Lolita Wolf's Predictions & Predilections

I will be teaching at the 2nd Annual Sacred Sexuality Round-Up in Times Square this September 23-26th. Attend in person or you can watch it online!

Enjoy 4-Days of heart-felt lectures, workshops, performances, party events, promotions, and networking with the world’s leading Tantra Teachers and Sacred Sexuality Educators. Over thirty great presenters all gathered into one amazing weekend!

This is the first Sexuality Expo to broadcast live on the Internet from Times Square. The Friday night Women & Power Symposium with a special opening performance by Zahava will be broadcast FREE from 7 to 11pm.

The 4-days kick off with a Thursday night “Club Tantra Lounge” party. Meet the organizers, teachers and gurus and schmooze and dance the night away with other sexy spirits in preparation for the weekend festivities.

Friday evening things get more serious with the “Women and Power Symposium,” an all-women panel open to a co-ed audience exploring the feminine connections between sexual, financial and romantic freedom.

Saturday and Sunday are filled with dozens of lectures, presentations and workshops from our expert presenters (Sheri Winston, Amy Jo Goddard, Kamala Devi, Rachel Cherwitz, Isis Phoenix, et al) covering the spectrum of spiritual sexuality. Everything from transformational breathing, to healing a broken heart, to being in a committed couple and tantric, to sensually satisfying pregnancies and energetic clothes-on sex, and even sacred spanking will be covered.

Saturday night: Don’t miss out on the Triple Goddess Puja, an enlightening social ritual with deep-rooted traditions designed to explore the spiritual side of sensuality and intimacy without ever having to take your clothes off!

Please visit Sacred Sex Roundup for free and pay-per-view options as well as In-Person Tickets too!

Thursday: The TES Queer SIG hosts an open forum about “The State of New York Queerdom.”

Friday: Eric Pride will be at DomSubFriends with a demo at Paddles on “Interrogation: The Border Between Play & Reality.” Also at Paddles later in a separate space is the Switch party for women and trans.

Saturday: Two good parties: TES and Stimulate.

Sunday: Rawhide Bar hosts “Guard,” a monthly Fetish CODE night 6pm to Midnight with special guest Bryan Slater, give-aways, demos and 2 for 1 drinks if you are in gear. 8th Ave at 21st Street.

Wednesday: The TES Bondage SIG invites you to share your knowledge at: ” Rope Tips and Tricks – A Bondage Experience.” Bring rope. This will be very hands-on!

Amber Rayne on hogtied.com

My neighborhood has been invaded with politicians recently as they campaigned for the primaries here in NYC. I took an opportunity to speak face to face with one of the more liberal guys in my district. I asked him abut several NY State issues, like the death penalty, marriage equality and the Ground Zero Mosque. He answered those with ease. And then I asked him about his stand on sex workers. He quickly came back with a statement on human trafficking, but he had no policy on sex worker’s rights. I told him that sex work and human trafficking were not the same. He had no idea, so I explained it to him. He told me he would research it further and I went on my way happy that I raised some awareness.

Basically the difference between sex work and human trafficking is consent. There are people out there who do not think women could possibly consent to doing sex for money (and they never talk about the male sex workers of which there are plenty).

Does this begin to sound familiar to you? This has been the exact same problem that the BDSM community had, and still has, to a great extent. BDSM activists, namely folks from the NCSF, have been browbeating journalists, therapists, politicians and anyone else who would listen with the phrase “consenting adults” and that message is beginning to get through.

There’s still a lot of work we have to do to educate people. A lot of that work is talking to people one on one.

Thursday: The first DSD meeting is open to everyone and features Dov presenting “Crazy Glue Invisible Bondage and Infibulation!”

Saturday: New York boys of Leather and The Jersey boys of Leather host a Boy on Boy! bar night upstairs at the Stonewall, Wear fetish gear for drink specials. They’re having a 50/50 raffle to benefit the Women’s Leather History Project.

Wednesday: The TES Dominant Women/submissive men’s Group has Mistress Jada teaching: “Singletails: for the Safe, Sane, and Sadistic”

James Deen and Ashli Orion on SexandSubmission.com

A new monthly meetup for anyone who is interested in sexuality has been created. The organizers enjoy the flexible style that comes from KinkForAll-style presentations and have opted to mimic that style for part of the meeting, but they also enjoy the depth that an hour-long presentation or demo can bring

The first DSD meeting will be at the LGBT Center, Room 410 / Thursday, Sept. 9th, 8-10pm. It’s open to everyone! Sliding Scale: $0 – 7.

Dov will be presenting for one hour on Crazy Glue Invisible Bondage and Infibulation!

Crazy glue is steeped in the depths of urban legends of late night rushes to the emergency room to unglue hapless victims who didn’t heed the warning on the label: “WILL BOND SKIN INSTANTLY.” This class is about demystifying this fun pervertible for mindfucks. We will discuss and demonstrate many wonderful perversions with this super-strength glue for bondage. We will also cover safety issues, some theory/chemistry of its function, and its intended medical usage.

After the lead presentation, DSD participants will give their own presentations and start conversations about topics they want to teach and/or learn about.

There is no need to sign-up!

So, last night I was watching this video of this guy talking about how he went in to the Mr. S store in San Francisco and got lucky with one of the salesmen there. Well, it got me thinking that here I am working in the premiere fetish store in NYC and I just do not get hardly any fun sexy experiences when I’m working there.

My luck turned around today. Don Quixote walked in. It was day six for him wearing this chastity device, which he purchased from Mr. S. I was towards the back of the store lacing a customer into a corset but I yelled over, “Show Al your chastity device. She needs to see it because we are getting those in soon.”

I didn’t watch because I was busy lacing the corset, but the customer had heard me speak and was now interested as well. She wanted to see it, too. I did not want to be rude to a customer, so, I called out to him, “DQ! Come back here and show your device to my customer!”

DQ came into the back area. He was blushing so much. But he obediently dropped his trousers and showed it to her. My customer was very curious and DQ had to show her the underside as well.

This device is very discreet. Nobody knows that DQ is wearing it under his clothes. Unless, of course, I decide to show it off.

Legal disclosure: If you click on the chastity link and buy a device of your own, I do get a small commission.

Friday: Dov teaches “The Art of The Singletail” at DSF.

Sunday: It’s a three day weekend so you can party late on Sunday at Impact.

Tuesday: It looks like an interesting TES meeting: “Taming The Shrew with Blyss.

Maitresse Madeline and David Chase on DivineBitches.com

“I want to be an object at some point during the weekend.” Don Quixote told me.

An object? I thought about that. The first thing that popped into my head was a footstool. That’s classic. But it is also boring. I thought about what kind of object I really wanted and an idea came to me: a robot!

I love when DQ tells me what he wants, but does not tell me specifics. It allows me to be creative. I do love to think things out and plan. My robot could not be too complicated because he would not be able to take too many different commands. I planted two remote control bullets on him. One was vet-wrapped on to his balls. This was the stop and go command. The other was vet-wrapped to his chest. This was the command to turn right. Having just these commands kept things very simple. So, he was a New Jersey robot. In order to go left, he would have to make three right turns, like a jughandle.

My robot was very pink. He wore hot pink frilly pettipants. The vet wrap holding the vibrating bullets in place was also hot pink. I used more hot pink vet wrap to wrap his head so that he could not see. I layered rope on his chest pinning his arms above the elbow. I could manually move his lower arms so that he could hold things. I had him carry my water bottle for me. I also added rope over his frilly pettipants and a bar wrap between his ankles so that he could not take big steps. As a finishing touch, I decorated my robot with brightly colored glow sticks bands. Because every robot needs to have lights!

When my robot was put together, I took him for a spin in the massive dungeon. I tried out the commands and he was very responsive. My remote controls worked up to 25 feet away so at first it was not apparent to onlookers that he was being controlled. There were quite a few confused people. “How does that work?” I showed them the controls that made him stop, go and turn. They were very amused.

My robot was not perfect. First of all, he did not walk perfectly straight. He seemed to always go off a little to the right. Also, his right turns were not perfect 45 degree angles. It took quite a bit of navigation skills to maneuver him through the dungeon. I could not allow him to walk through people’s scenes! Most of the time I had him on a zigzag course, like a sailboat tacking against the wind.

This was my most favorite scene at The Floating World.

Saturday: Last chance to see Shine at 2pm. Great show. See it! There’s also a Submit Party.

Sunday: Suspension party where you can play outside on the roof of The Delancy.

Wednesday: My favorite monthly bar night is Pleasure Salon.

Tommy Defendi, Nick Moretti, Drake Jaden and Derek Pain on BoundGods.com

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CunningMinx posted about the gender differences in jealousy.

The Leather Institute for Education (LIFE), a Metro-Detroit based Leather Educational group has been named the beneficiary for LLC2010. They received over $2000.

Applications, contest rules and requirements are now available at to enter the Mr. & Ms NJ Leather Contest on Oct 15 and 16.

Jay Wiseman‘s Closing argument on Breath Play.