Lolita Wolf's Predictions & Predilections

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Volume 9, Number 29© Copyright 2003 by Lolita Wolf – Material may not be reproduced in whole or in part without prior written consent of the copyright holder. The views expressed herein are exclusively those of the author and do not represent the views of any other person or any organization with which the author may be associated.



“Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one’s courage.”

– Anais Nin



Peggy aka O came to NYC to visit. We went to a meet & greet for Eden Safarty, the new Executive Director for NCSF. He brought along his three partners – he’s poly!

She also made a leg of lamb. It was sheer slop. When she asked Neptune how he liked the meal, he did not want to contradict his Master. He explained to her that slave standards were different from the rest of the world, and as a slave, he would say that it was very good. We both had a laugh at how he had squirmed his way out of that one. But, alas, I deemed it slop and caned her butt as punishment. She will be given another opportunity to try again.



Greg Ammell passed away Saturday night while vacationing in San Juan, Puerto Rico. He was co-owner of Laws Leather and the Mr. Cleveland Leather contest, manager of the Tool Shed/Crossover Bar in Cleveland, OH and a major philanthropist to the GLBT community in general. He is survived by his lover of 13 years, David Laws, and three children all from Pittsburgh, PA.



by Susan Wright

Ever since Robert Mapplethorpe’s photographs were used to help justify the defunding of the National Endowment of the Arts, there has been a question whether sadomasochism is a fit subject for art. Barbara Nitke answers with a resounding YES! in her new book, Kiss of Fire. With over 60 crisp duotone photographs and published on heavy stock by Kehrer Verlag Heidelberg in Germany, Nitke presents a world of sadomasochism that few will ever see.

Nitke’s photographs can be shocking at times in their frankness. A bound man cries out in pleasure and agony as another man behind him, naked to the waist, plays upon his body. A pale woman is seated on a toilet, vulnerable and timid, with all of her attention focused on the woman leaning over her. An ordinary couple stand in the classic “American Gothic” pose in front of an ordinary house, yet the woman is naked and heavily pregnant.

Each of Nitke’s photographs is attuned to the interplay between the partners and the love that manifests even in the most extreme sexual encounters. Their interaction feels spontaneous; a charged moment frozen in time. Yet each scene is framed in a gently formal composition that makes even the most outrageous accruements seem beautiful.

In Kiss of Fire, Nitke writes of her experience exploring the SM community and her increasing desire to photograph the lovers she saw. “I loved watching them float around together at parties,” Nitke says, “Flying on their endorphins, lost in each other. I loved the ones who would spend days cooking up intricate, delicious scenes to tantalize the other and then tell you about it afterwards like mischievous kids.”

In Kiss of Fire, Nitke has captured the intense energy of these couples’ passion as well as the deep intimacy and trust that is required to engage in SM. For anyone who has ever wanted a deeper look into the glorious contradictions of kinky sexuality, Kiss of Fire is a must for you.

Nitke offers signed copies of Kiss of Fire from her website:


Black BEAT 2003

Black Beat takes place August 22-24 in Maryland. Full Registration Package deadline is Friday, August 1. Info:



Camp Crucible will be September 4-8in PA. BDSM workshops by: Sir Ken from Washington DC, Travis from Texas, Dale FifthAngel from Florida, Susan “The New Girl” from DC (by way of Oregon), Harry the Goblin from New York City and Master Neal from DC. Some of the classes and workshops they will be presenting are: Combining Martial Arts and the Art of BDSM, Erotic Spanking, Knives and Swords, Long Whips, Injections and Infusions, CBT, Advanced Medical Play, Interrogations, Caning, Scene negotiations, Romantic Play, Needles, Techniques of Rope, Bondage Improvisation

Special events include Pony Camp produced by Emily and Paul Reed from “Equus Eroticus”, Lady Andrea and Goody from Mysticplay and Mistress M and Shane from S & M Stables, the Crucible Casino & Pony races, the “Auction,” Camp Store provided by Roy of “The Leather Harvest” and Joy & Ed of Le Chateau Exotique, Kidnappings with K13 and The Lady Moore, Massage therapy with Whittney & Pablo and Fundraising for NCSF. Info:



Thanks to my sponsors!

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929-271A4 Fetish Diva Midori returns to the Crucible Aug 1st, and 2nd. Friday she’ll be doing a Humiliation workshop. Cost is $25 – Saturday is “A Day and Dinner with Midori” Midori’s “Rope Dojo” Six hours of rope

work plus a catered meal. The “Day with Midori” package is $80, and is limited to the first 40.

930-272B Saturday August 9th the Crucible hosts it’s sixth LEATHER FLEAMARKET & PLAY – Featuring: The Leather Harvest, Night Dreams, “Mr. S”, Purple Passion / DV8, Le Chateau Exotique, Clay Bird Jewelry,

Leatherwerks, Leather by Danny, Fetishes Boutique, Unique Wear, Diversified Services, Rainbow Rope, Leather Bob, MC Lethal Leather, Fantasy Masks, SLYX Custom Latex, Midnight Blue’s, Delicious Corsets,

The Shoe Guy, Rainbow Body Soaps – Massages by: Whittney & Pablo. Fundraising benefiting the NCSF

1025-273Y Dr. Vittoria Repetto – Chiropractor / Applied Kinesiologist / Nutritional Consultation. Dedicated to providing my patients with the holistic therapies and the personalized education they need to regain and maintain their optimal health. 285 West B’way @ Canal St., NYC 212 – 431 – 3724

One of the Top Ten NYC Chiropractors: New Life Magazine, Sept 2001.

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932-276B Dark Odyssey, September 11-15, 2003 in Maryland, is an all inclusive pansexual retreat exploring sex, relationships, BDSM, and spirituality. Hands-on workshops and demos; nationally-known presenters (incl. Lolita); fully equipped dungeon and play spaces; cabins w/electricity; all meals included; discounts for participating group members; register early for best prices;

933-277B Camp Crucible – BDSM, Pony Play and more September 4th – 8th, 2003 in PA. SM classes by: Sir Ken, Travis, FifthAngel, Susan “the New Girl”, Harry the Goblin and Master Neal. Special Events: Pony Camp, the Auction, Kidnappings, Crucible Casino, Leather Harvest Camp Store, Whittney & Pablo doing massages, and 30,000SF of dungeon space.

1028-278Y 925-218Y Purple Passion / DV8, we have one of the largest selections of corsets, leather, latex & PVC clothing for men and women. We do custom corsets, clothing and harnesses. We now have art work for sale and our next show will open at the TNG weekend. Hours: Wed Noon-7pm, Thurs & Fri Noon-9pm, Sat Noon-8pm Sun Noon-7pm. Mon & Tues Noon-7pm. 211 West 20th Street. Tel 212-807-0486,

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Sunday 8.3 NYC

Masters And slaves Together: Metro NY (pansexual) Meeting: “Master/slave Management Styles.” 2-5pm at The Center, 208 W 13th St, betwen 7 & Greenwich Aves. Info:

This Monday and every Monday Cyberspace

Back by popular demand (maybe not so popular but surely demanding…): The Eulenspiegel Not Til chat room on AOL 10pm-Midnight. NOT a TES event but an unofficial place online where many TES members and friends hang out and talk. No set topic. It is a good place to ask questions, debate the answers, ask and receive advice, compare notes about the scene, gossip about last week, plan the upcoming week, flirt a little, be serious and not so serious. On AOL in the Town Square area of the People Connection in a “member room” – not private: aol://2719:61-2-Eulenspiegel not til. Add this location to your Favorite Places Folder so that it’s easy to come back.

Tuesday 8.5 NYC

TES Meeting: “Age Play… A Kids Perspective” with Luna. We always hear what the grown-ups have to say about age play, but what about the kids? Spend the night with our own little luna as she stays up past her bedtime to talk about this emotionally charged topic and how it affects the kid side of the play. Candy from strangers greatly appreciated especially if they have a cool car! 7:30pm at 75 Bleecker St, just east of Broadway. $8 ($4 for members of TES and other SM/leather orgs). Info: 212-388-7022 or

Wednesday 8.6 NYC

TES Dominant Men/submissive women’s Group: “Being a Single in the ‘Scene’ – and Loving

it!” As a single in the “Scene,” is there a place for you? How do you find it and, most of all, how can you learn to enjoy and even love it! A panel, comprised of Dominant Men and submissive women, will facilitate a discussion on this topic with emphasis on ways that you can create a single “Scene” life that works for you. $8 ($4 for members of TES and other SM/leather orgs). Info: 212-388-7022 or



The Onion is very funny:

Have fun! Play safe!

Lolita Wolf

Lolita speaking only for Lolita, of course!

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