I had a hot play date on Friday night. When we spoke beforehand to make plans, I had asked her what she liked to do. “Spanking, caning, paddles, floggers.” She then added, “I have my own toys.”
I love that! Yes, I love those activities, but I really love a playmate who brings her own toys. Even though I own so many toys myself, I appreciate someone providing their own.
First of all, why does the top have to always buy all the toys? Especially when you are starting out, or when you are a poor student, these costs should be shared.
And why does the top always have to schlep all the toys? I take the subway when I go places and that stuff gets heavy and bulky to carry around, especially if I am going somewhere else beforehand. And if I’m flying somewhere to teach, clothing and teaching supplies take up the vast majority of my checked in luggage. I need to stay under the airline’s weight limit!
And why does the top always have to maintain the toys? Kits have to be restocked, ropes need to be washed and toys need to be cleaned. This is extra work. Not only is it nice that the bottom can do this, but the bottom can be sure that it is done in a manner that they think is safest for toys used on them.
Another reason that a bottom may want to have his or her own toys is that they can bring something that they really like or that fits them well, like a straitjacket or a blindfold.
So, on Friday night, I used her toys. But I did not come empty handed. I brought my single tail, a toy she likes but does not own. And now we both have toys to clean.