Barbara Nitke has launched a Kickstarter to publishe her book, American Ecstasy. This photo book of her early work has been a big dream of hers for a long time and I am happy to be one of the backers.

The Ultimate Guide to Kink: BDSM, Role Play and the Erotic Edge

I have a chapter in this book! It’s Chapter Two and it covers Spanking, Caning and Flogging! The list of contributing authors to this book reads like a Who’s Who of BDSM: Patrick Califia, Midori, Laura Antoniou, Barbara Carrellas, Lee Harrington, Jack Rinella, Madison Young, Hardy Haberman, Felice Shays, Ignacio Rivera, Sarah Sloane, Mollena Williams, FifthAngel, and Edge. I am so excited!

The book is not out yet, but you can preorder it on Amazon for a deep discount.

Q.  What is the best way to store lots of dildos and vibrators of various sizes in limited space? I am trying to figure out if there is a sort of card catalogue thingie so I can put them all in a drawer? Help!

A.  First of all, go through your collection and decide if you need all of them. Definitely get rid of any smelly jelly toys. Many of these contain phthalates which are dangerous. You want a “quality not quantity” collection.

I like to keep my clean dildos in separate baggies. It seems that all my dildos act like dust magnets and it is best to bag them. One baggie per toy is a good idea also because some toys tend to melt together or stain each other. I make sure that the toy is completely dry before putting it in the baggie. I like that baggies are clear so I can easily identify what is in each bag.

I also put my vibrators in baggies. If they use batteries and I don’t use the toy regularly, I take the batteries out. Batteries that are not used for a while leak and ruin toys. I always have extra fresh batteries stored in my refrigerator. If a vibe is rechargeable, then I store it together with its recharger. Remember to recharge it before you want to use it. I have been caught in a sling with a dead vibe and that’s not fun – well, it just not as fun as it could have been.

I keep my favorite most often used sex toys in or on a night table by my bed. The rest I keep in a dresser drawer that has some Drawer Dividers
to make it a bit easier to sort. I do not keep them in one of those sex toy storage cases. That is too unwieldy for me. I do have  a small one that I love, but I only use it to pack toys for a play party.

If you don’t like the idea of a dresser drawer, shoe storage solutions like a Ten-Pocket Canvas Hanging Shoe Bag or an Underbed Shoe Organizer might work for you.

Of course if you have kids, lock them all away in a big cedar chest. Hey!  I meant the toys, not the kids!

March is Question Month. You can ask your question here.

The ingredients for my big birthday orgasm:

• Medium Njoy Pure Plug – $69.95
• Black Dragon Latex Gloves – $20.00
• Sliquid Organics Natural – $13.00
• Acuvibe HT-1220 Mini Vibrator – $34.95
• My lover’s fingers and hands – Priceless

On Thursday I went to a kissing party held in the private upstairs of a bar. The hostshave a bunch of rules (like “Ask before you touch,” which is exactly the kind of rule I like having at a party) and they require that everybody attends with a Pal. You are responsible for your Pal’s behavior and your Pal is responsible for your behavior. If one of you misbehaves or breaks a rule, then you are both kicked out. It just takes two people to complain for someone to get kicked out, so if you think someone is acting creepy, say something to the hosts. They were very friendly to me.

The dress code is creative and flirty. Dress for a party, not business attire or jeans/sneakers. People dressed festively and some wore fetish type clothing. I wore my leather chaps and boots and that was appropriate. I would also been good had I worn a corset. They also suggest bringing a toy (like a blindfold or dice or rope). I saw some people had brought restraints or a crop. I brought two lengths of soft pink nylon rope. It was a good choice, because the party is sex-positive vanilla but very BDSM friendly. I would not schlep a big toybag with heavy duty equipment there.

It was a friendly crowd and, at first, I saw a lot of talking, but not a lot of kissing. I met a hot girl who had remembered me from a Chemistry party back in December. She and her Pal had been to my flogging class the week before. We had lots to talk about. She expressed an interest in kissing me. I told her that I wanted to tie her up and then kiss her. She agreed. Oh, the hotness!

She is very beautiful with long dark curly hair and soft smooth skin. And she smelled good. She was quick to shed her bustier. I took my time tying her hands behind her back. Her breasts jutted out. “I like pain,” she told me. I began to go towards her nipples and she quickly added, “But not on my nipples.” As I backed off, she changed her mind, “Okay…”

I put my mouth on her nipples and gently flicked them with my tongue. She was very sensitive and a little play went a long way. I grabbed her hair. She told me how she loves having her hair pulled hard. I controlled her with her hair and teased her with my lips. First, her neck, her ear, her cheek and finally I kissed her lips.

“I wish you had brought a flogger!”

“I do not need a flogger to hit you.” I slammed my palm into her chest. She liked it. I slapped her and punched her and bodyslammed her and spanked her, She came and I kissed her some more.

Really hot girl. I love how she could so easily tell me what she likes. I hope I run into her again.

I left the party early because I had still not packed for my Chicago trip and I was leaving in the morning. As I left I saw what I thought was a game of Spin-The-Bottle.

Rachel Kramer Bussel has a sexy new anthology called Fast Girls.  Rachel says:

I named this book after a song called “Fast Girls” by an indie pop/rock band called Sarge*. That song is a feisty, punk-rock ode to a hot girl who is captivating in all kinds of ways.

I’m sure you know a girl like that. Or a woman. Or a lady. Or a butch. Or a femme. Or…you get the idea. She’s the kind of babe who takes no prisoners, who owns her life and her sexuality and not only doesn’t apologize for them, makes sure you notice her and what she’s all about.

You can hear Mia read one of the stories, Five-Minute Porn Star by Jacqueline Applebee, on one of my favorite podcasts: I Want Your Sex.

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Please, Sir: Erotic Stories of Female Submission is the latest anthology edited by Rachel Kramer Bussel. RKB has become an expert at soliciting and choosing hot short stories. These all have a theme of female submission.

As part of the virtual book tour, here is my favorite excerpt that I chose from the book. From “Avery Says” by Sommer Marsden:

Thomas makes me wait one hour and fifty-one minutes before he leans in and says into my ear, “Get your nasty little ass in the car in the next fifteen minutes or it will be ten times worse than whatever you are imagining.” Under the guise of hugging me to him, he pulls me in and pinches me right ass cheek so hard that tears spring to my eyes and I choke on the air in my lungs. I nod so he knows that I understand and I say my hurried good-byes with a mixture of dread and anticipation twisting in my belly.

In the car, he says not a word. He lifts the skirt of my black dress, and checks. I am in the thigh-high hose and garters. I have on a small silken pair of black panties. He puts a finger inside the crotch and touches me just long enough to test me, to see how wet I am. He does not touch me to give me pleasure but to gauge my readiness, the way a mechanic would check the oil in a car: Detached. Professional. All business. I jump under his touch anyway, stealing as much pleasure from his fingertip as I possibly can.

“You know we start off with fifteen. Don’t give me a reason to up it, Avery. My hand won’t be light tonight. What you did doesn’t even deserve comment. You know that.”

I nod and now the tears are coming. What have I done? Why did I do it? What was I thinking? But under it all is the thumping in my cunt from where he has just touched me and the crawling anxiety that somehow makes it all feel so much better – more intense, sharper and brighter and more real.

“I know.”

We drive home in silence.

I shift in my seat, crossing and uncrossing my legs as the heater blows hot air across my knees. “Sit still,” he commands

So I do.

See the official Please, Sir website.

Don Quixote acquired a new chastity device. The last one had not worked so well. The new one was The Boy Trainer Silicone Cock Cage from Mr. S. It had some nice reviews, I liked the way it looked and I was looking forward to trying it out.

We decided to experiment one evening at his place. Putting it on was not easy. His dick stuck to the silicone. I suggested some lube and it went a little easier but it still took quite a bit of tugging to get his dick in it. This is not so bad as it is not something that you put on regularly; it is just something that should stay on. Once his dick was in the device, the strap that holds the balls came up and locked easily to the strap that went around the cock and balls. I like how everything but the lock is made of soft silicone. And it felt good to him. Very snug.

We went to sleep and I kept the keys close by. Wearing a chastity device overnight is usually the true test. If it will be uncomfortable, it’s usually through the night. DQ woke me up early, the Cock Cage was too uncomfortable. Maybe it was the hair that pinched or maybe it was too snug, but I unlocked it and released him. I went back to sleep.

I woke up a little later feeling his body up against mine as he worked his hard cock. I reached back and began to play with it. When he was close to coming, he asked permission to come. I paused and thought about it. And he came!

I was annoyed and asked him why he bothered to ask permission if he was just going to come anyway. He sheepishly told me that he had waited too long to ask. I lay in bed and thought about that while he got up. I heard him grinding coffee beans in the kitchen and mulled my options.

When DQ came back with coffee, I told him to get me a cane. He brought his case to me and I picked his meanest cane, one made of delrin. I explained that there would be no warm-up. I would not be nice. If he wanted to play a Dominance/submission game of asking permission to come, I would have to play the punishment game because he came without permission.

He lay across the bed. I brought the cane swiftly down on his ass. He cried out in shock. I paused so that he could feel the full effect of the stroke. And then I hit him again. Slow and hard I continued. I did not count the strokes. It was too early in the morning for that, and I was only then having my coffee. But, man, I gotta tell you, that is my favorite way to wake up and have coffee.

I went to a Chemistry party with a friend. While I want to be prepared for anything that came our way, I did not want to schlep a lot of stuff with me.

I decided to take my shiny red patent For Your Nymphomation Adult Toy Box.  It’s a nimble 12″ x 9″ and holds a lot of stuff.  Very cute!

Here’s what I packed inside it:

• I love all the Njoy toys, but I think the most versatile one is the Fun Wand. It can be easily used vaginally as well as anally.
• I fully charged up my Acuvibe Mini.  It’s got great power and is cordless and rechargeable.
• The Mindfold is an easy and comfortable blindfold.
• Four lengths of 30 foot hemp rope from Venus Ropes and Twisted Monk.
• A few clothespins that I picked up at the dollar store.
• Lube (Liquid Silk)
• Black Dragon latex gloves
• NYC Condoms
• a couple of baggies.

With a kit like this, I was prepared for many sexy possibilities!