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LOLITA’S PREDICTIONS & PREDILECTIONS

August 13, 2003

Volume 9, Number 31

© Copyright 2003 by Lolita Wolf

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QUOTATION OF THE WEEK

“…the proliferation of one-or- two contestant

Leather contests is/has become less and less

entertaining.”

– Cain Berlinger

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PUPPY’S FIRST TRIP TO PADDLES

It was Puppy’s first time to Paddles. We arrived

within five minutes of each other and she was

standing with friends near the entrance at the bar.

I offered to show her around the place and hooded

her with an airline pillowcase. She could only see

where the lights were – not very helpful in a low

lit club with many dark corners. I led her around

to the various stations and guided her hands so

that she could fell the chains and the cuffs, the

padded benches and the bars of the cages. When

she felt the GYN table, she thought it was another

padded bench… until I put her hands on the

stirrups, she gasped, “Oh, that’s dirty!”

Later, we played in the back. I flogged her until

her skin started to peel. Well, she was sunburn.

Afterwards, we went upstairs to the corner with

the beanbags that seems like a dog bed. A

perfect spot for aftercare and cuddling. We

watched Boymeat top Cookie and then they joined

us in a puppy pile. Puppy was packing a dick and

Boymeat had the bright idea to ask for a condom

and went down on her. Puppy’s eyes opened wide.

Here was a bio guy who knew how to suck dyke

boy dick! Cookie and I cuddled and watched and I

played with her pussy. Puppy liked how Boymeat

sucked her dick. Next thing I know Puppy is using

her foot to play with Boymeat’s dick. Yowsa! A

big night for Puppy at Paddles. She’ll be back.

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BI/POLY STUDY

Geri D. Weitzman, PhD is doing a study about the

identity development of people who are both

bisexual and polyamorous. She is looking for

survey participants who are bisexual,

polyamorous, and at least 18 years old. See

www.thesane.com/bipolysurvey

Dr. Geri Weitzman, a respected therapist and

researcher friendly to alternative lifestyles, is

conducting an anonymous internet-based study on

the identity development of people who are both

bisexual and polyamorous. If you are bisexual and

polyamorous, please take ten minutes to complete

this survey – the more data Dr. Weitzman has, the

more facts there are available to support bi-poly

life choices and inclinations.

You will find the survey at

www.thesane.com/bipolysurvey

For more info about Dr. Weitzman, go to

www.gaylesta.org/pwpgweitzman.htm or

www.numenor.org/~gdw/psychologist/

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TNG3: BDSM IN THE BIG CITY

Boymeat insisted that I mention TNG3 yet again.

It’s September 19-21 in NYC and it’s for people in

the age range of 18-35. Meeting in a number of

locations, including some of New York City’s

hottest dungeons, clubs, and fetish stores, the

event will provide many opportunities for

discussion and networking as well as a fetish

party and not one, but two play parties.

Boymeat is in charge of programming and is

really proud of what he has lined up:

Leadership:

TNG Panel – Intro to TNG Groups – Boymeat

BDSM Community & Activism – Susan Wright

Getting Involved Beyond TNG

Leaving TNG – The World Beyond – Josh

Promoting TNG – Heath

Relationships:

Intro to Master/slave Relationships

Polyamoury Panel – Petal, Scherzoid, Spike,

Daisy, Tessa

Submissives Panel – led by Luna

SM without DS – Delano, Devina, Miss Sarah

Trangendered Panel – Kerry, Cory,

MommaBear Trish

Skills:

Emergencies in the Scene – Neptune

Boot-blacking – jim

Mind Fucks – LthrEdge (www.lthredge.com)

Bondage TNG Style – Bridget and Mortis

Pervertables – Tone

Registration is just $75 now.

Info: www.tng3.org

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INTERNATIONAL PUPPY AND TRAINER CONTEST

Dust off your bowls, polish your collars, pull out

your toys and spread out the newspaper!

International Puppy and Trainer Contest Weekend

will be held September 5-6 in Houston, TX.

Pups and Trainers will be scored separately but

their combined total points will determine the

new International Puppy & Trainer for 2003.

Charities for the weekend include the Wishful

Thinking Foundation and P.A.W.S. (Pets Are

Wonderful Support).

The weekend will include Friday night Meet

and Greet, Vendor’s Market, Workshops, Lunch,

Dinner Reception, Contest and Entertainment.

Host hotel for this year will be the Sheraton Suites

in the Galleria. Info: www.intlpuppycontest.

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Q & A OF THE WEEK

Q. I’m sure I’ve asked this before but can’t

find the answer. For soaking/care of canes is

mineral oil or linseed oil best or is there an

alternative?

A. I have been very lucky to be mentored by

one of the leading caning experts in the country:

Hilton of Purple Passion. He taught me to use

linseed oil once or twice a year, depending on

how dry your climate is. However, stripped

natural canes are best when soaked in water.

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EVENTS OF THE WEEK

Thursday 8.14 NYC

TES Board of Directors Meeting. TES Members

Only. Members may come and sign up to speak on

a particular subject or just come and observe.

7:30pm at Purple Passion, 211 W 20 St. Free.

Info: www.tes.org

Friday 8.15 NYC

DFS presents “TBA.” 7:45pm at Paddles, 250 W

26th St, between 7 & 8 Aves. $8 ($4 for DSF &

affiliate members). Info:

www.DomSubFriends.com

Saturday 8.16 Jackson, NJ

TES Men’s and Women’s Groups Co-Sponsor:

“Leather Family Day at Six Flags Great Adventure.”

Meet at the park at 11am. For people who would

like to take public transportation, NJ Transit has a

special deal: $47 which includes round-trip bus

and entrance to the parks. Buses leave Port

Authority between 8:30am and 9:30am at Gate

324. Buses leave Great Adventure between 8pm

and 8:30pm. No advance notice to TES is required

to attend this event. Info: www.tes.org

Saturday 8.16 NYC

Bear Cafe sponsors the second Bear Picnic of

the summer 1-6pm on the “South Lawn” in

Riverside Park, at 74th Street and Riverside Drive.

Look for the Bear Pride flag waving in the breeze,

and a lounging crowd of big, hairy guys and their

admirers. Enjoy a pleasant afternoon of

camaraderie; playUno or Twister, toss a football

or Frisbee, share some food, talk to some woofy

guys. Bring your own food and beverages for

you and your guests to enjoy. Food can also be

purchased at a deli located on 72nd Street and

West End Avenue; alcoholic beverage containers

should not be brought into the park. Also bring

your blanket, chair, games, and suntan lotion as

desired. The picnic’s location has both sun and

shade. $1-2 donation per person to cover the

permit. Rain date is Sunday, August 17. Info:

groups.yahoo.com/group/bearcafe

Saturday 8.16 NYC

GMSMA Lick’n ‘n Stuff’n in The City. The annual

membership renewal mailing party is looking for

volunteers to help collate the mailing, stuff, seal

and stamp envelopes, and share some laughs.

Meet other members and catch up on each

other’s summer adventures. 1-4pm at the GLBT

Community Center. RSVP/info: info@gmsma.org

or just show up.

Saturday 8.16 NYC

TES Novice Excursion.meets at 9:30pm at

Chelsea GalleryRestaurant, 72 7 Ave between 14

& 15 Sts. Come alone or as a couple. No dress

code. At around 10:30pm, after dinner, coffee or

a snack, we’ll go over to Paddles together. Info:

www.tes.org

Sunday 8.17 NYC

D/s Sunday Brunch Noon-2pm at Chelsea Gallery

Restaurant, 72 7 Ave, between 14 & 15 St. Info:

http://slave_catherine.tripod.com/brunch or

917-470-4738

This Monday and every Monday Cyberspace

Back by popular demand (maybe not so popular

but surely demanding…): The Eulenspiegel Not Til

chat room on AOL 10pm-Midnight. NOT a TES event

but an unofficial place online where many TES

members and friends hang out and talk. No set

topic. It is a good place to ask questions, debate

the answers, ask and receive advice, compare notes

about the scene, gossip about last week, plan the

upcoming week, flirt a little, be serious and not so

serious. On AOL in the Town Square area of the

People Connection in a “member room” – not private:

aol://2719:61-2-Eulenspiegel not til. Add this

location to your Favorite Places Folder so that it’s

easy to come back.

Tuesday 8.19 NYC

CineKink, a new organization and festival

dedicated to kink-positive depictions in film and

television hosts a launch party featuring surprises,

door prizes and 2-for-1 Santorum Slings. 6-10pm

at Remote Lounge, 327 Bowery, at 2nd Street.

No cover, but rsvp@cinekink.com

Tuesday 8.19 NYC

TES Meeting: “Focus on the Submissive.” This

panel will focus on issues relevant to submissives

& bottoms, such as corporal play, D&S, relationships,

etc, from THEIR perspective 7:30pm at 75 Bleecker

St, just east of Broadway. $8 ($4 for members of

TES and other SM/leather orgs). Info:

212-388-7022 or www.tes.org

Wednesday 8.20 NYC

TES Dominant Women/submissive men’s Group:

“Exploratorium.” Lady Sabrina, Goddess Roze

and Mistress Annette present a hands-on skills

class on flogging, spanking and the application of

clothespins. Each presenter will discuss practical

skills, safety concerns as well as the erotic use of

each implement. Bring your toys, bring a bottom.

Audience participation is encouraged. $8 ($4 for

members of TES and other SM/leather orgs).

Info: 212-388-7022 or www.tes.org

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LINKS OF THE WEEK

Puppy and colton went cross country w/ friends:

http://www.puppyboy76.com

People are always asking about the Old Guard:

http://www.oldeguard.com

Have fun! Play safe!

Lolita Wolf

Lolita speaking only for Lolita, of course!

http://members.aol.com/lolitassc

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