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Monotony (not really)

August 16th, 2009 · 2 Comments

I’m excited about going to Floating World. It’s not the event so much but what Don Quixote and I are going to do there. We are going to do a weekend of exclusivity. Exclusivity or, as I jokingly refer to it, monotony. We’re putting the poly in our relationship on hold and playing only with each other. This is very different from the way we always do things. While we have attended lots of events with each other and hang together and play together, each one of us always has plenty of play dates with other people.

I am very committed to being poly. I could never be anything else. And for the past four years, I have been very committed to being single. Single to the point where I have been ridiculously overcompensating in my relationship with Don Quixote. My friends make fun of me, however, my fanaticism with us not being a couple has probably been just the right thing in our relationship.

So, now, we are going out of our normal comfort zone for the weekend. It’s going to be a weekend where we are going to explore being together and we are also adding a D/s dynamic. We are generally both switches and we are pretty fluid in our dynamic and the power makes its way back and forth. We are pretty comfortable with that. This weekend, I’m going to be in charge and he’s going to wear a collar. He’s going to belong to me. We have never formally done that for an entire weekend.

Floating World is going to be a good weekend to try this. I find the event to be a bit overwhelming. It’s very big and spread out, making it tough to meet up with people. This is made even more difficult because cell phones are banned there. And last year, with the class schedule running late into the night, making plans with some of my friends was next to impossible. I’ll teach my classes and then won’t have to worry about any other scheduling. We’ll do what we want to do when we want to do it.

So, what does this all mean for the two of us in the future? I dunno. It’s an experiment. It does not have to mean anything at all. We both think that this is really hot. That should be enough, don’tcha think?

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