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July 16, 2003

Volume 9, Number 27

© Copyright 2003 by Lolita Wolf

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“It’s been fine so far but after a while I want more

than a soft style. I want some slashes to go with

those long eyelashes.”

– Breath Control by Recoil



Neptune and I had an awesome trip to Denver. We

got in Thursday and went downtown for dinner at The

Buckhorn Exchange with FifthAngel, Leslie and T. This

was our splurge meal for the weekend. We ate Rocky

Mountain oysters, rattlesnake dip, buffalo steak, yak,

elk, quail and more. Yum!

We woke up at 4am and left the hotel at 5am and

headed out to Red Rocks where we climbed up and

off the trail to a spot that seemed very close to

Heaven. As Leslie and I sat on a rock with the sun

in our faces and the wind at our backs, FifthAngel

and Neptune went into the field to do a ritual. Don’t

ask me what that was about. I saw it, but did not

understand what was going on. And that’s okay.

When they were through, I did my own little ritual

with Neptune and peed on him. We then headed

out to Denny’s for a hearty breakfast.

In the afternoon, Neptune accompanied Mommy Cara

to pick up Mr Dawson at the airport. They dressed

alike: black boots, blue jeans and those little navy

blue NYPD tanks. It is cool to have someone in service

to you but when there are two of them and they are

dressed alike, it is so much more impressive.

Rich Dockter, the owner of Thunder, spoke at the

Meet & Greet. He explained how he did outreach to

the Denver Police and then at the last minute found

out that the hotel was in Aurora County! Oops!

After meeting with the local police, he explained to

us that the most vulnerable area was the lobby with

its bar, restaurant and liquor license. He asked us to

“behave like we were in church” and not grope each

other in the lobby. He then introduced the presenters.

Thunder totally blows me away because it has such

an amazing line-up of presenters. And I still can’t

believe I am one of them. Wow!

We then went to play in the dungeon. I had a date

with T who is somebody I have been playing with

since the 2nd Thunder in 1999. She had mentioned

something about her crotch and my singletail. I

expanded on that to include inner thighs plus a lot of

other toys as well. Fun! Then I gave Neptune his

first cutting. It was not too deep and, a week later,

it is totally healed and gone. But, nonetheless, it was

still intense and he cried a little bit. Opening skin

brings out emotions.

On Saturday morning I taught my “Kidz Rule: Age

Play For Consenting Adults” class. It was a lot

different than last year because we had arts & crafts

during the lecture. There were many more kidz

acting out and it was pretty wild. We also practiced

our songs for the big show on Saturday night. About

a dozen of us got up in front of everybody (!) and

sang our songs. We were a hit! Everybody laughed

and applauded.

I saw two other workshops: Fred Katz teaching

Extreme Rope Bondage and Master Skip’s Cathartic

Flogging. Fred understands bondage for bondage

sake and I really like that. He taught us that

restraining a bottom’s hands behind their back first

puts them into a submissive headspace quickly. He

showed us how to add rope to immobilize the bottom.

He added more rope because, as he explained,

bottoms just love more rope. BTW Fred prefers

unfinished (scratchy!) hemp rope.

Master Skip is a great presenter. He is very

organized and prepared and he really breaks down

the concept of what he is teaching into understandable

points: intention, surrender and focus. Technique is

not so important. Later that night, in the dungeon,

Peggy aka O and I co-topped Blue. While we did not

exactly follow all of Master Skip’s guidelines, the scene

definitely was cathartic. We beat the crap out of Blue

and he broke and cried. We canceled our other play

date for that evening and went up to the room for

some aftercare.

On Sunday morning, Neptune and I taught

Relationships From Scratch and then hurried back to

the room to get ready for The Ritual with Fakir Musafar

and Cleo Dubois. I going to write about that for next

week’s P+P as I am still processing that.

On Sunday night, we went to the Thunder

Afterparty in a warehouse that was very hot and

sweaty. Damn, I love bottoming to impact in hot and

sweaty warehouses! Alas, I was already committed

to top. FifthAngel and I were co-topping O.

Co-topping? More like running interference! –

pointing out certain physical and emotional limits to

him and reassuring the DMs. In the meantime,

Neptune was standing around socializing and that

just would not do! So, I “invited” him to get naked

and kneel on the concrete floor. I tied him up with

rope and used vetwrap as a blindfold and just let

him stew.

Anyway, Thunder is an awesome event. Try to get

there next year!



In an election concluded on June 15, three

incumbent LLC, Inc. board members were

re-elected and two new members elected to the

nine-member board. Re-elected were Libby Warren

of Boston, Lolita Wolf of New York and Cynthia Wright

of Los Angeles. New board members chosen are Jack

Rinella, a Leather author and educator from Chicago,

and Michelle Sigler, a Leather activist from Oklahoma

City. New board terms began July 1.

During the annual meeting of the LLC board of

directors coinciding with this year’s LLC in Boston

April 11-13, the board’s current officers were r

e-elected. They are; Cynthia Wright of Los Angeles,

Chairman of the Board of the Leather Leadership

Conference, Inc.; Glenda Rider of Baltimore,

Vice-Chair; Lolita Wolf of New York, Treasurer; and

Graylin Thornton of San Diego, Secretary.

Also during the annual board meeting the LLC board

formalized an agreement to hold LLCVIII in New

Orleans, the first time a Leather Leadership

Conference will be held in a southern city. Dates for

LLCVIII will be April 2-4, 2004, and the host hotel

will be the New Orleans Airport Hilton. LLC board

member Alan Maclachlan was named as liaison to the

New Orleans organizing committee, which is headed

by Timm Holt, an officer of the Lords of Leather, and

Ted Carter, an officer of New Orleans Bondage &

Leather Enthusiasts (N.O.B.L.E.) New Orleans’

winning bid was supported by sixteen clubs across

the Gulf Coast region from Texas to Florida. The New

Orleans committee expects to announce the theme

for LLCVIII and submit a request for proposals for

presentations for LLCVIII by late August.



It’s been a busy quarter for NCSF’s Media committee!

We celebrated the arrival of our new Executive Director,

Eden Sarfaty, and the launch of our new and improved

website: NCSF also released

our updated brochure prominently featuring our

constituencies — the SM-leather-fetish, swing and

polyamory communities. In addition, the Media

committee kicked off our featured “NCSF Profile”

covering a key NCSF staffer every quarter. The

current NCSF Profile is an interview with Leigha

Fleming who served as NCSF’s Interim Executive

Director and continues to serve as Director of

Constituency Services.

Throughout this quarter, NCSF continued to help

individuals, local communities and organizations who

became the target of media inquiries. The Colorado

SM community was featured nationally in the media

when the Labyrinth was closed down due to zoning

issues, and Tribal Fire in Oklahoma was again

targeted by religious extremists who took out ads in

the local papers denouncing the event. In all, NCSF

Spokesperson Susan Wright and Swing Spokesperson

Sue Gould gave over 20 interviews with the media on

the rights of adults to practice consensual sexual


NCSF was also pleased to herald the recent Supreme

Court’s decision overturning sodomy laws in the U.S.

This should have a huge impact on all Americans in the

affirmation of our right to privacy!

For help with your media issues, from dealing with

reporters to training spokespeople for your group or

event, contact NCSF’s media hotline: 917-848-6544.



This year’s Leather Family Day at Great Adventure will

be Saturday, August 16th 11AM till…. and it is being

sponsored by TES Men’s and Women’s SIGs and it is

open to everyone. Neptune and I used to sponsor this

but this year we are just too busy to do it right. We are

glad that TES is doing it this year.

Advance cost will be $30 a ticket for people who

provide their own transportation. These tickets can be

used any time until the end of this season. Please pay

at the door or you can send email to Treasurer at with CC card info by Aug 1. Tickets

will be available for pickup at the door Aug 12 or 13

(or Mailed by request).

For people who would rather take public

transportation, NJ transit has special deal. For $47

includes RT bus and entrance to the parks. Buses leave

Port Authority between 8:30 and 9:30 AM gate 324.

Buses leave

Great Adventure between 8PM and 8:30 PM. No

advance notice to TES required.



The Spanner Trust is working to change the UK law

so that it is no longer against the law to intentionally

cause non serious injury during consensual adult

sexual activity. To help advance this campaign The

Spanner Trust is conducting a research project aimed

at gathering information on the extent to which injury

of any sort occurs during sex.

If you would like to take part in this research:

To view more about the Spanner Trust and it’s work:



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Friday 7.18 NYC

DFS presents “Fists of Fury – Fisting and Beyond, with

Lady Cleo and Miss Fistee. You will learn how to properly

and safely fist your partner. This demo will be like no

other, as “selective” audience members will be

welcomed to participate in the fisting of our demo slut.

In addition, if any female wants to be fisted, the

presenter will be more than happy to do so. You will

learn about female ejaculation as well. If you never fisted

anyone, and want to learn the proper way to do it, Cum

on over.. 7:45pm at Paddles, 250 W 26th St, between 7

& 8 Aves. $8 ($4 for DSF & affiliate members). Info:

Saturday 7.19 NYC

TES Workshop: “Fisting” with Master Jim. A short

discussion will be followed be an interactive demo.

Bring your partners and your hands! 7-10pm at Paddles,

250 W 26 St., between 7th & 8th Aves. $15 in advance,

$20 at the door ($5 discount for members of TES and

other SM/leather orgs). Info: 212-388-7022 or

Saturday 7.19 NYC

TES TES Novice Excursion. Meet at 9:30 at Chelsea

Gallery Restaurant, 72 7Ave, between 14 & 15 Sts.

Come alone or as a couple. No dress code. At around

10:30pm, after dinner, coffee or a snack, they’ll go

over to Paddles together for the Mid Summer Party.

Info: 212-388-7022 or

Saturday 7.19 NYC

TES “Mid Summer Hot Party.” A short discussion will

be followed be an interactive demo. Bring your partners

and your hands! 10pm-4am at Paddles, 250 W 26 St.,

between 7th & 8th Aves. $35 ($25 for members of TES

and other SM/leather orgs). Info: 212-388-7022 or

Saturday 7.19 Boston, MA

Fetish Fair Fleamarket #21. Info:

This Monday and every Monday Cyberspace

Back by popular demand (maybe not so popular but

surely demanding…): The Eulenspiegel Not Til chat

room on AOL 10pm-Midnight. NOT a TES event but an

unofficial place online where many TES members and

friends hang out and talk. No set topic. It is a good

place to ask questions, debate the answers, ask and

receive advice, compare notes about the scene, gossip

about last week, plan the upcoming week, flirt a little,

be serious and not so serious. On AOL in the Town

Square area of the People Connection in a “member

room” – not private: aol://2719:61-2-Eulenspiegel not til.

Add this location to your Favorite Places Folder so that

it’s easy to come back.

Tuesday 7.22 NYC

TES Meeting: “Subcultures in the Scene” a panel

moderated by Josh HighTower. Fetish, Goths, Vampires,

so many different subcultures crossover into the BDSM

arena. Come see what sets them apart, and brings

them together in the scene. 7:30pm at 75 Bleecker St,

just east of Broadway. $8 ($4 for members of TES and

other SM/leather orgs). Info: 212-388-7022 or

Wednesday 7.23 NYC

TES Couples Group presents ” TES Pyramid Game.”

Another TES Couples Game! Last year, we did our

version of “The Newlywed Game” – now, we’re going

to host “TES Pyramid” game… We are going to need

6 people – either 3 couples or 3 sets of people…It

should be lots of fun…and prizes. While the Couples

Group’s topics are geared towards twosomes,

threesomes & moresomes – As always, everyone who

is interested in our meetings are more than welcome

to attend. $8 ($4 for members of TES and other

SM/leather orgs). Info: 212-388-7022 or



NLA:Columbus has a very good Domestic Violence website:

August is Anal Sex Month:

Have fun! Play safe!

Lolita Wolf

Lolita speaking only for Lolita, of course!

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