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The cycle of hate

August 20th, 2007 · No Comments

I didn’t really have a whole lot to say about IBARW, but then I read about the hate mail that Midori received. It’s based in hate that has been handed down from another generation. How easily we can continue the hate.

My family was torn apart during WWII. My grandparents were murdered in the camps. As a young girl, my mother was forced to work in a factory on dangerous machines. I can go on further about the injustices and horror stories of my family’s past. It’s nightmarish. I was taught to never forget. Forgive, but never forget. It’s difficult to forgive.

I remember having to go to Germany on a business trip and how that freaked my family out at first. In the end, they were all okay with my going. I went and braced myself for the unexpected, but I kept an open mind. The Germans I met were genuine and warm to me. I was able to speak the language and they asked me how I knew it to speak it so well. I told them of my background and they were all cool. This was a new generation of people and they also had to live with their history. We got to know each other and we liked and respected each other.

I don’t want to be ruled by my family’s history. Did it impact my life? Yes, it did. I carry some of the scars of their experience. I always will. But I also want to see people as individuals and not as a race or nationality. I don’t want to blame somebody for something that they never did.

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