Lolita Wolf's Predictions & Predilections

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Volume 9, Number 13 © Copyright 2003 by Lolita Wolf – Material may

not be reproduced in whole or in part without prior written consent of

the copyright holder. The views expressed herein are exclusively those

of the author and do not represent the views of any other person or any

organization with which the author may be associated.



“I think the best we can do is to assume that the right approaches

will be the ones that emerge by courageously facing some realities

squarely and honestly, without being influenced by personal agendas,

needing to paint a rosy picture of things, or needing to be ‘politically


– Guy Baldwin



The origins of Lolita’s Predictions & Predilections began back in 1995.

This has always been the way I stay in contact with my friends. It is

the weekly update to what is happening in my life, what I think is

important in the SM scene and a planning tool for the coming week.

The P+P has evolved into more than a way to stay in touch with my circle

of friends and it now reaches thousands of readers per week.

For the past five years, Joe Gallagher has hosted the web version of the

P+P. Joe’s site,, has been a tremendous

resource to the community, providing a space where many leather

columnists could be read. I have been very fortunate to be included.

On more than occasion, Joe and I have had editorial disagreements about

the content of my column. I have always been very clear that these views

are my own (see the disclaimer above). I want to state my opinions freely.

After much soul-searching, I have come to the conclusion that I must pull

the P+P from

Thank you very much to Joe for hosting the P+P. It can now be seen on

the web at …and of course, you can still

subscribe to it via email (



I went out to Bond Con in Queens for the day on Friday. What a culture

shock! The main focus was in the exhibit hall with the various bondage

models being the center of attraction. There were all types of girls (and

one guy – Delano) and they really knew how to work the crowds of

“fan boys.” The models flirted and made arrangements to be tied up by

riggers who wanted to show off their tie-up skills. The fan-boys, mainly

single men (or men without their wives), stood around and watched.

Many had cameras and clicked away. They were oddly reminiscent of

Hellfire’s wankers, but these guys had their clothes on and did not touch


I hung out with Midori and Michael Blue and offered to perform small acts

of service. The two of them have teamed up to do a fabulous bondage

website ( Midori had a bondage frame with

her and suspended three different models during the time I was there.

She would look at them, study their bodies and ask them questions about

their level of experience and then just go to work. She took extra care with

a model who had never been suspended before. Once the models were up,

she would add some rope and loosen others and the suspension would

morph into a whole other position. Midori is very fluid.

I saw a bunch of people I know. Saw Lady J whom I hadn’t seen in years

and she looked great. The guys from Stationhouse were there and they

had cute camouflage swimsuits for women (

Also saw Leather By Danny, Rainbow Rope, Details and others.



M Blair presented at Lesbian Sex Mafia on Friday night. She taught all

the safety aspects and techniques of Cutting and then did a demo which

turned out beautifully. I really like the way she teaches – she is very

organized and complete.

After a bite to eat with other LSM folks, I headed over to meet up with

Boymeat and Neptune at the LURE. The LURE was packed! It seems

everyone who came into NYC for the Black Party and Night of 1000

Gowns and showed up at the LURE. We got to see a bunch of people

and catch up with them. It was also a big night for Neptune. Friday

was the last day of his slave contract and the beginning of slave

vacation. How is it that he always ends up uncollared at the LURE

during slave vacation? That drives me nuts. He’s too cute to be loose

at the LURE. At Midnight it was also Neptune’s birthday. He is now

25, which is a great age because that is when your car insurance rates

go down. To celebrate, he smoked cigars with Boymeat.

On Saturday night, I met up with Boymeat at Paddles. There was also

a huge crowd there with many from Bond Con and I had to wait in a line

outside to get in. It was tough finding a spot to play, but we finally did,

and I beat the crap out of him. Floggers. Unrestrained. He would yell

in a primal way and jump up and down. I felt very strong and I hit him

very hard. A few times he sank to one knee, “Get up! I’m not done.”

He would get up and we would keep going. Finally, he collapsed on the

floor sobbing. Oh, yeah.

On Sunday, I work Neptune up early (1pm) and dragged him out to the

TES Party, held at Nutcracker Suite. TES has not played at the Nut in

over a year and much of the place has been renovated. It looked really

beautiful. In celebration of his birthday, I allowed him to pick the scene

and he chose bondage. I took my prettiest rope and laid down a harness

and then layered more over his arms and legs. The colors wove in and he

giggled, remembering our first date four years ago when I tied him up at

Hellfire, “I seem to always inspire you to break symmetry.” I chose some

vet wrap that color-coordinated with the rope and wrapped his head. I

added bungie cords so that he could bounce. We were in the medical

room where I turned off the white lights and kept the blue lights on low.

It looked really pretty. I need to get more bungie cords.



Slave Trade by Susan Wright, Book 1 of the Slave Trade Trilogy, published

by Pocket Books will be released in April 2003.

Slave Trade is a provocative new science fiction saga of slavery and

rebellion. Human slaves can’t defy their alien masters – or can they?

Rose Rico never believed the rumors, that the government was secretly

selling human beings to the Alphas in exchange for advanced alien technology.

The idea that human sex slaves were a luxury item throughout the galaxy was

just too ridiculous to take seriously–until Rose found herself, along with

hundreds of other human captives, bound for the far reaches of space, and

compelled to cater to the depraved desires of her new alien masters. As a

rule, pleasure slaves don’t live very long, especially the stubborn ones. But

Rose refuses to give up. Someday, somehow, she’ll win back her freedom-

or die trying!

Susan Wright writes nonfiction books on art and popular culture, including

SM Classics and Destination Mars, and is also the author of nine Star Trek

novels, including Dark Passions 1 & 2, Gateways: One Small Step, Badlands,

and Sins of Commission. Susan is the Spokesperson for the National

Coalition for Seuxal Freedom (NCSF), a national organization that supports

the rights of consenting adults in the SM-leather-fetish, swing, and polyamory

communities. Info:



Long time readers will remember me posting occasionally about my friend,

Pat McCarty of New Orleans. About 4 years ago Pat was diagnosed with a

rare form of carcinoid cancer. It is a slow growing type of cancer. Over the

past few years he has taken chemo and radiation treatments and takes daily

doses of medication for the cancer. Two weeks ago he took a turn for the

worse. This type of cancer causes numerous tumors and the tumors have

now infiltrated his spinal cord. They did emergency surgery 2 weeks ago to

remove one of the tumors that was pressing on his spinal cord. At this point

he is still in the hospital and is undergoing rehab. He is wheelchair bound

and unable to walk or stand by himself due to paralysis from the tumors on

his spinal cord. They have hope that he will get some movement back in his

legs…how much they are unsure of since almost every vertebrae in his spine

has these tumors. He starts radiation tomorrow to see if they can shrink the


Pat needs the support and prayers of the community. He does not have

email access right now and probably won’t have it for the next couple of

months. If anyone wants to contact him they can do so via his long time

firend, Kristil Thompson at



In mid May, New York City’s Fetish and BDSM communities are uniting

to present The NYC Fetish Marathon. This four-day non-stop festival of

alternative sexuality will be anchored by both The Black & Blue Ball X,

kicking things off on Thursday, May 15, and The Eulenspiegel Society’s

3 day kink extravaganza TES FEST, May 16 – 18. Many events, both large

and small, will be happening all over the city during the weekend including

around-the-clock dungeon access to NYC’s most famous public dungeon,

Paddles until the wee hours of Monday morning.

The Eulenspiegel Society, 2003 winner of Pantheon of Leather’s Large

Club of the Year Award, will host TES Fest at The Hotel Pennsylvania.

The hotel, one of the five largest in the City, is located at 7th Avenue at

33rd Street, in the heart of midtown and directly opposite Madison Square

Garden and Amtrak’s Penn Station so it is the single easiest hotel to get

to and find in all of Manhattan. Macy’s, the world’s largest department store,

is one block up the street. The Empire State building is around the corner.

The Theater District is a few blocks away. Prices for TES Fest go up April 1.

Info: and



Beloved American Leatherboy 2001, Bryan “Pup” Mullikin departed this

life Thursday March 13 at his home in Chicago. He was 33 years old. Pup

graced the Washington, DC leather community from 1999 until his May

2002 move to the Windy City. He had lived in New York and San Francisco

prior to the Nation’s Capital. He was no stranger to the Leather Community

across the country, he will always be known for his warm smile and

effervescent personality.

He proudly served as President of the DC Boys of Leather for two years.

He worked hard to help boys’ clubs across the country. It was his personal

mission to impress upon the community the importance of respect for all

individuals including his fellow boys.

Pup is survived by his mother and father of Northern Kentucky. He was

their only child. Burial will be held in his family’s hometown. Brian’s family

is in need of assistance with the burial arrangements, and several people

and clubs have already made generous donations. The DC Boys of Leather

have volunteered to collect donations on behalf of the community and

forward them on to the family. Make checks payable to DC Boys of Leather,

write “Bryan” in the memo line, and sent by mail to: DC Boys of Leather,

Attn: Bryan Mullikin Memorial, PO Box 53286, Washington, DC 20009.

Donations may also be made by PayPal to

and enter the subject as “Bryan Mullikin”



The Great Lakes Leather Alliance is producing its second annual GLLA

Weekend the weekend of August 22-24 in Indianapolis, IN. This pansexual

weekend will include five regional leather competitions: Great Lakes Leather

Sir, Great Lakes Leather boy, Great Lakes Ms. Leather Pride, Great Lakes

Boot Black, and Great Lakes Master/slave. The weekend will also encompass

a large and well-equipped play-space, some gender specific furnished

play-spaces, a vendors market, a hospitality suite, an ‘Exit to Eden’

Master/Mistress/slave auction for charity, kinky entertainment, nearly thirty

educational workshops and demos and many well-known speakers, judges,

and presenters.

The host hotel offers a special rate of only $51. The location of the host

hotel will be given only to registered attendees of the event, and all attendees

must register in advance because no packages will be sold on premises.

Register before May 1 for the early-bird rate of $60. Info:



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Friday 3.28 NYC

DomSubFriends Meeting: “Passionate duo whips: Part 2” with Eric &

jan and Special Guest Joe Wheeler. 8pm at Paddles, 250 W 26 St between

7 & 8th Aves. $8 (4 for members of DSF & affiliate members). Info:

Saturday 3.29 NYC

TES Meeting: “Extreme Scenes…. Hard Play” with Bo (aka Master J)

and Lady D. Ever wanted to play really hard? Or do that really intense

scene? Discuss and demo. 7:30-10pm at The Paddles, 250 W 26 St,

between 7 & 8 Aves. $8 ($4 for members of TES and other leather/SM orgs)

Info: 212-388-7022 or

This Monday and every Monday Cyberspace

Back by popular demand (maybe not so popular but surely demanding…):

The Eulenspiegel Not Til chat room on AOL 10pm-Midnight. NOT a TES

event but an unofficial place online where many TES members and friends

hang out and talk. No set topic. It is a good place to ask questions,

debate the answers, ask and receive advice, compare notes about the

scene, gossip about last week, plan the upcoming week, flirt a little, be

serious and not so serious. On AOL in the Town Square area of the People

Connection in a “member room” – not private: aol://2719:61-2-Eulenspiegel

not til. Add this location to your Favorite Places Folder so that it’s easy to

come back.

Tuesday 4.1 NYC

TES presents “Hypnosis In the Scene” with Jonathan Vale. 7:30pm at

75 Bleecker St, just east of Broadway. $8 ($4 for members of TES and

other SM/leather orgs). Info: 212-388-7022 or

Wednesday 4.2 NYC

TES Dominant Men/submissive women’s Group presents “Sinle Tail Whips”

with Eric & jan and Special Guest Joe Wheeler. 7:30pm at 75 Bleecker St,

just east of Broadway. $8 ($4 for members of TES and other SM/leather

orgs). Info: 212-388-7022 or



Binding arbitration yields $35,000 for bondage case:



Alden Baker, who faced civil commitment for interest in S&M, was

ruled not dangerous and released:

Have fun! Play safe!

Lolita Wolf

Lolita speaking only for Lolita, of course!

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