Lolita Wolf's Predictions & Predilections

As a BDSM Sex Educator and Author, I don't just talk about it. I do it! And then I write about it.

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No expectations

May 3rd, 2007 · No Comments

“I’m glad that I passed the review,” said Don Quixote.
I laughed, “Well, in six months there’s going be one-year review.”
“Uh-oh…”
I laughed some more.

But really this review is more about me than him. I made all these lifestyle changes and I need to step back and look at it and see if it is working for me. I’m not normally given to a lot of processing, but sometimes it’s a good thing to do, even when, or especially when, a relationship is not in crisis.

It’s about having no expectations. That can be quite liberating. It allows me to just “be in the moment” and not worry about where a relationship is going. Like it doesn’t need to go anywhere. I can just relax and enjoy it.

However, I am not truly without any expectations. I do expect mutual caring. I do expect that I can allow myself to be vulnerable and not get damaged. I am getting what I need: trust and intimacy. And, of course, great sex. And fun, too!

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