Lolita Wolf's Predictions & Predilections

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May 21, 2003

Volume 9, Number 19

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“Give to the world the best you have, and the

best will come back to you.”

– Madeline S. Bridges




TES Fest was a huge success. TES made a

bit of money, people had a really good time and

we had no problems with the police or the ABC

or the press. Whew! The organization really

needed a win. To tell you the truth, I needed a

win, too. I had busted my ass to do great

programming for TES30 and all anyone could

talk about TES30 was the negative stuff. It

bummed me out – I never even wrote a review.

TES Fest programming, while only half the

number of workshops (54), was raved about by

everybody there. Yay!

There were a lot of other events going on in

NYC and I would have liked to have gone to

more of them. As it is, I got to just one and

that was the Michele Serchuck opening at

Purple Passion/DV8 Friday evening. Her work

was all photos of Midori and Midori’s bondage.

I bought a color print. Laura Antoniou was

doing a booksigning there also, but we left

before she got there.

O was up for the weekend. Basically this was

her triumphant return to NYC. And in many

ways, we were back together just like old times.

Finally! She presented workshops, made me

cookies and dinner (all slop), and used my

slaveboy. On Friday night, I flogged her and

whipped her for the first time in over two years.

She bruised nicely and her cuts were beautiful.

She wore a low cut shirt to show off the next day.

On Sunday night, I put her in a sling and, well,

ya know… (Hi Al!)

On Saturday, I assisted O with a guided ritual

in her spirituality workshop. She cast a circle

and talked Neptune through a balancing journey

while I pierced four of his charka points. On

Sunday I presented Fisting and demoed with

Julia. I have a play date with her for

Leather Retreat.

TES Fest had rented Paddles for the entire

weekend but I never made it down there. The

dungeon at the Hotel Pennsylvania was really

super. Frazier of The Crucible has a knack for

transforming a hotel ballroom into a fabulous

playspace. He has great equipment, good

lighting and knows how to do a workable layout

and create ambiance. Frazier and I were the

co-auctioneers for the Celebrity Auction which

raised over $1500 for NCSF and the Robin

Quimby Memorial Fund. I was bought by

Jason, the Vice Chair of TES Fest

Programming. Jason was fabulous to work with.

He made my job so much easier. He is a wiz

with data management. Actually the whole

crew with workshops was great. SusieQ and

Lady D helped at the event and we were

marvelously assisted by Carla, James and

Pete from Ops.

Anyway my scene with Jason was put off to a

time when we would both have less distractions

and more energy for each other. But we did do

a long term bondage scene. From Friday

afternoon through Sunday night, he wore my

locked metal collar and cuffs. Beautiful, bulky

but lightweight, black aircraft aluminum. 51

hours! Yum!




I am on the case with my 100 Divas.

Saturday night at TES Fest, Fifth Angel said,

“So I’ve been reading about these spankings,

and my birthday is May 28….” Ya! Gender

does not matter with my Divas project. I took

him over my knee in the TES Fest dungeon and

gave him a warm-up and then 38 plus one for

good luck and a pinch to grow an inch.

Afterwards, his butt was all tingly and he was

all giggly and happy. Hey, Fifth, that’s why

people bottom!




I love that Neptune is independent, that he can

take on community projects and teach and

socialize without me. But sometimes, I want

him with me, focused on me. This happens

more easily when we are doing our day to day

stuff. However, at events, he gets sidetracked

and people expect attention from him. Usually

I do not mind that but sometimes I want him

with me. So, I tried putting him on a leash at

TES Fest. Having the visible connection, gave

others a clue that he was unavailable, or at least

less available, to them.

I never liked leashes for non-play situations.

I felt them to be a pain in the ass for me, the top.

But now they have a utilitarian aspect for me.




O and I woke with the alarm at 5am on Monday

morning. “I think I hear a coffee grinder,” she


I rolled over and groaned, “No, we don’t have

that kind of machine.” She stumbled out to the

kitchen for coffee. She found Neptune in his

work uniform making us coffee.

When the NYC street traffic dies down and

there are no calls, he can sneak away. I am a

lucky girl.




Sharon Bien was killed in a motorcycle

accident on Monday morning. I am really

shocked and bummed by this. The news article

is at

and you can see her picture of her and her

partner, Cheryl, attending Leather Pride Night in





Hromovy has developed a questionnaire to do

some fact finding about Disability and Aging

issues in the BD/SM scene. The purpose is to

provide statistics and questions to Lifestyle

presenters on these topics. Hopefully the

information will lead to timely and informative

presentations. The survey is not gender or

sexual identity specific. Any and all are

welcome to participate, in fact, the more the

merrier! See it at




The 20th annual Leather Pride Night Auction

will take place on Saturday, June 14th, 2003.

Doors open at 7:30 PM. Auction and festivities

continue until 12:00 Midnight at The Puck

Building, 293 Lafayette Street (at Houston

Street, one block east of Broadway). This

space is wheelchair accessible.

Jo Arnone, LPN’s veteran auctioneer, will

preside over hundreds of items being auctioned,

including leather and latex fetish clothing, unique

toys and equipment, art and Broadway theater

tickets, and much more. Leather Pride Night is

sponsored by twelve NYC s/m-leather-fetish

organizations: DefendersNY, Gay Male S/M

Activists, Imperial Court of NY, Iron Guard BC,

Lesbian Sex Mafia, MetrobearsNY, NY Panthers

LC, NY Renegades, Pariah’s MC, Promethean

Guard, Society Nocturnus of Gotham, and The

Eulenspiegel Society and many committed

individuals. This year, Leather Pride Night will

donate the 2003 Auction proceeds to: the

Heritage of Pride (HOP), the NYC AIDS

Monument Committee, the Pride Center of New

Jersey, the Foundation for Research on Sexually

Transmitted Disease (FROST’D), Teens Prepared

for Life (TPL) and the New York City Gay and

Lesbian Anti-Violence Project (AVP).

Tickets for Leather Pride Night are $15 in

advance, and $20 at the door. Paypal payment

is available at the LPN website Tickets can also be

obtained at any of the sponsoring organizations,

as well as the following supporting commercial

venues: David Samuel Menkes Custom

Leatherwear, Purple Passion / DV8, London,

Paddles, The Leather Man, The Noose, Submit,

El Mirage, Le Chateau Exotique and Toys in


More info:




Black BEAT will be held August 22 – 24 in the

Washington, DC area. It will feature workshops

and demos with presenters such as Vi Johnson,

Mo Williams, Dean Krebs and more, as well as

2 nights of exclusive private play (transportation

included) The Crucible, meals, vendors, meet &

greet social, Black BEAT T-shirt, souvenir badge

& program. Info:




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Thursday thru Monday 5.22-26 Chicago, IL

25th Anniversary International Mr Leather!


Friday 5.23 NYC

DomSubFriends presents “The Bondage Master”

with Master Jack. Have you ever watched

someone do an amazing rope bondage

techiniques and said, “How did he/she do that?”

Learn from an expert, as he will perform some of

his toughest knot techniques 8pm at Paddles,

250 W 26 St between 7 & 8th Aves. $8 (4 for

members of DSF & affiliate members).


Saturday 5.24 NYC

TES Intermediate Skills Workshop: “Caning”

with Paul NyghtOwl. Canemaker and caning

enthusiast Paul NyghtOwl will discuss the

history and methodology of caning, strengths

and weaknesses of different materials and

methods of cane manufacture. After

demonstrating various techniques from sensual

to severe, the class will pair off to put theory

into practice. 2-5pm at The LGBT Center, 208

W 13 St, between 7 & Greenwich Aves. $15 in

advance/$20 at the door (($5 discount for members

of TES and other SM/leather orgs).


This Monday and every Monday Cyberspace

Back by popular demand (maybe not so popular

but surely demanding…): The Eulenspiegel Not

Til chat room on AOL 10pm-Midnight. NOT a TES

event but an unofficial place online where many

TES members and friends hang out and talk. No

set topic. It is a good place to ask questions,

debate the answers, ask and receive advice,

compare notes about the scene, gossip about

last week, plan the upcoming week, flirt a little,

be serious and not so serious. On AOL in the

Town Square area of the People Connection in

a “member room” – not private:

aol://2719:61-2-Eulenspiegel not til. Add this

location to your Favorite Places Folder so that

it’s easy to come back.

Tuesday 5.27 NYC

TES Meeting: “”S&M Through The Ages: The

Victorian Era” with Brother Leo. An Era in which

S/M flourished in the upper and middle classes,

in the schools attended by children of the Elite

of the British Empire. S/M or “Aglolagnia” was

widely reputed to be the “English Vice!” 7:30pm

at 75 Bleecker St, just east of Broadway. $8

($4 for members of TES and other SM/leather

orgs). Info: 212-388-7022 or

Wednesday 5.28 NYC

TES Singles Group presents ” Sex, Love, and

Intimacy; The Spirituality of S&M” with Roger.

Passion, pleasure, and the union of the dominant

and the submissive. The beauty of the dynamic

between the players. Edge play, exploring beyond

your boundaries. Realizing spirituality through the

joys of S&M 7:30pm at 75 Bleecker St, just east

of Broadway. $8 ($4 for members of TES and other

SM/leather orgs). Info: 212-388-7022 or




The gentrification of alternative sex:

Have fun! Play safe!

Lolita Wolf

Lolita speaking only for Lolita, of course!

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