Lolita Wolf's Predictions & Predilections

As a BDSM Sex Educator and Author, I don't just talk about it. I do it! And then I write about it.

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Halfway there

October 1st, 2008 · No Comments

Olga Cabaeva on publicdisgrace.com

Public Disgrace is the new site from the Kink.com empire and it features public bondage and humiliation. I am fascinated watching the reactions of passersby.

This whole Jefferson custody case is dragging out and costing a ton of money. Check out the update here and donate to the Sexual Freedom Legal Defense and Education Fund if you can. It’s tax-deductible.

The Village Voice lays off Tristan Taormino. I’m gonna miss her column.

Viviane went to the live taping at Ultimate Surrender and took a bunch of photos.

Art Obama is a silent auction Friday night in Brooklyn featuring works by over 100 artists including Nayland Blake. This benefit supports support the election of Barack Obama and down-ticket Democrats.

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Join Me for the Sexies Award Ceremony & Party- Saturday – NYC

October 1st, 2008 · 1 Comment

Come and celebrate the awarding of the first Sex-Positive Journalism Awards! The awards will be MCed by Lolita Wolf.

The first 100 attendees will get a gift bag of goodies from the Sexies sponsors. There will also be a silent auction and raffle to support the awards, which will include fabulous prizes including original art by Julio Aguilera, Sophy Naess, and David Steinberg; signed copies of books by winners, judges, and supporters; sex toys; gift certificates for sexy pleasures; and more!

Meet the judges and the winners. Judith Levine will talk about her experiences with media coverage of sexual topics when Harmful to Minors was released. Carol Queen will be there. See a full list of winners, judges and more.

The party will be Saturday October. 4, 6:30-9:30pm, in the downstairs lounge of Splash, 50 W. 17th Street, NYC. $5 cover.

Would you like to volunteer and get in free and be guaranteed a goodie bag? Volunteer shifts are only one hour. Contact Susan Wright at wrightnyc at aol dot com

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‘Splain me this

October 1st, 2008 · 2 Comments

Many of the events we go to give goodie bags to the presenters. This is always an appreciated gift. At Folsom Fringe, we got goodie bags that included a really nice SM Odyssey coffee mug, chocolate, etc. Also included were these rubber bands with safety pins. Boymeat and I were totally baffled. What was this for? Anybody know? Anyone care to guess?

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Boymeat’s Boots

October 1st, 2008 · 17 Comments

In our hotel room at Folsom Fringe.
Boymeat has sexy new Wesco boots.
Not so easy to get them off.

On the bus to Folsom Street Fair.
Luckily, he once again had help getting them off.

At Folsom Street Fair.
Even more lucky, there were some people who got off on Boymeat’s boots.

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Rosh Hashanah

September 30th, 2008 · No Comments

MAN WITH SCYTHE, 1934
Designed by A. Raymond Katz (active in the 1930s).
Fabricated by Drehobl Bros. Art Glass, Chicago.

AJ and I visited the Smith Museum of Stained Glass Windows and American Art at Navy Pier on my recent trip to Chicago and I took this photo.

Happy Jewish New Year!

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Sugasm #148

September 30th, 2008 · No Comments

Bobbi Starr and Kirra Lynne on whippedass.com

The best of this week’s blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Highlighting the top 3 posts as chosen by Sugasm participants. Want in Sugasm #149? Submit a link to your best post of the week by emailing me directly at radicalvixenatgmaildotcom

This Week’s Picks
People I could hang out with
“But it wasn’t just a story, it was a damn sexy story.”

Red, Hot Ass
“I grunted, but held still.”

Smart Girls Make Better Lovers
“Chicks with brains can make you scream.”

Mr. Sugasm Himself
Sugar Bank

Editor’s Choice
Sex Blogging and Writing for the Drawer

More Sugasm
Join the Sugasm

See also: Fleshbot’s Sex Blog Roundup each Tuesday and Friday.

Sex History
Right To Vibe

Erotic Writing and Experiences
A is for
Adult Party Games – Round One
Adventures in Digital
Balcony fun
The Dinner Party: Part I
Female Waxing
Frisson
Her Glorious Cunt
Lilly and the Construction Crew
Not So Complicated
Sex in Public on Road Trip Day 9
So Wrong….
The Waiting is the Hottest Part. Confession #140

Sex News, Reviews, & Interviews
Every Kind of Sex Available: Exploring The Limits of CyberSex
NYC Sex Bloggers 2009 Calendar

NSFW Pics, Videos & Audio
Impertinent Question: What’s the Kinkiest Thing You’ve Ever Done?
Study HNT

Sex Work
Sex Work and Compassion: Self Hating Client
The Sockjob Goddess Returneth…

Sex Advice
Libido in Older Women
Pregnancy BDSM
Try the Pelvic Slide Position for Maximum Clitoral Stimulation

BDSM & Fetish
A domestic fantasy
A man becomes a fucking machine
Not your usual gangbang.
Playing the scene
Sex Camp 2008: Fiiiiyuuuurrrr!!!

Sex Humor
Fantasy Friday: Ahoy, Matey!

Thoughts on Sex and Relationships
Autobiography of a Masturbator: Porn O’Graphicus, Part 4
Marriage Failure a Natural Success
Never submit to escort screening
Sex Shop Jitters
Ten Things I Find Extremely Sexy On Men – The Non-Physical Version
What I read at Dirty Words night
Why do I do This?

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Fucking and Flogging

September 29th, 2008 · 20 Comments

This is another Dark Odyssey story.

I saw Stew at Midnight snack on Thursday night. He gave me a big hug and a kiss hello. He’s really cute. We had met at camp last year. “I would love to try a flogging. Would you flog me?”

I looked at his big eager smile, and said,”Sure!”

We walked up to the dungeon together and stopped at my cabin to pick up some floggers. I did not bother asking him which ones he liked. He would have had no idea.

We picked a spot in the dungeon and I began to flog his back and his ass. I started with a light deerskin flogger. I used it lightly and told him that he could stop any time. I told him to pick a safeword.

He answered, “Pickle!”

“Pickle?” I laughed, “Pickle is a terrible safeword. It rhymes with tickle and if you said pickle, I may not hear it right and I may just start to tickle you.”

“Okay! Hot Sour Pickle!”

“Now, that is an excellent safeword.” I continued to softly flog him.

“Hot sour pickle!”

I stopped flogging him immediately. “Really???” I was shocked. I had been doing it so slowly and softly. I couldn’t imagine anyone safewording to that. “Hey, are you testing out your safeword?”

He laughed, “Yes, I just wanted to see if it worked.”

“Okay, it does. Don’t worry about it. Do you want to continue?”

“Yes, of course!”

I continued flogging him, slowly and gently and gradually building up. I read his body and could see that he was definitely not a masochist, But I was happy to introduce him to the experience.

When it was over, he asked if he could kiss me. I responded by kissing him. He was an excellent kisser and I enjoyed kissing him.

“Kissing you has made my cock hard.”

I reached down and put my hand on his cock. “Wow, that’s a beautiful cock.”

“I usually masturbate every day, but I haven’t come in two weeks. I promised Sandy that I would save it for tomorrow’s Bukkake party.”

“Wow, two weeks.” I held his cock tightly in my hand.

“Do you want to fuck for a little bit? I would have to stop when I get close.”

“Yes!” I ran off to get a condom and some lube.

The fucking felt good. And then just as it felt really good, he had to stop.

I had to respect a guy who keeps his promises.

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Bank junk

September 26th, 2008 · 1 Comment

On Wednesday I opened up a new bank account at WaMu.  On Thursday, they went under.

I’m in California now.

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NYC Weekly Leather Dates – Sept 25-Oct 1

September 25th, 2008 · No Comments

Derrick Pierce and Robyn Truelove on fuckedandbound.com

Thursday, September 25

Friday, September 26
Le Cercle des Dommes meeting
DSF: “D/s From Both Sides of the Leash ” w/ Lady Elaina
PARADISE LOST Vampire/Fetish Party

Saturday, September 27
The Equestrian Club at TES: “The Return of TEC” with Thrash
Rope Share
Submit party

Sunday, September 28
Kinky Jews: A History of Jews, Sex and Politics on the Lower East Side Walking Tour
Cat O’ Nine Fetish Gala
Suspension Play Party

Monday, September 29
Conversio Virium Meeting: “Acceptance and Relationships in BDSM” w/ Dr. Charley Ferrer

Tuesday, September 30
TES: “The Mistress Didi*’s Transcendent Trampling™ Workshop” with Mistress Didi

Wednesday, October 1
TES Dominant Men/submissive women’s Group: “D/S and Love will take you to New Heights an examination of Formal vs.Relaxed D/S”
Pleasure Salon

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Register to vote now!

September 25th, 2008 · No Comments

Are you registered to vote? Deadlines are looming. Do it now!

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