Lolita Wolf's Predictions & Predilections

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August 6, 2003

Volume 9, Number 30© Copyright 2003 by Lolita Wolf

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“Desire and longing are the whips of God.”

– Anna Wickham



Last weekend, I went down to New Orleans for the

LLC board meeting. Oh my, New Orleans is just such

a party town. Luckily, the board got all its business

done on Saturday during the day, so that left us lots

of time to have fun. We did a lot of drinking and

eating. I had beignets for the first time

( and we ate at the legendary

Commander’s Palace (,

Margaretaville ( and Acme


We also had a chance to meet with the LLC local

organizing committee, both in a formal meeting and at

a BBQ hosted by RampartDom. They have a lot of

great ideas and are doing a lot of planning. LLC-8 in

New Orleans will be fabulous. Mark your calendars for

April 2-4, 3004. Info:

On Saturday night we went to a play party hosted by

NOBLE ( I did not play but I voyeured.

Afterwards, back at the inn, Glenda Rider went over my

knee. After a long sensual warm up, she counted out

her birthday spanks. 40! Happy Birthday, Glenda! And

thanks for being part of my Diva Project.



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Q. I’ve got this friend. She’s interested in

submission but she has this problem…she can’t handle

smells. I don’t mean ‘could you bathe once a week,

please?’ I mean, she can’t handle the smell of a person

who’s showered two minutes ago. It’s just body smells,

too. Not even body /odor/, but just normal…body

smells. I already asked about putting her shirt over her

head (heh. Always thinking, me!) but, apparently that’s

not enough. Have you heard of this before?

Suggestions? Thanks so much!

A. Well, she must have a problem with plain old

vanilla sex, then, too. She has a big problem here.

Maybe she needs to talk to a doctor about it. Barring

that, she needs to either mask the odor with something

stronger smelling or else block the smell – maybe with

a hood.



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Applemunch 6:30pm at the Moonstruck Diner, 23 St &

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7:45pm at Paddles, 250 W 26th St, between 7 & 8 Aves.

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TES Dungeon Monitoring Workshop with Bob Walter.

If you haven’t attended a DM workshop, it’s a great

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that need qualified volunteers to be dungeon monitors.

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volunteer spot. 2-5pm at The Center, 208 W 13th St,

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advance ($5 discount for members of TES and other

SM/leather orgs).

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Square area of the People Connection in a “member

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Add this location to your Favorite Places Folder so that

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Tuesday 8.12 NYC

TES Meeting: “Come Meet the Candidates!” An

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running for the Board and Arbiter in the September

election. 7:30pm at 75 Bleecker St, just east of

Broadway. TES Members only. Free. Info:

212-388-7022 or

Wednesday 8.13 NYC

TES Novice Group: “The Anatomy of a Scene.”

Frequent Novice Group attendee “Corey” will

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commentary. We’ll be talking to the participants before,

during and after their scene so everyone can look

inside their heads and get a feel for what’s going on in

there! $8 ($4 for members of TES and other SM/leather

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The Bitch of Dupont Circle has a new column online

and this one is on Age Play and quotes me:

The Dominatrix run:

Have fun! Play safe!

Lolita Wolf

Lolita speaking only for Lolita, of course!

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