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This Week’s Picks Cuffed “She could see that he had something concealed in his other hand, but couldn’t quite tell whether it would be an instrument of torture or pleasure.”
Lunch Hour “He’s very good, but I notice the almost imperceptible start as he notices what’s going on.”
About size “But if we’re going to start talking about penis size, then it is only fair to talk about vagina size.”
Please do some activism on behalf of sexual freedom between consenting adults. Do it now before September 10th.
The federal government is proposing regulations that would effectively kill adult social-networking sites. This is being done under the guise of fighting child pornography. The proposed regulations would force adult social-networking services to obtain and maintain personal information about their users, including the user’s photo ID (driver’s license, passport, or military ID). While this activism is being done by the NGLTF, it affects heterosexuals, too, both kinky and vanilla.
Sept 12-17 – Northeastern MD Dark Odyssey Summer Camp: I am teaching The Greedy Pig Loves Threesomes, Power Flogging, The ABC’s of BDSM and King Tut’s Kink: Mummification!
September 22 – Trenton, NJ KFE: teaching The Greedy Pig Battles the Green-eyed Monster
September 26 – New York, NY TES Bondage Group: “Another Bondage Experience!” with Lolita, Boymeat, Dov, and Jason
September 28-30 – San Jose, CA Folsom Fringe: teaching “CBT n a Nutshell” with Michael Blue and “The Greedy Pig Battles The Green-Eyed Monster” plus doing the keynote speech with Boymeat
October 12-14 Fayetteville, NC NCEdge: teaching “Sensory Deprivation & Control”
I am going to be in a show! Well, my voice is going to be in it. And my bio will be in the program! I just went and recorded my part in a sound studio. The show is called Hurt So Good and it opens in October in NYC.
On Friday night I went to the Summer of Love exhibit at The Whitney. I am now convinced that every art show should be accompanied by music.
While that period of time was overshadowed by the deaths in Viet Nam, the King and Kennedy assassinations and the drug overdoses of Joplin and Hendrix, it was still a sexy and fun time. It exhilarated me to look at day-glow Alice in Wonderland art while listening to Grace Slick sing “White Rabbit,” to listen to Jimi Hendrix while trancing out on a light show, and to dance in the strobe room while listening to The Doors.
Later, I went to the TES Night in Wonderland party with its marvelous Alice in Wonderland decorations. In some way, my night was full circle, but not really. It made me sad that we can’t go back in time.
I know you, rider, gonna miss me when I’m gone Gonna miss your baby, from rolling in your arms. -The Grateful Dead
There was a group of us walking down the street. She calls out from behind me, “Lolita, this may be a bit personal….”
I am quite used to conversations that begin this way. “No, it’s okay, go ahead.”
“I’ve been watching your ass and it looks really good.”
Well, I thought I would plotz! I did not expect that at all. When someone says something like that, I usually pooh-pooh it, like I don’t believe it’s true. But for some reason, this time the compliment rang true. Was it her sincerity? Or maybe it was me shrugging off some of my body issues.
So, I said, “Thanks!”
And then I turned again and giggled, “I’m wearing a thong.”
And then I thought about my ass a little more and said, “I’m going to wear white panties Saturday night to a Back-to-School party.”
And then I thought a little more and figured I sounded like a dork. But I will wear those white panties Saturday night.
So, there’s this one group, which I will not name, that considers itself a heterosexual group for M/f, F/m and F/f. Heterosexual F/f? Huh? To top it all off this group meets at the LGBT Center!
Thursday, August 30 Pleasure Salon, 6-10pm at M&R Bar (downstairs), 354 Bowery (no website)
Friday, August 31 TES: An Evening Live Tea Service TES: Night in Wonderland Play Party w/ Theresa & Eileen
Saturday, September 1 NY Renegades Meeting & Social
Sunday, September 2
Monday, September 3
Tuesday, September 4 TES: “S&M Thru the Ages: Ancient World” w/ Brother Leo
Wednesday, September 5 TES Dominant Men/submissive women’s Group: “Uniform Fetish” w/ Sir Guy Purple Passion Workshop: “Cock & Ball Play for the Adventurous” with Midori
I made a new acquaintance the other day. I had seen her before. She’s a lesbian. We have some of the same friends and we travel in some of the same circles.
One common theme that comes up often in some of these circles is how straight men are assholes. And it’s true that a lot of them are assholes. But not all of them.
Straight people. The topic comes up so often in the women’s community. It seems acceptable to complain about the straights. Like it’s a topic we all can agree on. We should all be able to commiserate about how horrible the straight people are. Especially those clueless straight men who just don’t get it.
I know what they are talking about. And I am bothered by a lot of those straight men, too. But they’re not all like that. I know a lot of really nice straight men. And the behavior of those clueless straight men is an embarrassment to them, too.
I am bothered by generalizations and stereotypes. These conversations bashing straight men make me uncomfortable. I usually try to let it go, but I can’t just listen to it. I say, “I know what you mean, but not all men are like that.” But they continue with the generalizations. “Well, some of them are okay,” I interject. “I actually have friends who are straight men.” But it’s like they don’t hear me. Or they don’t want to hear me.
Anyway, back to the lesbian I had just met. We’re on the subway together, just the two of us at this point. We’ve talked about a lot of things: work, living situations, food, etc. But she comes back around to the topic of slimy straight men. “So, I’m bisexual,“ I tell her. And now she’s shocked.
She’s shocked because she thought I was another lesbian, like her. Whenever I am hanging with my queer friends, it is assumed that I am a lesbian. They never assume that I am bisexual. And straight people assume I’m straight, because none of them ever assume I’m bisexual either. Nobody ever assumes I’m bisexual. On the other hand, I hate assumptions. Don’t assume I’m not bisexual; don’t assume I am bisexual. But whether or not, I am bisexual, don’t assume that I am about to buy into the stereotype that all straight men are assholes.
I can forgive people for not assuming I’m bisexual, but I don’t have room in my life for heterophobes or homophobes.
My room was superb. I never got “lucky,” but I did get to relax in my jacuzzi bath and I hosted a pizza dinner for seven in my room on Saturday night.
I had a few really nice scenes. I suspended Rita for her first time. She has the perfect hair for bondage. I beat on Casey’s chest with canes and made pretty colors. I did a punching scene with someone I had never played with before. One of the cool things about being at an event is that you can check in with each other the day after the scene and ooh and aah over the bruises and make sure that they are still happy with how it all went down.
My classes all went well. They were only one hour and fifteen minutes so I felt I had to rush through, but that was okay. Calico bottomed for the Hot Wax class; she made fun noises and squirmed. I was able to call up eight demo bottoms from the audience for the Sensory Deprivation class and they all liked it. My novice class had a lot more people attending than I expected.
I went to two of Rita‘s classes – one on Power Play with Deaf People and another on Playing with Strangers. She is really a fun teacher. I popped into the Age Play class and did a little coloring. I went to Jefferson‘s Sex Blogging and Male Bisexuality classes.
Julia attended on Sunday with her slave. We attended Thomas’ Suspension 101 class and she tied me up using a holster harness. Later we attended David Lawrence‘s Partial and Full Suspension class. David is a great teacher. He wastes no time. He spoke and demoed for a half hour and then he helped us all tie. I tied Julia this time, again using a holster type harness and I got to suspend her in a sideways suspension. It was my first time doing a sideways suspension and it was really great. David will be teaching Ties for Two at the TES Bondage SIG on October 24.
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