Lolita Wolf's Predictions & Predilections

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Find Lolita – May 2008 and beyond

April 30th, 2008 · No Comments


Mark Davis and Charley Chase on sexandsubmission.com

Mark Davis and Charley Chase on sexandsubmission.com

May 1-5 – San Francisco, IL
International Ms Leather Weekend: teaching “The Erotic Impact of Spanking” and “The Greedy Pig Battles The Green-Eyed Monster” plus running The Celebrity Auction

May 17 – NYC
TES: teaching “The Erotic Impact of Spanking”

May 20 – Plainview, NY
LILNR: teaching “CBT in a Nutshell”

June 21 – NYC
Leather Pride Night: coordinating volunteers!

June 25-30 – Maryland
Leather Retreat: teaching TBA

July 4-6 – Piscataway, NJ
TES Fest: teaching TBA

July 25-27 – Denver, CO
Thunder In The Mountains: teaching “Hot Wax to the Max” and“Building Trust”

September 10-15 – Maryland
Dark Odyssey Summer Camp: teaching TBA

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NYC Weekly Leather Dates May 1 – 7

April 30th, 2008 · No Comments


Claire Adams, Sarah Jane Ceylon and Rico on meninpain.com

Claire Adams, Sarah Jane Ceylon and Rico on meninpain.com

Thursday, May 1

Friday, May 2
NYC Munch
DSF: “Painslut: Anatomy of a Masochist” w/ Anais Sin

Saturday, May 3
Pony Romp in the Park

Sunday, May 4
MAsT: Metro NY Meeting: “Maintaining the M/s Household When There’s Expansion or Change”
The Baroness’ Fetish Retinue Bondage & Mummification Theme
Cat O’ Nine Fetish Gala

Tuesday, May 6
TES: “Negotiating in the BDSM and M/s Arena: The Fine Art of Getting What You Want” w/ Dame Amanda

Wednesday, May 7
TES Relationship Group: “Single in the Scene”

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Sugasm #129

April 29th, 2008 · No Comments


Damon Pierce and Claire Dames on devicebondage.com

Damon Pierce and Claire Dames on devicebondage.com

The best of this week’s blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Highlighting the top 3 posts as chosen by Sugasm participants. Want in Sugasm #130? Submit a link to your best post of the week using this form.

This Week’s Picks
April Showers Bring May Flowers: Part II“As mentioned earlier, this is one of the biggest hurdles to overcome; this is also where mind over matter comes into play.”

Au revoir
“In the life of an eclectic slut, however, these are all warning signs.”

Ode to Anal: Why?
“Really, for me, it was the first, and one of my foremost, all encompassing sexual acts.”

Mr. Sugasm Himself
Soviet Erotica

Editor’s Choice
Catalina loves Real Women

More Sugasm
Join the Sugasm

See also: Fleshbot’s Sex Blog Roundup each Tuesday and Friday.

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My lips are sealed

April 29th, 2008 · No Comments


A NY Times article about how different states view marriage after one of the partners has transitioned. It all makes my head hurt.

Wednesday April 30 is 31¢ Scoop Night from 5pm to 10pm at Baskin Robbins. In addition, Baskin Robbins will donate $100,000 to the National Fallen Firefighters Foundation. I’ll be on a plane and will miss getting ice cream!

The Ex-Boyfriends rock out with their lead singer in some waterbondage. This music video was apparently shot at kink.com

Anita Wagner posts about Dating Status Buttons which can be in HTML or as real time buttons. I’m dismayed. I feel like even these terms are just too limiting for me.

KinkOnDemand has launched. Now there’s no need to buy a subscription to check out the kink.com shoots. Or maybe you have a subscription but are curious about another of their sites. Now you can just buy one shoot. And you get to download it and keep it to watch over and over.

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Two Lips

April 29th, 2008 · No Comments


Don Quixote bought me stockings from Sock Dreams! I never had anyone buy me intimate sexy stuff like that. Really. Okay, once before, at the Flea, he bought me panties with lace ruffles from Delicious Corsets. But he’s the first to buy me stuff like that. I think I am not really the type. You know, like a girly girl who wears fancy things like that. That’s not what I am. Well, not until now.

So, I laid out the six pairs for DQ when he came over. He chose the navy over the knee socks. I gathered them and then slowly slid them up my legs. He took my hand and put it on his crotch so that I could feel how hard he was. That made me feel sexy. I rolled around on the bed pointing my toes and kicking my feet. He watched intently and groaned. I laughed. And then he got out his camera. He began snapping pics.

“Oh my god! You’re taking pictures with one hand and jerking off with the other!” I exclaimed. “You are such a pervert!” I laughed.
“Spread you legs for me.”
I hesitated.
“Come on, hun, let me see.”

I opened up and he took some photos that will never be seen here. Ha!

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Relationship Creep

April 27th, 2008 · No Comments

Inopportune: Stage One by Cai Guo-Qiang

I am trying to keep this relationship with Don Quixote in that “Fuckbuddy” mode. It’s a lot of fun, it’s sexy and it’s easy. I don’t want or need it to “go anywhere.” I just want to enjoy. And I am having so much fun.

I think I sometimes go overboard in trying to keep it casual. My resolve cracked recently and now I have my own toothbrush at his place. It allows for oral hygiene for those times when I spontaneously wind up staying over. But I worry about the slippery slope.

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Leek-age

April 27th, 2008 · 2 Comments


I have no idea what is going on in this Fundoshi collection 2 video, but it’s got some hot man ass.

This is for Boymeat, because he really just needs to be gay.

The NY Post reports that that the pro doms at Hidden Chamber were offering sex in addition to SM.

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45 blocks

April 26th, 2008 · No Comments


Boymeat had told me that he was waiting outside the museum. I got there but didn’t see him. The line snaked around 88th Street and I followed it. I got on my cell.

“Where are you?”
“I’m right outside! Where are you?”
“I’m getting on line.”
“What line?”
“Wait! What museum are you at?
“MOMA.”
“Oh, we’re at the Guggenheim.”

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Morphing skyline

April 25th, 2008 · No Comments


Woman charged in bondage death of her husband. She left him alone for 20 hours. She claims it was an accident. 20 hours! How stupid!

I love this music video. It’s Hillary Clinton Taking Back The White House.

Here’s my favorite quote of the week from Kate Stine: Y’know what’s really weird? Flame wars among “alternative” lifestyle folks. They write horrible bitchy things – and sign off “Namaste!”

Another entry in the making art with plastic bags department. The Noguchi Museum is sponsoring an event where artists will teach you how to make a kite with recycled plastic bags.

The NYPD busts Hidden Chamber, a pro dom house in NYC.

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A date with Lumpo

April 24th, 2008 · No Comments

Photo by Lumpo

Poupon Toot agreed to another date with Lumpo. At first she did not want to see him. He was so pathetic last time. But Lumpo promised her that he had changed a lot since then. Poupon decided to give him a second chance.

Yes, Lumpo did change.

  • Lumpo wore a new tie. It was orange with polka dots and huge. Poupon thought this was a fabulous improvement until she saw that he was using the tie to hide the fact that he was playing with his cock. Ew!
  • Another spiffy addition to Lumpo’s outfit was a bright flower in his lapel. Upon closer inspection, Poupon noticed it was fake and most likely stolen from the yard down the street. Yes, Lumpo’s neighbor plants fake flowers. He lives in just that kind of neighborhood.
  • In an effort to be entertaining, Lumpo picked up a new skill. Balloon animals. But the only thing he could make was a cock and balls. His balloon cocks were big. But just like his own cock, they were not hard enough, they deflated quickly and with just a little vigorous activity, they exploded.
  • Finally, Lumpo got new shoes. Oooooh! Really fabulous shoes! Poupon Toot is a sucker for a fabulous pair of shoes.

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