LOLITA’S PREDICTIONS & PREDILECTIONS – May 7, 2003
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QUOTATION OF THE WEEK
“All the people like us are We, and everyone else is They.”
– Rudyard Kipling
Wow! What a vacation. I came back fully rested but now once again I
am swamped with all sorts of deadlines.
I spent my vacation sailing the British Virgin Islands on a 46 foot sloop
with Peggy aka O, her parents and Midori. O’s parents are a hoot.
Earl makes loads of bad puns and then Al hits him. We see from where
O gets her SM inclinations. Al, a long time subscriber to the P+P, has
over the years asked O such questions as “What’s a buttplug?” and
“What do you do in a sling?” It is interesting to have my girlfriend’s
Mom reading about our exploits. (Hi Al!)
We got to do a lot of fun things. Midori and I did some scuba diving,
including a two tank dive to The Rhone. We also snorkeled with O,
climbed a trail to explore the Baths at Virgin Gorda, read a lot and swam.
We ate great food: everything from lobsters to conch fritters to this kick
ass risotto in Leverick Bay.
Midori was fortunate to spend her birthday with us. I found a service
with a boat delivery that brought us a birthday cake and we surprised her.
Because she had no submissive to substitute and take her spankings, O
and I delivered them to her. Midori with a red butt! She has pictures!
AMERICAN BROTHERHOOD WEEKEND 2003
By AJ the Stalkerboy
Last June, Frank Nowicki, Max Steiner, Scott Reikofski, and Schelli
Dittmann became the new producers of American Brotherhood Weekend
taking over for Jim Cobb. I had been to ABW first in 1998 and last year JP
hooked me up with Jim and the ABW staff who very graciously took me in
and allowed me to work a few security shifts. Having as much fun as I did
last year I knew that I wanted to return and maybe do some volunteer time
With the new change of leadership, I am sure that a lot of people were
waiting around to see how the new ABW crew would workout. There are a
lot of people out there who hate change and were probably waiting for a
disaster. All that I can say is keep waiting if you must waste your time.
Change is good and this was an amazing weekend. I have never been so
proud and so honored to work with such an amazing group of people. In
just four short days I have managed to fall in love. These folks know what
they are doing and really know how to throw an event. Most important is
that they know how to treat staff and volunteers. The people who work with
the ABW team are treated with respect and dignity. While I know that
some people take offense about this being a gay event, this event needs
to be supported and embraced by all as a means to honor and support
the gay leather community.
I have noticed that in our community there are a ton of self proclaimed
Tops, Daddies, Mommies and Masters who spew on and on about the
importance of family. What is coming out of their mouths in no way shape
or form reflects what is actually in their hearts. When the ABW people
folks talk about family they mean it. This is truly a leather family event
and reunion. There is care and concern not just for the community at
large, but also for individuals.
The event started on Wednesday night at the Eagle with early
registration. This was a great chance to meet a lot of folks before the
weekend went into full swing. Thursday folks met up at Titan for a fun
night of drinks and the Feygele Feud pitting the IML’s against the ABW’s.
By Friday the event was in full swing with eye openers, cocktail parties,
receptions and off site play parties. On Saturday a very special
celebration of brotherhood was held for Jeff Baxter and Brian “Pup”
Mullikin. It was officiated by Judy Tallwing (thanks for listening to my
cat stories) and Al Santora (thanks for making me eat dinner). It was a
very nice ceremony bringing together many traditions. There were not
too many dry eyes in the house. Saturday night was a buffet dinner and
the basket auctions. The basket auctions were a lot of fun with Lenny
Broberg and Jo Arnone (thanks for teaching me how to eat beef jerky)
as the Auctioneers. The auction raised money that will be split among
the new ABW family for their travel funds (I am not sure of the amount
since I accidentally packed my notes). Funds were also raised for Judy
Tallwing’s Dandelion animal shelter in Washington State.
On Sunday the event continued with more eye openers and the
conclusion of the event. Bill Mitchell from San Diego is the new American
Leatherman, sheryl dee from San Diego is the New American
Leatherwoman and Boy Jeff from San Francisco is the new American
leatherboy. A California sweep!
At the end of the month I will be leaving DC and moving back to Chicago.
ABW was my last big outing as a DC resident and I would like to thank
the following ABW people for their friendship, encouragement and support.
Max, Schelli, Scott, Ryan and Jerry: Thank you for a wonderful event and
a wonderful weekend. Thank you for letting me in and giving me the space
to work. Thank you for taking a chance on me. Thank you for the hugs and
for sharing yourselves. Thank you for saying thank you, I look forward to
doing this again.
MJ, JP, Alex, Gloria, Ken, and Mike KZ: You guys rock! I have enjoyed
getting to know each one of you. Our talents are so varied, yet I feel as if
I were part of a World Series team getting to work with and hang out with
you. Let’s do it again.
And of course to my friend Lolita who every now and again let’s me write
articles for the P&P. Thank you for being patient with me, thank you for
giving me a place to put words to my feelings, and a big thank you for
making me up my standards.
**** Thank you to AJ Stalkerboy for writing this review. BTW AJ left out
this big news: at the event she was awarded the Jeff Baxter Award for her
service over ABW weekend. Congratulations! I am proud of you! ****
PADDLES IS OPEN AGAIN
Paddles reopened again Friday night. The Oriental room with the red
furniture is not included as that is part of Pandora’s Box which remains
closed. The other change is that no on-site created foods (milkshakes,
waffles, etc.) is being served. They still sell sodas, brownies, etc. They
are working on the permit to serve food. I want my ice cream! But this
is great news – I am so happy that Paddles is back!
CONGRATULATIONS TO THE CRUCIBLE
The Crucible is finally legal. It has taken two years for them to get all
their ducks in a row but now the club has been fully approved, inspected
and finally licensed! This is great news, because The Crucible is one of
the best clubs in the country. To celebrate, Black Rose will have its next
social there. Info: http://www.the-crucible.com
CONGRATULATIONS TO SENSUOUS SADIE
I have been enjoying Sensuous Sadie’s SCENEsubmissions online
newsletter for a while. Now she her first book has been published: “It’s
Not About The Whip: Love, Sex, and Spirituality in the BDSM Scene.”
This is a collection of her columns that follows her experiences through
discovering her kinky orientation, dating, and becoming a leader in our
close-knit community. The book is available directly at:
IVOR DEBINA’S SADOJUDAISM
Fetishes Boutique presents for five nights only: SadoJudaism. Ivor
Dembina, the world’s only British, Jewish, fetish standup comedian will
be performing his solo show at the Shubin Theater, 407 Bainbridge St,
Philadelphia May 21-25. Shows are at 7pm ($10) and 9pm ($12). Box
office inquiries: 215 829 4986 (between noon and 10pm). You can see
a brief animated trailer beforehand at http://www.thinkbeforeyoulaugh.com
NCSF WINNER GOES TO IML 2003
The National Coalition for Sexual Freedom recently held a raffle for a Trip
for Two to the 25th Anniversary of the International Mr. Leather Contest.
NCSF raised over $2700 through this raffle! “NCSF wishes to thank Bill
Stadt and the International Mr. Leather organization for making this
fundraiser possible,” said Glenda Rider. “We’d also like to thank everyone
who participated by selling and buying tickets.”
Over 31 individuals and groups sold tickets, with Avatar Los Angeles
selling the most at $715. Ticket sales at the Leather Leadership
Conference 7 in Boston brought in $500 and the American Brotherhood
Weekend in Washington, DC brought in $880. Jack Rinella sold the
winning ticket to Lynn Schornick of Waukegan, IL.
FINAL COUNTDOWN TO IML
International Mr. Leather 2003 (IML) celebrates its 25th Anniversary,
Thursday, May 22 through Monday, May 26, 2003 (Memorial Day
Weekend) in Chicago. About 400 gay leathermen gathered in Chicago in
1979 for the first IML contest. Today, the event has grown to be an
annual tradition for thousands in the leather community – drawing
contestants and attendees from around the globe.
The Palmer House Hilton, official host hotel, is currently full, however
check for room cancellations. A new block of rooms is available at the
nearby Chicago Hilton and Towers, 720 N. Michigan Ave. Reservations:
800-HILTONS or http://www.imrl.com
Big change: IML’s annual Black and Blue Ball, formerly hosted by The
Chicago Eagle, will be held this year at Metro, 3730 N. Clark Street in
Chicago. As usual the weekend event includes the 25th Annual
International Mr. Leather Competition, the Annual International Mr.
Bootblack Competition, the huge Leather Market, plus numerous
celebrations including Salute (post-contest celebration) at the Palmer
House Hilton and the annual IML Victory Celebration Party at Chicago’s
House of Blues.
Frank Nowicki, hailed by some columnists as the best leather emcee,
will host the contest. For more details about the event and registration and
airline discounts: http:// www.imrl.com
LthrEdge has started a new project called 100 Bloggers. He is looking to
get more kinky people to create blogs (short for web long, an online journal).
LthrEdge describes this project as “either a wild and crazy experiment or
as an attempt to create a greater sense of online leather community,
debunk porn images of how leathermen live, and record the lived
experience of leatherfolk.”
Blogging is free and easy. Get more details at
BEYOND VANILLA RELEASED INTO THEATERS
Claes Lilja’s Beyond Vanilla made it’s NYC debut at the third annual TES
NYC SM Film Festival. But now it is finally getting into movie theaters.
Strand Releasing is distributing it. The opening is going to be in New York
City at the Quad Cinema on 13th Street on Friday, May 16th. For more
info about the film, see http://www.beyondvanilla.net
Q & A OF THE WEEK
Q. First let me say it was good to see you again at LLC. I saw in your
P&P last week that you went to a leather seder. I would love to hold one
next year. Do you know where I can get info on how to run one?
A. Laura Antoniou, best known as author of The Marketplace series,
and her partner, Karen, hosted the Leather Seder that I went to. They
also wrote/assembled the Haggadah. It is called Avadim Chayanu (Once
We Were Slaves) and you can download it for your own use at
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EVENTS OF THE WEEK
Friday 5.9 NYC
Applemunch 6:30pm at the Moonstruck Diner, 23 St. & 9 Ave.
Friday 5.9 NYC
DomSubFriends Meeting: “Welcome Back Paddles Social.” Celebrating
the reopening of Paddles. 8pm at Paddles, 250 W 26 St between 7 & 8th
Aves. $8 (4 for members of DSF & affiliate members).
Saturday 5.10 NYC
TES Intermediate Skills Workshop: “Spanking & Paddling” with Lolita.
Bring your toys and partners for this hands-on workshop as Lolita instructs
on technique, safety, and the other concepts involving this activity. 2-5pm
at The LGBT Center, 208 W 13 St, just west of 7th Ave.
$15 advance/$20 at the door ($5 discount for members of TES and other
leather/SM orgs). Info: 212-388-7022 or http://www.tes.org
Saturday 5.10 NYC
TES Dinner with Lolita and Michael & Laura from Paddles. 5:30-7pm at
Caffe Buon Gusto, 249 W. 26th St, between 7 & 8 Aves. No admission
charge, just pay for your own food & drinks. Info: 212-388-7022 or
Saturday 5.10 NYC
TES Spanking Group: “Spanking School Days” with Michael from
Paddles. The history of punishment spanking in schools … stories, role
play, spanking and caning … Bring your paddles, rulers and canes, for a
good old fashioned school paddling. Stay afterwards for discounted
admission to Paddles. $8 ($4 for members of TES and other SM/leather
orgs). Info: 212-388-7022 or http://www.tes.org
This Monday and every Monday Cyberspace
Back by popular demand (maybe not so popular but surely demanding…):
The Eulenspiegel Not Til chat room on AOL 10pm-Midnight. NOT a TES
event but an unofficial place online where many TES members and friends
hang out and talk. No set topic. It is a good place to ask questions,
debate the answers, ask and receive advice, compare notes about the
scene, gossip about last week, plan the upcoming week, flirt a little, be
serious and not so serious. On AOL in the Town Square area of the People
Connection in a “member room” – not private: aol://2719:61-2-Eulenspiegel
not til. Add this location to your Favorite Places Folder so that it’s easy
to come back.
Tuesday 5.13 NYC
TES Membership Meeting — Members Only. Come early for a quorum…
7:30pm at 75 Bleecker St, just east of Broadway. Free.
Info: 212-388-7022 or http://www.tes.org
Wednesday 5.14 NYC
TES Novice Group presents “Novice Exploratorium.” Novice Group
facilitators Bo (aka Master J) and Lady D will be bring their toys and invite
you to do the same. Participate, ask questions or just watch as they help
you learn more about your toys and how to use them safely and effectively.
7:30pm at 75 Bleecker St, just east of Broadway. $8 ($4 for members of
TES and other SM/leather orgs). Info: 212-388-7022 or http://www.tes.org
Thursday 5/15 NYC
TES Presents: “The Black & Blue Ball X Official After-Hour Party… The
TES Fest Pre-Party.” Between the end of the Black and Blue Ball X and
the beginning of TES Fest is this most amazing after-hour play party. If
you’ve never been to one of these, you don’t know what you are missing!
This party will start late Thursday night (early Friday morning) at 2am. It
goes until 11am. No entry/re-entry after 6am. No alcohol please, but lot’s
of food, fun, and play! Check out www.nycfetishmarathon.com for more
details about all the great things going on this weekend!
LINKS OF THE WEEK
The only surfing I did this week was in the West Indies.
Have fun! Play safe!
Lolita speaking only for Lolita, of course!
Part Two of Two
Copyright 2003 Lolita Wolf