Lolita Wolf's Predictions & Predilections

As a BDSM Sex Educator and Author, I don't just talk about it. I do it! And then I write about it.

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NCSF Action Alert – The Advocate

December 22nd, 2012 · No Comments

Please contact The Advocate and protest their removal of their Op-Ed by Jill D. Weinberg entitled “Kink as The Next LGBT Rights Frontier: Why handcuffs and submission may lead to even more LGBT liberation” posted on December 17, 2012. The comments were very negative against kinky people and demanded The Advocate remove the Op-Ed because […]

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Tags: Activism & Politics

e[lust] #41

November 23rd, 2012 · No Comments

Welcome to e[lust] – The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at e[lust].  Want to be included in e[lust] #42? Start with the newly updated rules, come back December 1st to submit […]

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Midori in NYC

October 18th, 2012 · 1 Comment

 Midori’s coming to NYC and it’s a whirlwind visit with lots of events. There’s always something for everyone. Wed 10/24  “Kinesthetic Rope: Dynamic Movements to Revolutionize Your Play” Thurs 10/25  “Bawdy Luxe Sexy Storytelling”    Mon 10/29 “Real Life Protocol & Etiquette: The 4 Environments w Laura Antoniou & Midori” Tue 10/30 2pm-6:30pm “Afternoon Oasis of Pleasure: Play, […]

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Tags: BDSM · events · NYC

Dirty Secrets

September 25th, 2012 · 1 Comment

Dirty Secrets Sexual Portraits by Michael Rosen  Curated by Kymara Lonergan Exhibition Dates: September 28 to 30, 2012   Opening Reception: September 28; 7 to 9 pm Please RSVP at Eventbrite for the Opening Reception   in the old Prince Street Basement Gallery 127-B Prince Street, NYC   Michael Rosen, who has been documenting the sexual underground […]

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Tags: Art & Culture · BDSM · events · NYC

e[lust] 40

September 24th, 2012 · No Comments

Welcome to e[lust] – The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at e[lust].  Want to be included in e[lust] #41? Start with the newly updated rules, come back October 1st to submit […]

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Janet’s Magical Toybag

September 4th, 2012 · 1 Comment

I’ve known Janet since the early 1990’s. We go to a lot of the same events and hang out with some of the same people. But it’s only in the last year or so that we have begun playing with each other. She’s a bit of a masochist, who always shows up with her own […]

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Tags: BDSM · Scene Report

Consent as Torture

July 31st, 2012 · 4 Comments

Months before the event, GlitterGrrl wrote to me, “Are you coming? Want to play with me?” “Of course!” I answered and we agreed to a Saturday night playdate. Nothing more was said at the time. It was understood that we had both just made the commitment that something would happen and that it would be […]

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Tags: BDSM · Scene Report

The Danger of Self Bondage

May 30th, 2012 · No Comments

Bondage is usually very safe when you do it with another person. We hear of very few deadly accidents when people play with a partner. Here’s the story about Matt who thought he would be safe playing by himself. He died. Doing bondage by yourself is dangerous.  Please don’t do it. I’m sad to write […]

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Tags: BDSM · Bondage

Money and Presenters

May 11th, 2012 · No Comments

There’s a lot of discussion going on about money and presenters. See Mollena and Andrea Zanin, who both posted this week and have sparked many discussions on their blogs, Fetlife and elsewhere. I teach quite a bit as you can see on my teaching page. Sometimes I get expenses plus a payment. Sometimes I just […]

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Tags: BDSM · events · travel

Q&A Number 3: Childhood BDSM Fantasies

April 19th, 2012 · 1 Comment

Q.  OK as a kid I read this bizarre sci-fi comic story in Judge Dredd…the 22nd Ctry NYC cop…the story was called ‘The Stupid Gun!’ It was about 2 futuristic criminals who steal a ‘ray gun’ that could completely wipe clean a persons brain, reducing them into the IQ of a baby…happily drooling, real ‘goo-goo’ […]

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