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May 28, 2003

Volume 9, Number 20

© Copyright 2003 by Lolita Wolf –

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“People who fight fire with fire usually end up with


– Abigail Van Buren




Every year I write about how, to me, the contest is not

the main reason to go to IML. And every year I go to the

contest and write a little about it, but a lot about the rest

of the weekend. This year, I missed the contest! On

Sunday afternoon, I started getting cranky and tired at

the CHC cocktail party. How weird because I was really

pacing myself this year. I went up to my room and

crawled into bed with stuffy sinuses and a fever. Next

week’s P+P will carry a write up of the contest by


Meanwhile, despite my little illness, I had a great time

at IML It was much less frenetic than usual. We arrived

on Thursday and eased into the event. Opening

Ceremonies was our first chance to take a gander at the

56 contestants. Oh, hello, the guy from Bavaria with the

tattoos? Yum!

On Friday, we started out in the vendor market at Noon

with the Bootblacks. Back in 1999, the bootblack

community was torn by gender when the International

Bootblack contest was split into the International Mr

Bootblack contest and the International Ms Bootblack

contest. As a show of solidarity, the first shine at IML

is the male bootblack contestants shining the boots of

female bootblacks and supporters. I was honored to sit

in Bootdog’s chair. He did a great job on my oil-tanned

Wesco’s. (Hint: if you just scritch him behind his ear,

he gets really friendly.) Have you seen his site? Very good, even though he has not

updated it in a dog’s age.

We checked out the vendor mart. Over 100 vendors! I

bought Neptune and Cherry autographed coloring books

from The Hun (perfect for kinky age play). I bought myself

some new reading material: Jack Rinella’s new book,

“Partners in Power, Living in Kinky Relationships,” Tim

Brough’s Black Gloves, White Magic” and Instigator

magazine. I also bought a black leather scented candle

from Leatherstock. Boymeat bought Georgia Boots from

LeatherWerks and a Utlikilt.

My favorite restaurant near the Palmer House Hilton is

Miller’s. We ate a few meals there. We dragged Mr

Kevin to lunch there. When I first saw Mr Kevin two years

ago, I took an instant dislike to him. But then I met him

at Dungeon last year and got to know him a little bit, and

oh boy, is he a sweet, smart, talented, cute guy and

totally not full of himself at all.

Friday was family dinner night. Let me tell you a secret

about leather families. After a while, if they don’t fall

apart, there’s drama. I met my leather family in 1995.

We are very adept at skirting around the drama. Certain

people sit at one end of the table and certain others sit

at the other end. Everybody is on their best behavior or

else they get sent to their rooms. After dinner, we did a

little party hopping at the hotel. Most of our time was

spent at the Bootblack party, but we were sure to stop

in at the Int’l LeatherSir/boy party, too.

On Saturday, we went to the Leather Archives &

Museum member meeting. Robert Davolt gave an

excellent presentation on Uniforms and how they have

influenced the leather community. The big news is that

the leaks are fixed and the balloon payment of $200K

is due a year from now. Boymeat and I then went to do

a volunteer shift at the NCSF booth. We talked to a lot

of people about NCSF’s projects and sold raffle tickets

for Intl LeatherSir/boy and Black Rose – something for

everyone! It seems that NCSF is becoming more

widely known out there and that is a good thing.

Saturday night, I had a hot date with Mommy Cara. I

kicked everyone out of my room because she wanted

some privacy for us. One of those dates where I can’t

kiss and tell…..

On Sunday, Boymeat and I did our annual solicitation

for Leather Pride Night. We got some awesome

donations. Go check out

And then on Sunday night I got sick. Ugh!

**** See AJ and Boymeat’s write-ups in future

P+Ps. ****




The 20th Annual Leather Pride Night is Saturday, June

14 at The Puck Building, 293 Lafayette St, just south of

Houston St, NYC. This year’s event benefits the NYC

Gay & Lesbian Anti-Violence Project, Foundation for

Research on Sexually Transmitted Disease (FROST’D),

Pride Center of New Jersey, Teens Prepared for Life,

NYC AIDS Monument Committee and Heritage of Pride.

Last year over 150 people volunteered to help out at

LPN. Most shifts are only one hour so people can easily

find the time to do it. It is always amazing to us that

LPN volunteers come back and volunteer again every year.

They do it with their friends and they make new friends

and they help make a very important night in the NYC

SM-leather-fetish community a huge success.

Here are the shifts that are available. Since the shifts

can get filled quite quickly, let us know your first, second

and third choices:

Unload Storage and Load in Puck with Sigrid Noon-2pm

need 6 people

Location Set-up with Susan 1- 4pm

need 7 people

Auction Set up with Sigrid and Mickey 2-6pm

need 4 people

Backstage to prepare presenters

8-10 need 1 person

10-Midnight need 1 person

Help move auction items to presenters

10-Midnight need 1 person

Onstage to get people on & off and/or assist current

presenter who would like to bid on item

10-Midnight need 2 people

Sell T-shirts with Renegades

7-8 need 1 person

10-11 need 1 person

Flea Market Sales Staff with Peter and David

7:30-8:30 need 2 people

8:30-9:30 need 2 people

9:30-10:30 need 2 people

10:30-11:30 need 2 people

Silent Auction with John Weis

7:30-8:30 need 3 people

8:30-9:30 need 1 person

8:30-10 need 1 person

Run video camera

8-10pm need 1 person

10-Midnight need 1 person

Will Call Assistant – help Defenders with items from

auction after bid

8-9 need 2 people

9-10 need 2 people

10-11 need 2 people

Ticket takers with Mark

8-9:30 need 2 people

10:30-11:30 need 2 people

Box Office with Mark

9:30-10:30 need 2 people

10:30-11:30 need 2 people

Tally Deities with Michael and Gil

8-10 need 2 people

10-12 need 3 people

Raffle Ticket Sales with Sal

7:30-8:30 need 6 people

8:39-9:30 need 3 people

9:30-10:30 need 6 people

10:30-11:30 need 6 people


1-4pm need 2 people

4-7pm need 2 people

7:30-10pm need 13 people

10pm-12:30pm need 14 people

Flea Market Breakdown with Ruth and Pete


need 5 people

Breakdown Midnight-12:30am see Susan by the


need 6 people

Sunday load in Storage

Need 4 people

Volunteer and/or ask questions: Lolita Wolf at and Andrew Harwin at




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Friday 5.30 NYC

TES “Summer Kick-Off Tropical Paradise Party”

hosted by Dakota and Sharon. TES promises you’ll get

lei’ed by Dakota, Sharon, & the rest of the TES Social

Committee. Good food, fun, & play. 8pm-2am at Paddles,

250 W 26 St, between 7th & 8th Aves. between 7 & 8

Aves. $35 ($25 for members of TES and other

SM/leather orgs). Info:

Friday 5.30 thru Sunday June 1 NYC

Tom of Finland Erotic Art Fair. Friday: 8-11pm Artists

Reception $7. Saturday and Sunday: Noon-6pm Art Fair

$10 for both days. At The LGBT Center, 208 W 13 St.


Saturday 5.31 NYC

Masters And slaves Together: Metro New York

(pansexual) Workshop: “Dreaming The Dream: Living

The Reality” with Master Jim & slave marsha

(International Master and slave 2001). You’ve dreamed

of living as Master and slave, and now you’re ready to

make your dream a reality. But how? Or perhaps you’ve

been living in a M/s relationship for some time. What

can you do to help the relationship grow and thrive?

12:30-3:30pm at The Center, 208 W 13 St, between 7 &

Greenwich Aves. $15 ($10 for MAsT members).

Saturday 5.31 NYC

TES Meeting: “Gas Masks, Mummification, and Erotic

Fetishes” with Victor and Margot. This kinky couple will

discuss & demonstrate their style of play… which

involves the erotic fetishes of gas masks, mummification,

and a whole lot more. 7:30-10pm at Paddles, 250 W 26

St, between 7th & 8th Aves. between 7 & Greenwich

Aves. $8 ($4 for members of TES and other SM/leather

orgs). Info:

Sunday 6.1 NYC

Masters And slaves Together: Metro New York

(pansexual) Meeting: “Mastercraft” What it takes to

“own” responsibly. 2-5pm at The Center, 208 W 13 St,

between 7 & Greenwich Aves. $???? ($???? for MAsT

members). Info:

or 91-470-4738

This Monday and every Monday Cyberspace

Back by popular demand (maybe not so popular but

surely demanding…): The Eulenspiegel Not Til chat

room on AOL 10pm-Midnight. NOT a TES event but an

unofficial place online where many TES members and

friends hang out and talk. No set topic. It is a good place

to ask questions, debate the answers, ask and receive

advice, compare notes about the scene, gossip about

last week, plan the upcoming week, flirt a little, be

serious and not so serious. On AOL in the Town Square

area of the People Connection in a “member room” – not

private: aol://2719:61-2-Eulenspiegel not til. Add this

location to your Favorite Places Folder so that it’s easy

to come back.

Tuesday 6.2 NYC

TES Meeting: “Predicament Scenes” with Sir C.

7:30pm at 75 Bleecker St, just east of Broadway. $8

($4 for members of TES and other SM/leather orgs).

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Wednesday 6.3 NYC

TES Dominant Men/submissive women’s Group

presents “The Worlds of the Courtesan” With Michele B.

Ever wondered what it was like to serve men AND get

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75 Bleecker St, just east of Broadway. $8 ($4 for

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Real time this week, baby.

Have fun! Play safe!

Lolita Wolf

Lolita speaking only for Lolita, of course!

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