Lolita Wolf's Predictions & Predilections

Thursday: Midori is teaching Erotic Humiliation at Purple Passion, but it’s sold out. She’ll be back in 2011. Get your spots early!

Friday: “Artistic Needle Play” with Mistress Sade Ami at DSF.

Saturday: Head down to Philly for Philadelphia Leather Pride Night.

Sunday: The Baroness‘ Fetish Retinue returns on a new night (first Sunday of every month) and at a new place (White Noise, 225 Avenue B). www.Baroness.com

Monday: Poly Cocktails with Sex at Dawn author Christopher Ryan.

Tuesday: TES Meeting — “Cunt and Ball Busting” with Mistress Trish

Wednesday: Impact has moved to Wednesday because Thursday is a holiday.

James Deen, Kristina Rose, Mark Davis, Jessie Cox
and Lorelei Lee on sexandsubmission.com

On Thursday I went to a kissing party held in the private upstairs of a bar. The hostshave a bunch of rules (like “Ask before you touch,” which is exactly the kind of rule I like having at a party) and they require that everybody attends with a Pal. You are responsible for your Pal’s behavior and your Pal is responsible for your behavior. If one of you misbehaves or breaks a rule, then you are both kicked out. It just takes two people to complain for someone to get kicked out, so if you think someone is acting creepy, say something to the hosts. They were very friendly to me.

The dress code is creative and flirty. Dress for a party, not business attire or jeans/sneakers. People dressed festively and some wore fetish type clothing. I wore my leather chaps and boots and that was appropriate. I would also been good had I worn a corset. They also suggest bringing a toy (like a blindfold or dice or rope). I saw some people had brought restraints or a crop. I brought two lengths of soft pink nylon rope. It was a good choice, because the party is sex-positive vanilla but very BDSM friendly. I would not schlep a big toybag with heavy duty equipment there.

It was a friendly crowd and, at first, I saw a lot of talking, but not a lot of kissing. I met a hot girl who had remembered me from a Chemistry party back in December. She and her Pal had been to my flogging class the week before. We had lots to talk about. She expressed an interest in kissing me. I told her that I wanted to tie her up and then kiss her. She agreed. Oh, the hotness!

She is very beautiful with long dark curly hair and soft smooth skin. And she smelled good. She was quick to shed her bustier. I took my time tying her hands behind her back. Her breasts jutted out. “I like pain,” she told me. I began to go towards her nipples and she quickly added, “But not on my nipples.” As I backed off, she changed her mind, “Okay…”

I put my mouth on her nipples and gently flicked them with my tongue. She was very sensitive and a little play went a long way. I grabbed her hair. She told me how she loves having her hair pulled hard. I controlled her with her hair and teased her with my lips. First, her neck, her ear, her cheek and finally I kissed her lips.

“I wish you had brought a flogger!”

“I do not need a flogger to hit you.” I slammed my palm into her chest. She liked it. I slapped her and punched her and bodyslammed her and spanked her, She came and I kissed her some more.

Really hot girl. I love how she could so easily tell me what she likes. I hope I run into her again.

I left the party early because I had still not packed for my Chicago trip and I was leaving in the morning. As I left I saw what I thought was a game of Spin-The-Bottle.

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Kink & Fetish

A teabreak tawsing
Blow job
Caribbean Screw
His evil twin
My adventure in subbing continues
My Big Pink Robot
Play Party!
Sisters unite for the MFW, part 2
The one with the Violet Wand
Turning Lemons into Lemonade
Wanton Wednesday: Bitten

Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

Cunning Linguists Are We: Cunnilingus 101
Crushing Swingerphobia by Hitting the Club
Coming Out & Invisible Illness
Hold Up Stockings
My First Grue in Review
NSE – New Swinger Energy
Relationships and Emotions
Sadie’s Thoughts on Cheating. Confession #507
Three’s Company, Too – Dreaming of the Multi-Relationship Home
The Sisterhood
Thoughts on bisexuality and visibility
When I’m Done With Crying…
Why Lie, Why Cheat?

Erotic Writing

A Raise
Any Idea?
Buttlove
Building the Anticipation
Coming Back to Me
Extraordinary Uses for Ordinary Objects
“Enslaved The Story of Jen” Chapter 13
Fantasy: Waking Up
Hotel windows…
I Give Good Head
Lipstick Kisses
Like Mother, Like Daughter
My first little girly night
One Night With NSVG
Oh, What a Night!
Revisited
Rekindling
She
Something in the Air
sacks, part one
The Quick Ebony Fux
up lateish

Jason Miller and Bobbi Starr on DivineBitches.com

Thursday: Bondage or Impact? New York boys of Leather presents
a Basic Rope Bondage Demonstration with Scot Laney or… choose my Flogging 101 class at Purple Passion.

Friday Oct 15: Laine teaches “A Servant’s Toolkit – Guide To Being Prepared” at LSM. Then go to play at the Switch party

Saturday is the Mr American Rubber contest at the Eagle.

Sunday: Graydancer is in town and teaching “TIE ‘EM UP & FUCK ‘EM: Rope Bondage for the Impatiently Kinky”

Tuesday: “BDSM for Couples” at The Pleasure Chest.

Wednesday: The TES Dominant Women/submissive men’s group has a panel discussion with the Doom Maidens on “Fetishizing Female Physical Force.”

Lea Lexis on HogTied.com

This week is all about the NYC Fetish Tribe Experience. There’s parties four nights in a row and plenty of daytime activities including a shopping trip to Purple Passion with 20% off everything in the store.

Tuesday: TES presents “A Tale of Two Histories” with Justin John Costello. He’ll discuss the histories of both the Leather and the BDSM communities from the Marquis de Sade, to the 303rd Bombardment Troop and more.

Mark Davis and Jynx Maze on SexAndSubmission.com

From the Creators of the Ultimate Afterparty-Vegas, Bondage bus Montreal, Suspension & Impact NYC comes the…

NYC Fetish Tribe Experience
Save the dates, October 7-11
Four nights of fetish fun in The City That Never Sleeps!

The NYC Fetish Tribe Experience is an innovative approach to expanding your kinky horizons while simultaneously providing the most unique opportunity to explore The Big Apple ever offered.

We will deliver an interactive experience epitomizing the Tribe philosophy of inclusion and cooperation coupled with non-stop opportunities to socialize and play as you create meaningful connections with like-minded kinksters and discover the sights and sounds of the greatest city on Earth.

Prepare to be taken beyond the convention model, to exceed the party concept, and to be part of the groundbreaking NYC Fetish Tribe EXPERIENCE!

Join us over Columbus Day weekend, October 7-11, for a fetish event unlike any other, designed to get you out of the dungeon and into (gasp!) the light of day! We have arranged many excursions designed for you to experience some of the best of what New York City has to offer while you mingle and meet folks from around the country and make new kinky friends.
Don’t worry! You’ll still get all the classes, demos, seminars, parties and play, play, play you’ve come to expect from a multi-day fetish convention!

Often imitated, never duplicated, Tribe parties have redefined the standard by which all fetish parties are measured. The NYC Fetish Tribe Experience delivers four knock-out nights of non-stop party power play! NYC Fetish Tribe parties have become legendary in New York City and across the country. People travel from all over the US to experience the now infamous “Tribe Vibe”. Make not mistake we take no credit, for ultimately it’s all about the people and attitude of tribesman that make it work so well.

Day time fun excursions include:
•  Play croquet in your finest undergarments on the lawn of Governors Island – hosted by NYC TNG
(Saturday at 2 pm.)

•  Sunrise Bondage and Bagels on da Brooklyn Bridge – hosted by KinkyJews. Do not miss this photo op. (Saturday Morning 5 am after Impact party.)

•  Be on TOP of the Empire State Building. See NYC like never before.  Be Kink Kong!  (Sunday at 1pm)

•  Classes for beginners and experts alike on Suspension, rope, steel, whips, floggers and much more taught by NYC’s leading BDSM sexperts. (Sunday at 4:30 pm.)

•    NYC original Turkish bathhouse – Relaxation, sauna, plunge pools, steam rooms, spa treatments and more with an old time NYC flare!

•  Organized Fetish shopping tours (“I just love what you are not wearing”) Purple Passion, The Baroness, Flame Job Leather, Vampire Freaks

….and the Parties!?!

Do you want to PARTY until 4 am?  NYC Fetish Tribe parties have become legendary in New York City and across the country.  People travel from all over the US and the world to experience our one of a kind events.   The NYC Fetish Tribe Experience delivers four knock-out nights of non-stop party power play!

NOCTURNE CABARET $15
IMPACT PLAY PARTY (Ruber Latex Showcase) at Rebel $20
DRESS to {XCESS COSTUME BALL at Element $25
SUSPENSION at The Delancey $15

•    [Nocturne. Tribe mixer and cabaret show (Thursday Oct 7)
•    [Impact play party and Rubber, latex showcase (Friday Oct 8
•    [Dress to {xcess-Costume ball (Saturday Oct 9)
•    [Suspension a play soiree’ (Sunday Oct 10)
Convene with your kinky kinfolk in the Greatest City in the World, and then set out together to explore both the who’s and what’s of NYC! Featuring multiple parties, outings, classes and other unexpected events, and surprise guests, the TRIBE EXPERIENCE will be the total package! Keep your ears peeled!  Registration information coming soon!
Be Tribe!

For more info, advanced tickets and all access passes- www.Fetishtribe.com

The “Easy A” movie portrays a gay kid pretending to have sex with a girl in order to stop the bullying he was getting at high school. But too often life does not have such easy answers for LGBT youth. Because of bullying, five gay teens have committed suicide in the past three weeks. What a way to start the school year!

But it’s not just kids bullying other kids. There’s Andrew Shirvell, the assistant Attorney General of Michigan who is stalking and bullying Chris Armstrong, a gay student who is President of the Michigan Student Assembly.

Dan Savage has started the It Gets Better Project on YouTube reaching out to LGBT youth telling them to hang in there; it’ll be better when they are grown up. And there’s also The Trevor Project which is suicide prevention for LGBT youth.

I very much appreciate suicide prevention, but I really want to see the hate stop. Kids need to be educated to be open to people who are different. Whether they are different because of sexual orientation, gender identity, race, religion or whatever. I am asking for acceptance, not just tolerance. It starts with the adults!

Thursday: SESSIONz is a good little event for play at CHINA1.

Friday: Master Vito is teaching Beginner to Intermediate Bondage at DSF.

Saturday: CineKink presents “A Taste of Kink: Bite The Apple,” a special screening of film and video shorts from New York directors.

Sunday: MAsT Metro NY presents: Discipline, Punishment, Correction: Correcting Behavior

Monday: Nina Hartley is teaching a free Blow Job class at The Pleasure Chest.

Tuesday: The first monthly munch of the NYC Kink Photographers Group at Local 138, 138 Ludlow St.

Wednesday: Pleasure Salon is my favorite bar night of the month.

Leo Forte and Master Avery on boundgods.com

Thursday: Sinclair Sexsmith will be teaching “A Dyke’s Secrets for Cunnillingus” at Purple Passion.

Friday thru Sunday: 2nd annual Sacred Sex Roundup. I’m teaching a class on Sunday.

Saturday: LSM meets for dinner and socializing before going to Submit. With the Butch Voices Conference in town, the Submit Party will be hopping!

Sunday: Suspension party at The Delancey.  Woot!

Maitresse Madeline and Mckenzie Lee on WhippedAss.com

I remember 3rd grade.   I think that is when I learned multiplication and addition.  Thank you, Mrs. Gusten. You were my favorite elementary school teacher.  Shortly after, I used those multiplication/addition skills when I was taught about Pi. Pi = 3.14 and it’s the way to convert diameter from circumference and vice versa.

So, after school I never again used Pi.  Did not need it and never thought about it.  I learned so much useless stuff in school.

But now, having a part -time job at Purple Passion, I finally have found a practical use for Pi.  Dildos!  And cock rings!  I am having so much fun with this job!