingers Club
On Eating Pussy
Our Nectars
personal records
Returned
Short Dress. High Heels. Margaritas…
Sex With A Friend Part 1
Traditional Loving?
The fun of firsts
The Power of Seduction
We Begin With Talk Of Drink and Debauchery – Hazy Memories of Desire
Wet Wednesday

Princess Donna Dolore, James Deen and Mr. Pete on SexAndSubmission.com

Me and Lenny at Barbara Nitke’s Smooth Operator show, 2010

I just heard that Lenny Waller passed away. I met Lenny in the late 80’s when he was manager of The Vault in NYC.  Later he managed Hellfire. He had  served on the board of TES for a while, but that was before my time. He was a big supporter of Leather Pride Night, giving us donations and always attending and buying at the auction. His pet project was the AIDS Candlelight Vigil which he organized every year during Gay Pride weekend.

This week I will be teaching two classes in NYC

Tuesday March 29
Single Tails – The Epitome of SM
This sexy activity can range from delicate to cruel. Lolita will speak about using a whip for play, different types of whips, the physics of whip motion, buying a whip and the cleaning and caring of your whip. A demo will cover the dynamics of a whip scene from negotiation through aftercare.
7:30pm at TES at Joria Studios
260 West 36th Street, 3rd Floor, between 7th and 8th Avenues
$4 TES Members, Students, and other Leather/fetish organizations, $8 Non-Members

Thursday March 31
Erotic Rope Bondage 102: Body Harnesses
This class will cover a variety of body harnesses that are pretty as well as practical. These bondage techniques will work for all types of bodies and many different types of scenes. Bring two 30 foot lengths of rope with you, because in this class you will learn safely, in a hands-on manner. Bring a partner or find a match at the class! For real beginners, no experience necessary. The Bondage 101 class is NOT a prerequisite.
8pm at Purple Passion
211 West 20th Street, between 7th and 8th Avenues
$20 (and enjoy a 15% discount on shopping before or after the class)