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Mixed Space

August 16th, 2008 · 7 Comments

So, in addition to the big general dungeon here, they have a men’s space, a women’s space and a mixed space.  I think it is great that they have men’s and women’s space but I am not sure what mixed space is.  What does that mean?  Does that mean there’s no same sex couples allowed in there?  Like is this the homophobe area?  I don’t get it.

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7 responses so far ↓

  • 1 Dara // Aug 17, 2008 at 1:09 am

    My personal impression was that the third space was “Couple’s only” space. I’m assuming that means a non-voyeur area where couples/threesomes/etc of various genders and orientations can play without being watched. I’ll admit though that the way it was arranged and labeled makes it unclear.

    ~ Dara

  • 2 Lolita // Aug 17, 2008 at 11:43 am

    It’s listed in the program book as mixed space, but I now see that in the actual dungeon, it is a Couples Only space which does make more sense.

  • 3 mimi of sexagenarian and the city // Aug 18, 2008 at 9:46 am

    lolita, i just saw a headline from the Olympics in the online NYT — i can’t find it now — they just
    changed it — but it went something like this,
    that so-and-so had not gotten a medal
    for a moment i was trying to understand what that meant, and i thought, Hey, are we in Lolita territory??? then i realized it was another kind of ‘tying’ and another kind of ‘bars.’

    that’s what it’s like before i have my second cup of coffee.

    xx mimi

  • 4 mimi of sexagenarian and the city // Aug 18, 2008 at 9:52 am


    that was nastia liukin who ‘tied’ he kexin.
    but didn’t tie her in lolita’s sense.

  • 5 Lolita // Aug 18, 2008 at 5:37 pm

    Ack! I looked again on Sunday and there were two signs. One said” Couples Only” and the other said “Mixed Gender.”

  • 6 Dan Andersen // Aug 18, 2008 at 6:00 pm

    The three spaces are for people who don’t feel comfortable playing in large spaces. Sometimes you need a smaller space while you’re getting used to a really big event.

    They aren’t “homophobe” or heterophobe” – just “people like me so I can feel comfortable and at home in a strange space” places.

    We changed the “couples” to “mixed gender” because gay couples are couples, too.

    Most people move to the main space once they’re comfortable in the surroundings, but they’re available anytime someone wants to retreat into a more intimate area.

  • 7 Scott // Aug 19, 2008 at 1:31 pm

    This was our first big event and we did end up using the couples only. I thought the 3 rooms were meant for more privacy which we utilized. Each one had “couples only” but each had the symbols for MALE-MALE, FEMALE-FEMALE and MIXED. I didn’t see it as homophobic at all. We had a great time and look forward to next year. We hated we had to leave early on Sunday do to wife/mistress getting ill.

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