Thursday, February 18
CINEKINK NYC
TES Queer SIG: “Making It Last: Long-term Gay Master/slave Relationships” w/ david stein
Staten Island Kink munch
Alphabet Soup
Friday, February 19
CINEKINK NYC
LSM Presents: “Gendering Power: How to Spice Up Your Role Play” w/ Sinclair Sexsmith
DSF: “A Household with Two Masters and Several slaves” w/ Sir Eric & Lady Christie
SWITCH Women/Trans/Genderqueer BDSM Party
Saturday, February 20
CINEKINK NYC
Black B.E.A.T. Munch
Brooklyn Leather munch
TES Spanking Group: “For the love of Spanking” w/ Wes & Michele
TES Novice Excursion
TES Mardi Gras Party
SPAM 8yr Anniversary Disco Party
STIMULATE party: “The Post-Valentine’s Blood Massacre”
Sunday, February 21
Instigate NYC: “Film Presentation – Graphic Sexual Horror
New York Bondage Club
CINEKINK Awards Celebration and Afterglow Party
Fixe Fetish Party
Monday, February 22
CV: “Menace” w/ Rob
Coco De Mer: “The Art of the Joystick Salon” w/ Midori
Tuesday, February 23
TES: “Sex in the City” w/ Susan Wright
Coco De Mer: “The Art of the Joystick Salon” w/ Midori
Wednesday, February 24
TES TNG: “Flogging & Whips” w/ Bo
Coco de Mer: “Hands On Rope Bondage” w/ Midori
Maitresse Madeline, Isis Love, Dia Zerva, DragonLily, Kade, Derrick P., Ashley Fires, January Seraph and Zak Tyler on divinebitches.com
Tags: NYC Weekly Leather Dates
In the new proposals for the DSM-V, alternative sexual behavior has been depathologized. The American Psychiatric Association’s Paraphilias Subworkgroup’s DSM revisions acknowledge that you can be a fetishist, transvestite, sexual sadist or sexual masochist without having a mental disorder.
NCSF has worked very hard with its DSM Revision Project to make sure these changes take place, and will continue to strongly advocate for clear language of what exactly constitutes a mental disorder. Susan Wright liaisoned with the work group and supplied data that NCSF has gathered about the real-world discrimination and persecution that takes place against BDSM-fetish practitioners because of the DSM-IV-TR. The DSM Revision Petition was also extremely useful in generating comment from community members and mental health professionals urging that the current diagnoses be changed.
To see the proposed changes, go to:
http://www.dsm5.org/ProposedRevisions/Pages/SexualandGenderIdentityDisorders.aspx
Read the “Rationale” section under each diagnosis to see their thinking on the paraphilias. The work group makes it clear that “non-normative” sexual behavior is practiced by healthy people:
“The first broad change follows from our consensus that paraphilias are not ipso facto psychiatric disorders. We are proposing that the DSM-V make a distinction between paraphilias and paraphilic disorders. A paraphilia by itself would not automatically justify or require psychiatric intervention. A paraphilic disorder is a paraphilia that causes distress or impairment to the individual or harm to others. One would ascertain a paraphilia (according to the nature of the urges, fantasies, or behaviors) but diagnose a paraphilic disorder (on the basis of distress and impairment). In this conception, having a paraphilia would be a necessary but not a sufficient condition for having a paraphilic disorder.”
“These revisions will affect everything-child custody, job discrimination battles, and even help change the way society views us,” says Leigha Fleming, Chairperson and Director of Incident Response. “I think of all the people over the years who have had the DSM used as a tool of discrimination and punishment, and I’m proud of NCSF for continuing the fight to change it. This is the first step towards decriminalization of BDSM, which NCSF is pursuing with our Consent Counts project.”
The Paraphilias Subworkgroup is now reconsidering what constitutes “clinically significant distress or impairment in social, occupational, or other important areas of functioning” when determining a mental disorder. The DSM must make it clear that people do suffer distress and impairment because of the societal stigma against alternative sex, but that doesn’t mean they are suffering distress that is generated internally.
As part of the development process, the preliminary draft revisions to the current diagnostic criteria for psychiatric diagnoses are now available for public review and comment until April. Personal comments about discrimination and persecution are welcome additions to this commentary to continue to urge the work group to differentiate between sexual minorities and sex offenders.
Just as Norway recently joined Sweden and Denmark in removing consensual paraphilias entirely, NCSF continues to urge the complete removal of these paraphilias from the DSM. However like the incremental removal of homosexuality (to egodystonic homosexuality and then finally taken out in 1987) this is an important step for the BDSM-leather-fetish community.
NCSF needs your support to continue important projects like the DSM Revision Project that directly impact peoples’ lives. Please join NCSF to show solidarity! We do so much for very little money, and we need your help.
Tags: Activism & Politics
February 16th, 2010 · 1 Comment
With my birthday on February 20th and Nayland’s on February 5th, some friends have taken the opportunity to fete us together.
On Friday night Thor and Mud took us out to see The Enchanted Pig followed by an amazing dinner at Mario Butali’s Otto. What a great evening! Thank you!
On Saturday morning, Kathryn and Kerry surprised us with an amazing cake that they stayed up all night to make (chocolate with fondant icing and pervy figures). We feel the love. Thank you!
Tags: friends
British Lucky Paul has pissed off his neighbors. A zoning issue.
Michael The Artist won first place in the glamour category of a photo contest with this piece.
Deb Malkin is fat and fabulous.
An excellent interview with Graydancer.
PhinLi, my agency, has a newly designed website.
Tags: Links and Stuff
Thursday, February 11
Queens BDSM Munch
Night of the Queens
Friday, February 12
DSF: “Valentine’s Day BDSM Play party and Arabian Slave Auction”
Saturday, February 13
The AMAZON’s Atrium FEMDOM play Party NYC
Sunday, February 14
New York Bondage Club
Impact Party
Monday, February 15
CV: “Making Rope Your Own” w/ Sebastian
Tuesday, February 16
TES: “What’s Your Poly?: a Panel on Polyamory” hosted by sub button
CINEKINK NYC: “Kick-off Gala & Fundraiser”
Wednesday, February 17
CINEKINK NYC
TES Bondage SIG: “Mixing Rope Bondage and Sex” w/ Lolita Wolf
Van Darkholme, Devin Moss and Chad Rock on boundgods.com
Tags: NYC Weekly Leather Dates
February 9th, 2010 · 2 Comments
Novice Rope Share
Men, Women, Trans, Welcome!
In this workshop we will go over the fundamentals of rope. We will teach basic ties, rope aesthetics, and rope safety.
Participants must be over 18yr.
Date/time: Saturday, March 6th at 1pm.
Location: Greenwich St.
(btwn Rector and Carlisle; three blocks south of the WTC site)
Specific building number will be emailed upon registration.
$25- per person
Instructor: Lolita Wolf
Assistant instructor: V
The Rope Share is a bondage workshop that is structured to fit your skill levels and interests. There is one highly skilled rope instructor and one teaching assistant. The attendance will be limited to 12 students.
This month’s Rope Share workshop is a concentrated class for the beginner/novice. The instructor will teach you the basics of safety, negotiations and the elemental ties needed to start your bondage exploration.
This is a lab-environment setting and we will practice on one another. Please be open to both tie and be tied for the sake of education. Please wear comfortable clothing as there is no nudity during the class.
Bring Rope: 4 lengths of 25ft. rope; 2 lengths of 50ft.; and safety scissors. Cotton, nylon, hemp, and jute are all fine.
To sign up, send an email to RopeShare@gmail.com
Title the subject line as “Novice Rope Share Sign Up” and include the following information in your email:
- Your name (Scene name or legal)
- Contact number and email address
- Rope bondage experience and skill level ( Please be brief)
- What you are interested in learning
- How you heard about this workshop
Sign up now as places are expected to fill quickly! Beginners to advanced rope players are all welcome!! If you have never tried rope before, but are curious, this is a safe space to share and learn rope bondage.
Lolita Wolf discovered the BDSM scene back in the late 80’s when “online” meant being on the phone sex lines. She is an activist who defends the sexual freedom for all consenting adults, spreads the word about BDSM, sex and poly, and helps the community grow and flourish. Yet, her goal remains “to have fun.” Lolita has learned skills Midori’s Rope Dojo and many other instructors at Shibaricon and many other events. Lolita has taught workshops for organizations and events across the country. She is well-known for a fun and entertaining style. She is co-facilitator of the TES BondageGroup. Lolita is an Emeritus Board Member of of both TES and Leather Leadership Conference. She is a former Chair of Lesbian Sex Mafia, an honorary member of GMSMA and an Associate Member of New York boys of Leather. She is active with National Coalition for Sexual Freedom and Leather Pride Night. Her writing has appeared in On Our Backs and Prometheus magazines and she has authored two books: Spanking and CBT in a Nutshell. Her website can be found at http://leatheryenta.com/
Tags: Bondage
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Drop and Aftercare, A Discussion
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Erotic Zen: Masturbation Fantasies
Fantasy Vs Reality in M/s
Four kinksters, a wealth of toys
Spanking Story: Head of House
The Kink Club Dinner
The Devil Is In The Details
The Last Chip
Erotic Writing
A Surfer’s Story
Across a Crowded Room, Part 3
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Saturday with my Sweetheart
Sex Behind the Wheel (#5)
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The Slut Chronicles #12 ~ The Bar
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Sex News, Interviews, Politics & Humor
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Divorce
Hard Time Getting Wet
Hindsight
I Can’t Get No Contraception. Part 5
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Kegel Magic – For Men As Well As Women
Kyle’s Visit – Collaring My boy
One Year: The Story of My Rape
Swing Shift Volume 29- Maintaining Balance
Swallowing is overrated
The Tiger Way to Sex Rehab
Lorelei Lee, Vanessa Naughty and John Henry on sexandsubmission.com
Tags: e[lust]
An interview with HOM legend John Blakemore.
Psychology Today says that pornography is good for you.
CineKink NYC, running February 16-21, has all the details up!
Susan Sarandon spanking pigs at a concert.
Mistress Matisee interviews Kate Bornstein about how to do the wording for women’s parties.
Tags: Links and Stuff
Thursday, February 4
The Baroness‘ Fetish Retinue
Friday, February 5
NYC Munch
DSF: “Predicament Bondage” w/ Dov
Paradise Lost party
Saturday, February 6
NYC TNG General Munch
Sunday, February 7
MAst:MetroNY: “Life’s Lesson: Tears to Triumph…This is our story” w/ Master Steve & slave tami
New York Bondage Club
Monday, February 8
CV: “Japanese Rope Bondage” w/ Sebastian
Tuesday, February 9
TES: “”Strap-on Startup” w/ Mistress Clarissa
Wednesday, February 10
TES Novice Group: “Love in the Scene – From Poly to Monogamy”
fuckingmachines.com
Tags: NYC Weekly Leather Dates
I went to a Chemistry party with a friend. While I want to be prepared for anything that came our way, I did not want to schlep a lot of stuff with me.
I decided to take my shiny red patent For Your Nymphomation Adult Toy Box. It’s a nimble 12″ x 9″ and holds a lot of stuff. Very cute!
Here’s what I packed inside it:
With a kit like this, I was prepared for many sexy possibilities!
Tags: Reviews & Recommendations · Toy Reviews
