Lolita Wolf's Predictions & Predilections

As a BDSM Sex Educator and Author, I don't just talk about it. I do it! And then I write about it.

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September 9th, 2004 · No Comments

Volume 10, Number 16 © Copyright 2004 by Lolita Wolf – Material may not be reproduced in whole or in part without prior written consent of the copyright holder. The views expressed herein are exclusively those of the author and do not represent the views of any other person or any organization with which the author may be associated.


“…it’s fine to break the rules, but only if you know them. Only then can you know how to break them.



On Friday night, Neptune and I went to The Venom Club in East Farmingdale, NY ( This was about an hour drive with no traffic out to Long Island. At the door, we were charged $30, the regular Friday night couples rate (Saturday nights are $40 per couple). Since the TES website lists the club as offering a discount to TES members, we told him that we were TES members and asked for our discount. We were told that there was no discount for TES. The man at the door was not very welcoming to us.
We checked out the space. The big main room was divided into a social area and a play area with about a half dozen pieces of equipment plus two hoists. A smaller room in the back had about 4 pieces of equipment and we chose the cross to play on.

There were about 7 people in the club besides us. All of them were sitting at a table eating and drinking nonalcoholic beverages. They sounded like they were having a good time. We heard their talk and laughter over the eclectic mix of music that was playing. The back room had no music and the predominant noise was the talk and laughter. It was not very conducive to play.
We won’t be returning to the Venom Club. It’s not worth the trip.


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The Pantheon of Leather Community Service Awards will be presented in Chicago, IL in February 2005. The nomination process for the Pantheon of Leather Community Service Awards 2005 has begun and the entire leather community is invited to participate in the first round of the awards process by submitting nominations.
The nomination form and information for the Pantheon of Leather Community Service Awards 2005 is now posted buy this year’s nominations registrar, San Francisco Leather Daddy VIII Don Thompson. With the assistance of his life partner Henry Jordan and the diligent work of Random Chance in creating a fabulous and user-friendly page, nominations will be much easier to make than ever.

To participate check out Deadline is October 31, 2004.

My writing in the P+P is copyrighted. Usually when someone wants to repost something, somewhere I do give permission as long as my name and copyright is attached and subscription info is given.
It makes me crazy when I write to someone who posts my stuff to an email list and I get an answer like this: “I posted the article out of admiration for what you wrote disrespect was not even in the room .Furthermore, Since I did not take any credit for the writing of the article there is no question of copyright violation of any kind. Keep up the good work.”

Yes, it is a copyright violation. Please don’t do it. Ask me first.


The Communications Decency Act (CDA) trial date has been set for October 27-29, 2004, at the United States District Court in New York City. Plaintiffs Barbara Nitke and the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom are contesting the remaining CDA provisions allowing “local community standards” to be used to define obscenity on the Internet. These provisions were not the subject of the 1997 Supreme Court challenge, ACLU vs. Ashcroft.

“The CDA allows one community to limit what the entire nation is allowed to discuss, to read or to view on the Internet,” says John Wirenius, the attorney for the lawsuit. “That is unconstitutional because the First Amendment does not allow any one locality to impose its morality on the nation.” For more information about the CDA lawsuit, go to:

Expert witnesses who will be called and cross-examined include Arthur C. Danto, A.D. Coleman, Jeffrey Douglas, Ben Laurie, Seth Finklestein, Candida Royalle, Tristan Taormino, Charles Moser, Dov Hechtman, Leigha Fleming, and Susan Wright. Their testimony will cover the technological impossibility of complying with the CDA; the artistic and social importance of sexually explicit speech concerning alternative sexual practices; and the chilling affect the CDA has had on artists and writers within the communities served by NCSF.

Plaintiff Barbara Nitke ( will be making appearances in San Francisco in September for an exhibition of her work, slide show talks, book signings and benefits to raise funds for the CDA lawsuit expenses. Mark I. Chester and Dr. Carol Queen’s Center for Sex and Culture are sponsoring “Sex, Art & Politics,” the series of events on radical sex photography and artistic freedom to coincide with the Folsom Street Fair. For more information on these events, see the calendar below.

Barbara Nitke is president of the prestigious Camera Club of New York, on the faculty of the School of Visual Arts in New York, and author of a book of fine art photographs, Kiss of Fire (Kehrer Verlag 2003). National Coalition for Sexual Freedom (NCSF) is a national organization committed to protecting freedom of sexual expression among consenting adults.

For additional information, requests for interviews, and publishable press photos contact Susan Wright, Spokesperson for NCSF 917.848.6544, or Barbara Nitke at
Calendar of September Events in San Francisco with Barbara Nitke:
Sat. Sept. 18th – 8pm-midnight “Opening Party for Sex, Art & Politics” Radical sex photography including Barbara Nitke’s loving SM photographs, book signing, and entertainment. Suggested donation $5-10+. Mark I. Chester studio, 1229 Folsom St./SF

Sun Sept. 19th – 2-4pm – “A Romantic View of SM” Barbara Nitke’s slide show talk and discussion of the CDA lawsuit. $15 for the general public. $5 for members of Janus and reciprocal leather organizations.
Sun Sept. 19th – 7-10pm – House party benefit for the CDA lawsuit sponsored by Mark I. Chester, Dr. Carol Queen and NCSF at a private location. 100% of proceeds will benefit the CDA lawsuit. Space is limited so please call 415-255-1155 or for an invite.

Tues, Sept. 21st – 8-10pm – Book signing by Barbara Nitke for her book of loving SM photographs, Kiss of Fire. Good Vibrations, 603 Valencia St., at 17th St./SF

Wed, Sept. 22nd – 7-10pm “Sex, Art & Politics Community Benefit” Co-sponsored by Mark I. Chester and the Center for Sex and Culture, with Charles Gatewood, Fakir Musafar, Phyllis Christopher, Michael Blue/Midori and Shilo McCabe. Suggested donation $10-$20+ with proceeds benefiting the CDA lawsuit. SF Citadel, 245 8th St/SF

Sat/Sun, Sept 25/26th-noon-6pm – Mark I. Chester will take a FREE digital portrait of anyone who visits his studio to see the radical sex photographs on display. Sun. 9/26, the show will be open during the Folsom St. Fair. Mark I Chester studio, 1229 Folsom St./SF

For further information regarding the above events, please check the Calendar of Special Events on: or call Mark at 415-621-6294. Center for Sex and Culture (


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David Lawrence and Ward Boult art show opening
September 10 in NYC at Purple Passion/DV8

Dark Odyssey
September 15-20 in Northern Maryland

New Jersey Leather Weekend
September 24-26 in Asbury Park, NJ

FolsomFringe: smOdyssey Unleashed
September 24-26 in San Jose, CA

Folsom Street Fair
September 26 in San Francisco, CA

Pacific Friction
October 8-11 in Portland, OR
(I am teaching Caning and How To Be A Greedy Pig)

Oct 8-10 in Amsterdam

Dungeon 901
October 15-17 in Ft Lauderdale, FL

ITCR – Building Bridges IV
October 15-17 in Boston, MA

October 21-24 in NYC

Together in Leather
October 22-24 in Charlotte, NC

Black Rose XVII
November 5-7 in New Carrollton, MD

GMSMA Leatherfest
November 13 in NYC
(I am teaching Sensory Deprivation & Control)

Servant’s Retreat
November 19-21 in Queens, NY

Just Play ’04
November 26-28 in Baltimore, Maryland

Fetish Fair Fleamarket
December 17-19 in Boston, MA

Have fun! Play safe!
Lolita Wolf
Lolita speaking only for Lolita, of course!

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