Lolita Wolf's Predictions & Predilections

J.K. Rowling says that Dumbledore is gay.

For my friends who like chastity games: TimeLock.

Walgreen’s is opening a store around the corner from me. This should not be noteworthy, but there’s already a Duane Reade one block north and a Rite-Aid one block south and a CVS one block east. Enough already! These chains are messing up my neighborhood.

So, you know I got fucking Halloween on my brain now. What the fuck am I going to wear?

The Village Voice awards the title of “Best sex-toy shop for sniffing leather” to Purple Passion. Yay! And Purple Passion is also on Gridskipper’s map for New York’s Classiest Sex Shops.

You know I am a macaroni and cheese freak. Well, I finally made it to S’MAC. I had the Brie with shitake mushrooms, figs and the bread crumb topping. It was yummy. I would go back.

Last night I went to The NYC Clown Theatre Festival where New York Downtown Clown was hosting the Clown Olympics. I got there and they asked me if I was entering. I never even thought of that. It would be an amazing goal for next year. But for this year, being in the audience was a lot of fun. There were four events but you did not have to enter them all: Solo Trips and Falls, Duo Slapstick, Eccentric Dance and Kiddie Pool Synchronized Swimming. I laughed a lot.

So, NYDC has monthly skill based workshops for clowns – not for people who want to learn how to be a clown but for people who already are clowns. So, who decides if somebody is already a clown or if they are just a wanna-be clown? Is there some kind of clown certification? Will I be rejected by the clown community if I just show up? I mean, I do have the outfit so I could make the dress code.

So, wait a second. This all seems oddly familiar. Oh, yes, here it is… On Tuesday, TES will host an evening where Sir Stephen and Soulhuntre will debate the idea of Master Certification:

Can we define what makes one a Master? Does that title have to be earned? If so, who decides when it is earned? Can we define what a Master is in any way that does not exclude someone who deserves the title? Questions such as these elicit a passion response within the BDSM community. Recently Sir Stephen has been trying to formulate explicit criteria for what makes one a “Master”. He will debate Soulhuntre on the very idea of defining Mastery as well as the specific criteria that he has proposed.

I’m definitely going to go to that TES meeting. It will be a lively discussion, I’m sure.

Last weekend Jack Rinella spoke about polarity and how that enhanced power exchange. Now, Jack explained that usually his thoughts are not original, but that he will structure and present certain ideas in a different way. Sometimes I agree with Jack and think he is brilliant; other times I think he’s wrong and that he is a dweeb. Either way, I do like the guy a lot.

So, enough about Jack. I want to talk about polarity. Why would a bottom be a lowly, worthless worm? Why would a top be superior and up on a pedestal and worshipped? Why is it so hot when the Princess dominates the janitor? Or when she goes slumming and kisses the maintenance man? Because polarity is hot. Like the attraction of magnets that click together and must be pried apart. Like two posts on a stun gun where the electrical arc jumps from one post to the other. And the further apart those posts are, the bigger the arc has to be in order to jump from the one post to the other. So the bottom is degraded in status and the top is elevated. Here we have two people who play roles and redistribute the power to create a polarity, which is really exciting. Hot, hot, hot.

But, wait! This is not the green light for people to now write me and tell me that they are not worthy. No, that is not attractive to me at all. In fact, it is a huge turn-off. Am I confusing you? Does it sound like I am of two opposing views here? No, no, no. The polarity – the power imbalance – is an artificial creation between two equals. It’s a fantasy that is acted out. And we both know that the reality is that we are equals and we are smart, fun, sexy and have lives.

Thank you to the anonymous person who gave me the gold star.

Here’s a good reason to schlep to Asbury Park this weekend: New Jersey Leather Weekend and the Mr & Ms New Jersey Leather Contest.

Did you have any idea what you were sitting on?

Interviews from New York Leather Weekend will be featured on this Tuesday night’s Colbert Report with Stephen Colbert on Comedy Central at 11:30pm EST on a segment called “Balls for Geriatrics.”

Forecast: Sex and Marriage With Robots by 2050 or fuckingmachines.com NOW.

Congratulations to John Weis, Mr East Coast Rubber 2007! JoeMyGod reports on the drama when they gave the sash to the wrong guy.

I am back from North Carolina. Highlights from the trip:

1. I had a really hot scene with a woman who may move to NYC soon. Yum yum!
2. Meeting Boymeat‘s buddy, Kathryn.
3. Eating cheese ‘n eggs at Waffle House.
4. Jack Rinella claiming that he is too wimpy to bottom to me and that I should put that in my blog with a link.

My other book/DVD is now finally available from Amazon, too!
CBT in a Nutshell by Lolita Wolf

I love being a New Yorker! And our subway system rocks!

Drew is a hot, trans-friendly gay man looking for a demo bottom for Chain Bondage in Philadelphia on November 3rd.

Funny video of the day: Larry Craig, but very funny.