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Barbara Nitke’s Smooth Hotel

April 9th, 2010 · 2 Comments

SMOOTH HOTEL – New fashion photos by Barbara Nitke
Clothes by Tom and Linda Platt

at Gansevoort 69
69 Gansevoort Street
New York City
May 4 – 30, 2010

Gallery hours 24/7

Artists reception Monday May 3, 2010 6:00-8:00 pm

SMOOTH HOTEL, a fashion/art show in New York’s Meatpacking District, will feature Barbara Nitke’s provocative photographs of chic people misbehaving in anonymous hotel settings. The series is in collaboration with New York fashion designers Tom and Linda Platt.

Opening night will feature smooth drinks and Nitke’s models, overdressed at the bar in their photo wardrobe.

Well known and highly regarded in the sexual underground for her behind-the-scenes documentation of hardcore porn sets and her intensely intimate images of sadomasochists, Nitke begins a new career chapter as a fashion photographer.

Her choice of a launch pad in the formerly dangerous Meatpacking District was deliberate. Gansevoort 69 is in the same location where the landmark diner, Florent, once reigned 24/7 as the favorite neighborhood place to go before or after a kinky night out.

“I absolutely adored this neighborhood back in the ‘90’s. I loved Hellfire, the Lure, the Vault – the transvestite hookers on the streets – it was a fantastic place.” Nitke says nostalgically, “After it changed, I boycotted the whole area. But recently I’ve realized that I’ve made the same mainstream transition myself. So now I’m embracing the change by having my new show here.”

TOM AND LINDA PLATT are known for dressing the famous and the infamous. Their timeless clothes have graced the pages of international publications as well as the bodies of well-heeled women from the White House to Wigstock. The Platt’s simple, modern pieces are a perfect counterpoint to Nitke’s images of people caught up in complicated love stories

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Sucking Sleeping Beauty’s Cock

April 9th, 2010 · No Comments

Did you miss BDSM Night at the In The Flesh reading series?  Here is the video of me reading my story Luke Luscious from The Lust Chronicles, an anthology edited by Rachel Kramer Bussel.

If you can’t see the embedded video, the go see it at YouTube.

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NYC Weekly Leather Dates: April 8-15

April 8th, 2010 · No Comments

Thursday, April 8
LSM: “Ultimate Dildo Harness & Other Cool Pervertables quickie tips” w/ Midori
Queens Munch
NYC TNG party night
Impact party

Friday, April 9
DSF: “Fantasy Made Reality – BDSM Play Party and slave Auction”

Saturday, April 10
Rope Share
Fifth Annual KinkyJews Passover Seder

Sunday, April 11
New York Bondage Club

Monday, April 5
CV: “Hypnosis 101” w/ Ben

Tuesday, April 13
TES: “Fireplay and Fire Cupping 101” w/ Josh

Wednesday, April 14
TES Novice Group: “Basic Skills of Electrical Play” w/Dr. Clockwork

Holly Heart and Maestro on hogtied.com

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e[lust] #10

April 7th, 2010 · No Comments

Welcome to e[lust] – The 10th edition! Your source for sexual intelligence and inspirations of lust from the smartest & sexiest bloggers! Whether you’re looking for hot steamy smut, thought-provoking opinions or expert information, you’re going to find it here. Want to be included in e[lust] #11? Start with the rules, check out the schedule in the site’s sidebar and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!

~ This Week’s Top Three Posts ~

Negotiation – Not Nearly As Awkward As Having a Breakdown in PublicAll the worries about getting to know a new person (“Am I dressed ok?  Are they gonna like my stories about my grandma?”) get exaggerated when you’re talking about sex and desire…

Dollar Store DommeHe definitely can’t elude the dollops of toothpaste I dab onto his nipples. It takes a delicious second before he feels the cool burn penetrate his flesh. By that time I’m already up and selecting a plastic spatula from the credenza.

The Best of Both Worlds or Lost in Limbo?Whether intentional or unthinking, bisexual denial is a frustrating thing for bisexual, pansexual or ‘fluid’ people to have to deal with.

~ e[lust] Editress ~

Navigating Genderqueer in SuburbiaBut pray tell how do the rest of us navigate it? How the hell am I supposed to know if you identify as male or just like dressing like one?

~ Featured Post (Lilly’s Pick) ~

The Daddy Issue: Sexualizing AbuseI needed to walk through this fear, and turn it into pleasure. I needed to prove to myself that he hadn’t broken me. That he hadn’t changed who I was to become. That I was not affected by what he did. That he didn’t abuse me.

See also: Pleasurists #69 and #70 for all your sex toy review needs.


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15 minute phone sex
…And Orgasms On Demand
A Neighbor In Need #7
Afternoon Delight!
Casino
Desperation & Dominance
Dreams
Evening Home, Part 3
First Asleep Loses
Happy ending
I Got….
I am a keeper of secrets
I Got Fucked
I am Coming for You: A Letter to Scin
Late Night Satisfaction
Lolita’s Mother
Making M Squirt
Sir ~ intro
The Hatter
The Flash Fiction Friday FAQ!
Trussed
We fucked, they applauded
Where there is a libido, there is a way
Wicked Wednesday: Idyll

Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

20 Reasons Why Sex Is Good
Defining Sex
Hurt me, Pet
I Was Raped
Playing Dumb
Red Flags of an Abusive Partner, Part 2
Restrictions and Satisfaction
Someone Else’s Shoes
Sex Isn’t Everything
The Art of Sensual Touching-Caressing for You and Your Partner
The STI You Haven’t Heard of: Molluscum contagiosum
The Suit
Vibrant Woman or Live Masturbation Sleeve
What I Don’t Need

Kink & Fetish

A Little Girl’s Need for Submission
Are You Done Yet?
A Reformatory Punishment
BDSM Advice Series: Floggers
Bruises
Determined to bind
His Slut
I Really Wasn’t In The Mood
Impact
Pain and Healing
Questions From DH About These Things We Do
Surrender
Sub Drop: Fact or Fiction?
Tiiu Ashcraft – Fetish Artist and Beauty
The Eroticism of Tattoos
The Competition
Wanting to want

Sex News, Interviews, Politics & Humor

A History of Violence
Asshat of the Day Award
Awesome Mentoring Work and Upcoming Apprenticeship

Aiden Starr, Maitresse Madeline, Dylan Deap, Zak Tyler
and Fivestar on divinebitches.com

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NYC Weekly Leather Dates: April 1-7

April 1st, 2010 · No Comments

Thursday, April 1
The Baroness’ Fetish Retinue party

Friday, April 2
NYC BDSM Munch
DSF: “Temporary Piercings – Permanent Memories” w/Tatsumi

Saturday, April 3
NYC TNG General Munch

Sunday, April 4
MAsT Metro NY: “Protocol” What is the purpose? How much is enough?
New York Bondage Club

Monday, April 5
CV: “TBA” w/ Eric Pride

Tuesday, April 6
TES: “Mummification” w/ Mistress Clarissa

Wednesday, April 7
Pleasure Salon
TES Dominant Men/ submissive Woman w/ Sir Guy

Devaun on chantasbitches.com

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Forbidden Fruit

March 25th, 2010 · No Comments

Forbidden Fruit: Lady Laura Artist Reception

Friday, March 26, 2010
7-9:30pm
Aphrodite Gallery
620 S 5th 3rd Floor
Philadelphia , PA 19147

Free
dress code: Fetish to Casual

Enjoy two hours of sights, flavors and sensations in this multi-dimensional orgy of art featuring the very sexy creator “Lady Laura” Aceto, live in the flesh (and ready to negotiate commissioned work if you wish).

Your hosts, Curatrix Veronica Bound and boutique Proprietrix Kali Morgan will make sure your cup runneth over and that any custom paddles purchased have an opportunity to get tried right in the Gallery for the enjoyment of all. Indulge yourself in complimentary libations and other refreshing treats for two hours and save at 10% off any art purchased during the show.

See more samples of Lady Laura’s work.

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NYC Weekly Leather Dates: Mar 25-31

March 25th, 2010 · No Comments

Thursday,  March 25

Friday,  March 26
Le Cercle des Dommes meeting
DSF: “SEXy is Back” BDSM play Party
Paradise Lost party

Saturday, March 27
Stimulate party
Submit party

Sunday, March 28
New York Bondage Club
NYC TNG Party Night Meeting
Suspension party

Monday, March 29
CV: “Massage” w/ Wendy Blackheart

Tuesday, March 30
TES: “Fun and Pain with Canes” w/ Dov

Wednesday, March 31
TES TNG: “How to be your own MacGyver or: BDSM on a budget and toys craft corner”

Derrick Pierce and London Keyes on sexandsubmission.com

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Lamalani’s Boot

March 22nd, 2010 · No Comments

This is Lamalani’s boot.
She is International Ms Leather 2009.
This was taken at South Plains Leatherfest 2010.

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Find Lolita

March 22nd, 2010 · No Comments

I’ve just added two new events.

PhinLi, my booking agent, has just booked their first class for me! I’ll be teaching Fantasy Roleplay for FascinationsFun in Denver, Cololrado on August 5th.

And I’ve been invited back to teach at Kinky Kollege in Chicago, Illinois on October 22-24.

For a complete list of where I’ll be, see my Appearances page.

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Flagging With Pride

March 18th, 2010 · No Comments

Make your own at Flagging With Pride

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