Thursday February 17th at Purple Passion
Playing in Dangerous Neighborhoods: Advanced Rough Sex

Face slapping. Teeth sinking into flesh. Kicking someone when he’s down. Gang bangs, Knives going where god never intended them to go. Fists flying. Rape. Fingers gripping. Gasping for breath. Forced blow jobs. Crawling and begging… If combining these things with pre-negotiation and full consent sound white hot, then you, sweet pervert, want Rough Sex. With humor, affection, straight talk, and smarts, Felice Shays will discuss and demonstrate techniques from her Brutal Affection class: slam, slap, kick, and punch, yet THIS time the emphasis will be on how to combine them with killer sex techniques. We will also explore emotional limits and release, safety, partnered positions, group scenarios, head space, anatomy, dirty talk, and helpful items. Finally, Felice will share provocative techniques on how to find your own desire and how to push through fears that might be preventing you from discovering new sexual and sensual highs. Yeah, we’re talking SEX. Sweet, raunchy, bring it SEX.

Friday February 18 at Lesbian Sex Mafia
Brutal Affection: Punching, Kicking, Slapping and Sex

It ain’t about the brawn. Regardless of your size, gender, or physical ability, this highly interactive workshop uses scads of demonstrations to teach you fierce, passionate methods of slam, slap and thud. Learn to use your brain and a multitude of body parts to bring you and your partners to new found levels of physical, sensual, sexual intensity and intimacy. With humor, affection, straight talk, and smarts, Felice Shays will discuss and demonstrate technique, safety, partnered positions, head space, anatomy, and helpful items. Also, as time allows, Felice will work with individuals, dyads and other combinations of partners to resolve their dilemmas of inequity of size, status, attitude or muscle.

About Felice Shays

Where respect, sex, tenderness, straight talk, laughter, and safety intersect is where you’ll find Felice Shays; she’s a sex and BDSM educator and counselor who travels the US and Canada. Newly relocated to Portland OR, this Brooklyn Femme has presented at a plethora of events for about a decade including Good For Her, Black Rose, Pacific Friction, Dark Odyssey, Babeland, LSM, TES, Kinky Kollege, Wicked Womyn, Shebop, KinkFest, Safer SM, Sugar, Tribal Fire, MOB, Come As You Are, The Exiles, Desire, Thunder In The Mountains, Kinky Kollege, and IMsL. Named Dark Odyssey’s Campers’ Choice: Favorite Presenter, Felice also stirs up trouble as a sex and BDSM event producer, performance artist, and ASL interpreter.

Thursday: The first DSD meeting is open to everyone and features Dov presenting “Crazy Glue Invisible Bondage and Infibulation!”

Saturday: New York boys of Leather and The Jersey boys of Leather host a Boy on Boy! bar night upstairs at the Stonewall, Wear fetish gear for drink specials. They’re having a 50/50 raffle to benefit the Women’s Leather History Project.

Wednesday: The TES Dominant Women/submissive men’s Group has Mistress Jada teaching: “Singletails: for the Safe, Sane, and Sadistic”

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“The Greedy Pig Battles the Green-eyed Monster”

At Center for Sex & Culture
1519 Mission Street
San Francisco, CA

Thursday, April 15 — NOTE THE TIME: 6-7:30 pm
$12-25 sliding scale
Buy tickets at Brown Paper Tickets

Jealousy can destroy a poly relationship. Feelings of insecurity and fear of abandonment lead to toxic behaviors which in turn make relationships less intimate. We’ll look at strategies to discern what’s real and what’s perceived. And we’ll examine techniques that help combat jealousy with the security of love, structure and trust.

Fetish Ball
Saturday January 30
9pm
DJ Bill Coleman
Go-Go Torez

$10/$6 (Center Members/Before 10pm)
Fetish attire $6 all night!

208 West 13th Street
212-620-7310
www.gaycenter.org

Dance:208’s Fetish Ball returns with the rockin’ nasty beats of DJ Bill Coleman (Eagle, Sugarland, G Lounge, Bootleg, The F Word) and remixer of everyone from Cazwell, Colton Ford, Ultra Nate, Amanda Lepore, Daisy Spurs). Bill has spun Fetish for us before and there’s a reason why…if anyone can get you movin’ in your gear, he can! The Fetish Ball brings together all parts of the fetish community to dance, sponsored by NY Leatherman among others!

This will certainly be another wild and funky evening, celebrating everything kinky and freaky with live performers and go-gos while you dance.

Get ready to serve and be served!

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Ho ho ho!

Help make history by signing the DSM Revision Petition now! The diagnoses in the DSM-IV-TR still subject people who practice BDSM, fetishes and cross-dressing to bias, discrimination and social sanctions without any scientific basis.

We need 3,000 signatures, but we only have 2,200 now. If you don’t speak up and call on the American Psychiatric Association to adhere to empirical research when revising the diagnoses in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM V), then the Sexual and Gender Identity Disorders Work Group won’t make a meaningful change.

To sign, go here.

You can make your signature anonymous on this secure petition site so it doesn’t appear on the Internet or when the petition is delivered to the APA.

Petition:

“We, the undersigned, support the American Psychiatric Association’s (APA) own goal of making its Diagnostic and Statistical Manual (DSM) a scientific document, based on empirical research and devoid of cultural bias. A diagnosis of a mental disorder can have a severe adverse impact on employment opportunities, child custody determinations, an individual’s well-being, and other areas of functioning. Therefore we urge the APA to remove all diagnoses that are not based upon peer-reviewed, empirical research, demonstrating distress or dysfunction, from the DSM. The APA specifically should not promote current social norms or values as a basis for clinical judgments.”

To find out more about the DSM and the Paraphilias section, read the NCSF & ITCR: The Foundation for NCSF’s “White Paper on the DSM Revision.”

For more information, email Susan Wright.

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