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Get involved with Leather Pride Night!

June 11th, 2010 · No Comments

The 27th annual Leather Pride Night Auction will take place on Saturday, June 19th, 2010. This year the festivities will be at Splash! at 50 W. 17th Street. SPLASH!’s doors will open for LPN at 6:00 PM, and the auction will run from 7 PM until 10:00 PM.

Leather Pride Night is sponsored by nine NYC S/m-leather-fetish organizations:
Imperial Court of NY, Iron Guard BC, Lesbian Sex Mafia, MAsT Metro NY, MetroBearsNY, New York boys of Leather, Onyx NY, Pariah’s MC, The Eulenspiegel Society and many committed individuals.

About 600 people attend LPN and roughly 150 of them are volunteers that help out with the event in one way or another.  Most volunteer slots during the event are only one hour which is a short time for a four hour event.  Volunteering enhances your experience of LPN ands gives you a chance to be part of the action and to meet people.

This year, Leather Pride Night will donate the 2010 Auction proceeds to: The National Coalition for Sexual Freedom, National Leather Association International Domestic Violence Project, Friends In Deed, Ali Forney Center, and as is customary, an annual donation to Heritage of Pride, the producer of New York’s annual Pride March.

Tickets for Leather Pride Night are $15 in advance, and $20 at the door. Because this is a fundraiser, everybody pays (even me and the other committee members). If you need a scholarship, let me know and I will send you a ticket at no cost.

Here’s where we need help:

Unload Storage with Sigrid, Tip et al, Noon-1:30pm
four people

Load in Splash with Sigrid, Tip et al, 1-2:30pm
one person

Location Set-up with Grant, 1- 3pm
four people

Literature, raffle and silent auction tables Set-up with Grant, 3-4pm
one person

Setup the Raffle Table with Sigrid, 3-5PM
one person

Auction Setup with Cubby, 2-6pm
three people

Silent Auction Set-up 4:30-6pm
one person

Silent Auction with Alan Esq and Jiffe
8-9   one person
9-10  three people

Will Call Assistant – help Lady D and SusieQ with items from auction after bid
7-8  one person
8-9  two people
9-10  two people

Ticket takers with Mark & Catelynn
8:30-9:30  one person

Box Office with Mark & Catelynn
5:30-7 one person
9-10 one person

Food Assistance with Sabrina
8-10pm one person

Raffle Table Staff with La Rubia
6-7  two people
7–8  two people
8-9 two people
9-10 two people

Raffle Ticket Sales with La Rubia
6-7:30 seven people
7:30-8:30  five people
8:30-9:30 six people

Security with Jake
5:30-7pm  five people
7-8pm  five people
8-9pm   five people
9-10pm  five people

Location Breakdown, with Nayland
9:30pm-10pm  four people

9:30-10:30pm Breakdown Last Sweep, Station to Station – bring in loose ends –
one person

Sunday Unload Van and Load in Storage with Lolita, Tip et al,
Noon-12:30pm
three people
(optional: go to brunch with Lolita afterwards and then walk up to Folsom Street East)

Please email your first, second and third choices.  And let us know if you have any questions!

Thanks!

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9 Days to Leather Pride Night

June 10th, 2010 · No Comments

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10 Days to Leather Pride Night

June 10th, 2010 · No Comments

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NYC Weekly Leather Dates: June 10-16

June 9th, 2010 · No Comments

Thursday, June 10
Impact party

Friday, June 11
DSF: “Judgement Night”

Saturday, June 12

Sunday, June 13
NY Bondage Club
Fixe Fetish Party

Monday, June 14

Tuesday, June 15
TES: ‘‘Strategizing Re-entry: Drop and Aftercare’’ w/ Corey Alexander

Wednesday, June 16
TES Dominant Women/submissive men’s Group: ‘‘You Have One, Now What? How Do You Train Your New Submissive?’’ w/ Dame Amanda

Van Darkholme, Vince Ferelli, Derek Pain
and Christian Wilde on BoundGods.com

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NYC Weekly Leather Dates: June 3-9

June 3rd, 2010 · No Comments

Thursday, June 3
The Baroness‘ Royal Amusements Dinner
The Baroness‘ Fetish Fetinue

Friday, June 4
NYC BDSM Munch
Mistress Didi*s ClassicFetish Meet & Greet Pre-Party
DSF: “Fetish Fantasy Play Party & Slave Auction”
Empire City Motorcycle Club: Bike Blessing

Saturday, June 5
NYC TNG General Munch
Smack 14th Anniversary Party

Sunday, June 6

MAsT Metro NY: Master Tony & slave susan “Unconventional Mastery & Slavery: 24/7 With an Explanation”
New York Bondage Club
NYC TNG Meeting
Suspension

Monday, June 7

Tuesday, June 8
TES: ‘‘CBT: String and Clips and Cages, Oh My!’’ with Lady Velvet and Friends

Wednesday, June 9
TES Novice Group: ‘‘Surviving and Thriving at TES Fest 2010 & Other Large Events’’

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Please, Sir: Erotic Stories of Female Submission

May 28th, 2010 · 2 Comments

Please, Sir: Erotic Stories of Female Submission is the latest anthology edited by Rachel Kramer Bussel. RKB has become an expert at soliciting and choosing hot short stories. These all have a theme of female submission.

As part of the virtual book tour, here is my favorite excerpt that I chose from the book. From “Avery Says” by Sommer Marsden:

Thomas makes me wait one hour and fifty-one minutes before he leans in and says into my ear, “Get your nasty little ass in the car in the next fifteen minutes or it will be ten times worse than whatever you are imagining.” Under the guise of hugging me to him, he pulls me in and pinches me right ass cheek so hard that tears spring to my eyes and I choke on the air in my lungs. I nod so he knows that I understand and I say my hurried good-byes with a mixture of dread and anticipation twisting in my belly.

In the car, he says not a word. He lifts the skirt of my black dress, and checks. I am in the thigh-high hose and garters. I have on a small silken pair of black panties. He puts a finger inside the crotch and touches me just long enough to test me, to see how wet I am. He does not touch me to give me pleasure but to gauge my readiness, the way a mechanic would check the oil in a car: Detached. Professional. All business. I jump under his touch anyway, stealing as much pleasure from his fingertip as I possibly can.

“You know we start off with fifteen. Don’t give me a reason to up it, Avery. My hand won’t be light tonight. What you did doesn’t even deserve comment. You know that.”

I nod and now the tears are coming. What have I done? Why did I do it? What was I thinking? But under it all is the thumping in my cunt from where he has just touched me and the crawling anxiety that somehow makes it all feel so much better – more intense, sharper and brighter and more real.

“I know.”

We drive home in silence.

I shift in my seat, crossing and uncrossing my legs as the heater blows hot air across my knees. “Sit still,” he commands

So I do.

See the official Please, Sir website.

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NYC Weekly Leather Dates: May 27-June 2

May 26th, 2010 · No Comments

Thursday, May 27
TES Queer SIG: ‘‘Sex, Grease, and Leather ? Bootblacking’’ with Jim

Friday, May 28
NYC TNG Meeting
DSF: “Wet and Wild BDSM party“
Paradise Lost: “Unholy- AntiVirtues”

Saturday, May 29
Submit
Wicked NYC

Sunday, May 30
LSM New Member Safety/Orientation
Instigate: “Notes of a Reluctant Daddy” w/ Nayland
NYC TNG Meeting
Suspension

Monday, May 24

Tuesday, June 1
TES: ‘‘‘Roleplay: Everything from Sick to Silly’’ with Mistress Coraline

Wednesday, June 2
Pleasure Salon
TES Dominant Men/submissive women’s SIG: ‘‘NYC TNG & DM/sw’’
Vendetta “Meet and Beat” NYFM Opening night party

Bobbi Starr and Katie Kox on WhippedAss.com

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Chastity and the ensuing Punishment

May 24th, 2010 · 1 Comment

Don Quixote acquired a new chastity device. The last one had not worked so well. The new one was The Boy Trainer Silicone Cock Cage from Mr. S. It had some nice reviews, I liked the way it looked and I was looking forward to trying it out.

We decided to experiment one evening at his place. Putting it on was not easy. His dick stuck to the silicone. I suggested some lube and it went a little easier but it still took quite a bit of tugging to get his dick in it. This is not so bad as it is not something that you put on regularly; it is just something that should stay on. Once his dick was in the device, the strap that holds the balls came up and locked easily to the strap that went around the cock and balls. I like how everything but the lock is made of soft silicone. And it felt good to him. Very snug.

We went to sleep and I kept the keys close by. Wearing a chastity device overnight is usually the true test. If it will be uncomfortable, it’s usually through the night. DQ woke me up early, the Cock Cage was too uncomfortable. Maybe it was the hair that pinched or maybe it was too snug, but I unlocked it and released him. I went back to sleep.

I woke up a little later feeling his body up against mine as he worked his hard cock. I reached back and began to play with it. When he was close to coming, he asked permission to come. I paused and thought about it. And he came!

I was annoyed and asked him why he bothered to ask permission if he was just going to come anyway. He sheepishly told me that he had waited too long to ask. I lay in bed and thought about that while he got up. I heard him grinding coffee beans in the kitchen and mulled my options.

When DQ came back with coffee, I told him to get me a cane. He brought his case to me and I picked his meanest cane, one made of delrin. I explained that there would be no warm-up. I would not be nice. If he wanted to play a Dominance/submission game of asking permission to come, I would have to play the punishment game because he came without permission.

He lay across the bed. I brought the cane swiftly down on his ass. He cried out in shock. I paused so that he could feel the full effect of the stroke. And then I hit him again. Slow and hard I continued. I did not count the strokes. It was too early in the morning for that, and I was only then having my coffee. But, man, I gotta tell you, that is my favorite way to wake up and have coffee.

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NYC Weekly Leather Dates: May 20-26

May 20th, 2010 · No Comments

http://www.PublicDisgrace.com/updates/full0.php?lolitasir

Thursday, May 20
Staten Island Kink Munch
Purple Passion workshop: “Rope Bondage for Beginners”

Friday, May 21
DSF: “Bondage class: Hogties & frogties” w/ Erin Houdini
Cercle des Dommes
LSM: “Caning – from “Ah!” to “Zowie!!!” with Lolita Wolf
Switch

Saturday, May 22
NyboL: Rubber Stamp Bar Night

Sunday, May 23
NY Bondage Club

Monday, May 24

Tuesday, May 25
TES: ‘‘Talent Show’’

Wednesday, May 26
TES Relationships SIG: ‘‘Commitment in the Scene’’ w/ August & Sue

Jessie Cox and Justin Long on PublicDisgrace.com

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Teaching 2 Classes This Week in NYC

May 19th, 2010 · No Comments

Thursday May 20th
Rope Bondage for Beginners
7 – 9pm at Purple Passion

Learn some basics that will be the building blocks for creating ties that will give you versatility in the bedroom or the dungeon. Come with a partner or we will try to match singles up.
Bring two lengths of 30 foot rope.
$20- per person. Prepaying is advised.
We are limiting the class size so that everyone will be able to learn.
All registered attendees get 15% off all merchandise before and after the workshop (except for sale items).

Friday May 21st
Caning – from “Ah!” to “Zowie!!!”

8-10pm at Lesbian Sex Mafia

In the Victorian era and the British school system, caning was traditional for severe punishment. This makes for good role play opportunities. Canes are very scary – even just the threat can terrify your bottom. But caning can be sensuous as well and, with finesse, you can have your partners begging for more. Some bottoms can actually come from being caned. We’ll cover selecting a good cane, care and techniques as well as some role play and ritual.
Cost: $5/LSM members, $10/Non members

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