Lolita Wolf's Predictions & Predilections

The Leather Archives & Museum (LA&M) is committed to collecting, preserving and providing access to the contributions, experiences, and histories of women in leather, BDSM, fetish, and related lifestyles. The Women’s Leather History Project (WLHP) represents the LA&M’s ongoing commitment to making the diverse voices of women in leather visible and heard. The WLHP will collect artifacts, stories, and other items that represent the experience of all women (straight, gay, bisexual, transsexual, transgender, women of color). The resulting collections will be featured in future exhibitions at the Leather Archives & Museum.

Please join the WLHP and the LA&M and ring in the New Year by becoming a part of this urgent and very important project of collecting and protecting Women’s Leather History!

The WLHP is a multi-year project. Our target fund-raising goal for 2010 is $10,000, and we hope to collect an additional $2,500/year for each additional year. Donations to the WLHP will only be used for program items related to the collection and exhibition of women’s leather history at the LA&M. Your donations will fund the hiring of a professional curator, the creation of museum exhibits at the LA&M, and the acquisition and storage of women’s leather resources including:

• • Papers
• •Video recorded interviews
• • Personal histories—oral, film, and written
• • Art and visual resources
• • Media—books, magazines, films, and digital media
• • Artifacts—organizational and personal

Spearheading the WLHP for LA&M will be Sarah Humble and Leigha Fleming. Says Humble, “I am so excited to be involved in leading this project. I have my video recording equipment ready. It’s so important that as women we take the lead in collecting and preserving our own histories!”

Says Fleming, “We will be present at events, scheduling interviews and soliciting donations to make this project a reality. Vi Johnson & Jill Carter have become our first individual donors and SouthEast Leatherfest has become our first event donor.

We will begin accepting donations for this exciting public history project on January 1, 2010. The Leather Archives & Museum is a 501(c)3 charitable organization, therefore any contribution you make to this project is tax deductible in accordance with IRS regulations. Donations can be made via the LA&M website or by mailing a check/money order to: Leather Archives & Museum 6418 N. Greenview Avenue, Chicago, IL 60626. Please mark your contributions “women” or “WLHP.” If you have any questions, please email women@leatherarchives.org

You can visit the Women’s Leather History Project on the LA&M website.

Don Quixote and I ate dinner at the Empire Diner with an old friend of his. I had the grilled salmon, he had the chili and the friend had guacamole. The waiter had the same snotty attitude that most Empire Diner waiters throughout time seem to have. But the food was good and the conversation was lively.

Both the chili and the guacamole were served with chips. As DQ picked up the last chip on his plate, I took it from him, “I want your last chip,” I announced and bit into the crunchy goodness.

The friend had many chips left on her plate and offered me some of hers. “No, thank you, I just wanted his last chip.”

She then offered her chips to DQ. I waited to see if he would accept her offer. He didn’t think about it too long. “No, thanks,” he said.

He’s so smart. He knew I wanted his last chip.

Thursday, January 28
Alphabet Soup

Friday, January 29
TES-TNG: “Rope Share”
TES College Night Toga Party
Paradise Lost

Saturday,  January 30
Rope Share
Submit

Sunday,  January 31
New York Bondage Club
NYC TNG Party Night
Suspension party

Monday,  February 1
One of the Most Important Tests You’ll Ever Take
CV: Erotic Writing as a Tool for Seduction and Negotiation with Jack Stratton

Tuesday, February 2
TES: “Punishing Holds: Dominant Wrestling Holds to Learn and Enjoy” w/ Damien TD & VeVe

Wednesday,  February 3
TES “TEC@TES: Blue Ribbon Round-Up”

Mickey Mod, Maitresse Madeline, David Chase, Madison Young
and Martin Lorenzo on divinebitches.com

Yes, those are bells sewn onto my chest. I was at Southwest Leather Conference this past weekend and participated in the Dance of Souls, where some people have bells and ornaments sutured onto their bodies and others have hooks embedded which are then pulled. There is a group of about seven drummers who contribute to the energy.

I very much enjoy how SWLC with it 530 attendees, educational classes, vendors, contests and dungeon parties combines BDSM, Leather, Master/slave dynamics and the deep woo woo of many spiritualites to make this event feel so different from any other major regional conference in the country.

Fetish Ball
Saturday January 30
9pm
DJ Bill Coleman
Go-Go Torez

$10/$6 (Center Members/Before 10pm)
Fetish attire $6 all night!

208 West 13th Street
212-620-7310
www.gaycenter.org

Dance:208’s Fetish Ball returns with the rockin’ nasty beats of DJ Bill Coleman (Eagle, Sugarland, G Lounge, Bootleg, The F Word) and remixer of everyone from Cazwell, Colton Ford, Ultra Nate, Amanda Lepore, Daisy Spurs). Bill has spun Fetish for us before and there’s a reason why…if anyone can get you movin’ in your gear, he can! The Fetish Ball brings together all parts of the fetish community to dance, sponsored by NY Leatherman among others!

This will certainly be another wild and funky evening, celebrating everything kinky and freaky with live performers and go-gos while you dance.

Get ready to serve and be served!

The Lust Chronicles Anthology is edited by Rachel Kramer Bussel and features one of my stories. Now, in addition to being available as an audio book and an ebook, you can get it as a regular paperback book.

“Rachel Kramer Bussel has created her own type of erotica. An earthy, true-to-life style that draws her readers in and keeps then focused until the very last word”—Alison Tyler The Lust Chronicles takes readers inside the minds of men and women who know how to get their kink on. Fantasies are fulfilled as they go to orgies, join the Mile High Club, seduce sexy strangers and do all the naughty things they’ve always wanted to try. In “Luke Lushious,” Lolita Wolf attends a summer sex camp and finds the man of her dirtiest dreams, while Alex M. Quinlan learns “The Consequences of Complaint.” Here you’ll find an ode to older women, lust for a girl in a fedora, one woman’s love affair with public sex, and several passionate paeans to the lovers you just can’t forget. Readers will identify with their cravings for over-the-top sex, and get off along with the narrators as they recount every last intimate detail. Proving that truth is far hotter than fiction, the Lust Chronicles authors bare all, letting you live vicariously through their steamy, 100% true stories.”

Thursday, January 21
Staten Island Kink Munch

Friday, January 22
DSF: “BDSM Party and the Speed Dating Game”

Saturday, January 23
Rope Share
Paddles Black Party

Sunday, January 24
New York Bondage Club

Monday, January 25
CV: “I Love You, You’re Perfect, Now Hurt Me” w/ Mistress Coraline

Tuesday, January 26
TES: “TES Hands On Fun”

Wednesday, January 27
TES Switchables Group: “Humor in the scene”

Cherry Torn and Sarah Shevon on theupperfloor.com

January 22-24 – Phoenix, AZ
Southwest Leather Conference: teaching “The Dynamics of Co-Topping“ and “How To Be A Greedy Pig”

January 28 – online class
Power Play Academy: teaching: “How to be a Greedy  Pig–Let Me Count the Ways”

January 29 – NYC
TES TNG Rope Share: teaching rope

Feb 5-6, Columbus, OH
Winter Wickedness: teaching “Kidz Rule – Age play for consenting adults” and “The Greedy Pig Battles the Green-eyed Monster”

February 15 – online class
Power Play Academy: teaching “The Greedy Pig Deals with Issues”

February 17 – NYC
TES: teaching “Mixing Rope Bondage and Sex”

February 16-21 – NYC
Cinekink: judging short films

February 26-28 – Dallas, TX
South Plains Leatherfest: teaching “Look Ma, No Rope!” and “Power Flogging“

March 6 – NYC
Rope Share: teaching

March 8 – online class
Power Play Academy: teaching “The Greedy  Pig Battles The Green-Eyed Monster”

March 18 – NYC
In The Flesh: reading

March 20 – Albany, NY
APEX: teaching “Kidz Rule – Age play for consenting adults” and TBA

March 25 – online class
Power Play Academy: “How to be a Greedy Pig–Let Me Count the Ways”

April 10-11 – NYC
Rope Dojo: assisting

April 15-18 – San Francisco, CA
International Ms. Leather: teaching TBA and coordinating the Celebrity Auction

May 28-31 – Chicago, IL
Shibaricon: teaching “Cock and Ball Bondage“

July 2-5 – Piscataway, NJ
TES Fest: teaching TBA

September 3-6 – Silver Spring, MD
Master/slave Conference: teaching and judging Northeast Master/slave Contest

I am also available for private lessons. Contact me if you are interested.

Princess Donna and AnnaBelle Lee on wiredpussy.com

The board and judges of the Sex-Positive Journalism Awards are proud to announce the winners of the 2009 Sexies. Selected from about 100 entries (not counting multiple nominations of the same piece!) submitted by both writers and readers, the winning entries cover subjects from teen pregnancy to conjugal visits, vaginal plastic surgery to prudish responses to public art. The winning articles come from all across the United States and Canada, and represent a range of genres, from news to advice columns.

What they all have in common, however, is that they succeed in embodying the Sexies criteria for sex-positive journalism far better than the vast majority of their counterparts, helping to improve the quality of dialogue around sex and create a more well-informed reading public. “Without clear-eyed, informed journalism about sexuality, the public runs the risk of seeing sex-related issues through a murky scrim of ignorance and biased attitudes. The Sexies help show the media—and the citizenry—how it can and should be done,” says Carol Queen of the Center for Sex and Culture.

The first-place winners are:

• Mainstream News Sources (Newspapers/National News Magazines/TV Station Print Affiliates: “Plastic Surgery Below the Belt,” Laura Fitzpatrick, Time Magazine,
• News/Features (Alt-Weeklies, Monthlies): “Growing Up Glouster,” Rachel Baker, Boston Magazine
• Columns: Carnal Knowledge, JoAnn Wypijewski, The Nation
• Opinion: Tie: “A Poverty of Solutions,” Judith Levine, 7 Days, and “The Great Porn Misunderstanding,” Michael Bader, Alternet

Here’s the list of all the winners, with links to online versions of their stories where available, and comments from the judges. All entries were read by at least two members of the Sexies judges panel, including at least one with a journalism background.

The judges were: writer, speaker, educator and activist Carol Queen, PhD; journalist Kai Wright; journalist and 2008 Sexies winner Debbie Nathan; journalist Liza Featherstone; journalist and radio host Doug Henwood; journalist and 2008 Sexies winner Amanda Robb; sex educator and columnist for The Kinsey Institute for Research in Sex, Gender and Reproduction, Debby Herbenick, PhD, MPH; and writer, editor, and blogger Rachel Kramer Bussel. (Full bios.)

A note about the sex-themed publications category: After careful consideration by our judges, we have decided not to give awards in this category this year. The judges felt the quality of the submissions did not measure up to the work submitted last year. We started the Sexies primarily to give mainstream journalists encouragement and support for covering sexual topics in unsensationalistic honest fashion. We added this category to give some recognition to folks in the trenches who are writing for publications that devote themselves to this topic. We are immensely grateful to those writers and those publications, and yet we feel that when writing about sex is expected and not an achievement in itself, to be award-winning, a story must really push our boundaries and be risky and challenge even the assumptions of the sex-positive community. We look forward to receiving more pieces in that vein in the future. We know they’re out there!

Thanks all the writers and readers who sent in entries (and apologies for the various delays). We encourage all of the writers who entered or were nominated to keep up their crucial work. Submissions for the 2010 Sexies (for articles published in 2009) are open and they will be accepted through June 2010 at www.sexies.org/submit.php.

The Sexies would also like to thank our corporate sponsors, Babeland (founding sponsor), UltraVirgo Creative, and all of our individual donors. It’s not too late to become part of that sex-positive number: www.sexies.org/support.html.

You can hear Axe interview me on his podcast.  We talk about a lot of things.  Very fun!