Lolita Wolf's Predictions & Predilections

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Asking

October 22nd, 2006 · 1 Comment

I wanted something and I asked for it. Straight up asked. No hinting. No beating around the bush. Just asked, very straightforward. And I got what I wanted. Wow!

Of course, I am delighted, but why am I surprised? I see it happen all the time. I myself say yes to others when asked. I even teach this stuff. So, why can’t I believe it applies to me as well? Do I feel that perhaps I don’t deserve it? That I am not worthy?

Where do these feelings come from? Past disappointments? My upbringing? Sure, but also from various other factors. A few months ago, a person close to me scolded me about my acting “entitled.” It hit me hard and it was painful. I did a lot of work coping with my feelings around that.

People get what they deserve. Call it karma or the totality of one’s actions accumulating to balance out to what is right. I try to live a life of honor and I try to be considerate. I can ask for what I want. I may not always get it, but for sure I will never get it if I don’t ask for it. Whatever “it” may be.

I’m still feeling lucky.

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  • mutleythedog

    I want something and I ask for it – no messing. Like car park places, marmite sandwiches and my hat back from Bridport children!