Lolita Wolf's Predictions & Predilections

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August 10th, 2004 · No Comments

Volume 10, Number 14 © Copyright 2004 by Lolita Wolf – Material may not be reproduced in whole or in part without prior written consent of the copyright holder. The views expressed herein are exclusively those of the author and do not represent the views of any other person or any organization with which the author may be associated.


“Don’t cry because it’s over. Smile because it happened.”

– Theodor Seuss Geisel aka Dr. Suess


Last weekend, Boymeat and I headed down to Washington, DC to attend the Master Slave Conference. This was a very well run event and extremely well planned. Much of this was due to the slave labor of many great volunteers. The Marriott Residence Hotel in Thomas Circle was wonderful – new, clean and friendly to us.

We arrived in time for the opening ceremonies, which featured an inspiring keynote speech by Steve Sampson. After that we headed over to Hamburger Mary’s for some great burgers with Bearman, Lawrence and David Palm. Afterwards, we went upstairs to Titan’s Bar, where a Slave Auction was being held to raise money for the NE Master/slave travel fund. We got there and I found out that Master John had bought me Kip. We made a date for later in the weekend. Kip brought me coffee and breakfast in bed on Sunday and gave me a really nice massage. Thanks, Master John!

On Saturday, I taught a class on Multidimensional Master/slave Relationships where we discussed how to relate to each other in many different ways while still maintaining a M/s dynamic. I also did a presentation with Boymeat called “Putting A Boy In His Place” which was quite spontaneous and intimate with us talking about our relationship followed up with an actual demo.

I went to a bunch of classes because the program was really outstanding. If there was a common theme that kept popping up in many of the classes, it had to do with whether M/s relationships were compatible with love and/or romance. I think that question will continue to be debated. There is no one right answer for everybody.

On Saturday night, we went to dinner at Kramer’s with Master John and Beast. Kramer’s is in Dupont Circle, walking distance from our hotel. It is one of my favorite restaurants. I was sorry that we missed the Northeast Master/slave Contest. I wanted to cheer Sir Stephen and slave catherine on, but timing was tight and we needed to spend some quality time with Master John and Beast. The activities at these conferences are valid, but sometimes connecting with people who are important to me takes precedence. Anyway, Sir Stephen and slave catherine won without us there and we were very happy to hear about it.

Later, we went to The Crucible to play. Master John and I co-topped Beast. It had been a long time since I had played with Beast and it was good to play again. More classes on Sunday and then we had a meal with Glenda and Amy, A really nice trip!


In 2001, in memory of Tony DeBlase, Aubrey Sparks created the Tony DeBlase Scholarship Fund. The goal was to raise $25,000 to create an endowment fund to give scholarships to “students entering the fields of sex education, sex therapy, research or something that furthers the understanding of human sexuality, especially alternative sexuality.”

The fund is more than 90% complete and needs less than $2500. Let’s try to finish it out. Info:


Black Rose has officially announced BRXVII, its annual pansexual extravaganza of programs and play, socializing and shopping. Held at the usual location in New Carrollton, Md., on November 5-7, the entire event – programs, play, and vending – will once again be under one roof. The hotel is under new and more welcoming ownership, and rooms and facilities have been renovated.

Classes will be presented by such nationally known speakers as Catherine Gross, Travis, Jack McG., Jay Wiseman, Vi Johnson, Chris M., Fifth Angel, Lolita Wolf, Joansie, and Glenda Rider as well as local Black Rose favorites such as Rose V., Big Mark, Frazier, Bondage Thomas, Mitzi, and many more. If you’d like to offer to present, send your topic(s), a 50 word description and a 40 word bio to

The opening-night top/bottom auction will kick off the play activities, and, in finest BR tradition, the evening events will benefit this year’s featured organizations: the Leather Archives & Museum and the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom. This year, attendance will be held to a carefully controlled number and BR’s block of rooms in the host hotel will be offered in registration-number order. Info:


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Ohio Leather Fest (OLF)
August 13-15 in Columbus, OH
(I am teaching “Caning,” “Building Trust” and “”ABC’s of BDSM; and I am participating in the Celebrity Auction)

Black Beat
August 20-22 in Washington, DC

Camp Crucible
September 9-13 in Southeastern PA

Dark Odyssey
September 15-20 in Northern Maryland

New Jersey Leather Weekend
September 24-26 in Asbury Park, NJ

FolsomFringe: smOdyssey Unleashed
September 24-26 in San Jose, CA

Pacific Friction
October 8-11 in Portland, OR
(I am teaching Caning and How To Be A Greedy Pig)

Oct 8-10 in Amsterdam

Dungeon 901
October 15-17 in Ft Lauderdale, FL

October 21-24 in NYC

Together in Leather
October 22-24 in Charlotte, NC

Black Rose XVII
November 5-7 in New Carrollton, MD

GMSMA Leatherfest
November 13 in NYC
(I am teaching Sensory Deprivation & Control)

Fetish Fair Fleamarket
December 17-19 in Boston, MA

Have fun! Play safe!
Lolita Wolf

Lolita speaking only for Lolita, of course!

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