I am totally fascinated by the Ballz Gag from The Stockroom. This looks like it would be a lot of fun on either side.

My New Year’s resolution is that I strive to check Facebook almost every day. Last year I mostly ignored Facebook and I missed a lot of stuff that was critical. Apparently Facebook is very important. Facebook!

I am all about this huge chunk of happiness from Thor’s LiveJournal.

I just updated my list of teaching gigs. It gets busier every year.

Aiden is creating a quality-controlled directory of health care providers willing and able to provide quality, culturally competent care to gender and sexual minorities. If you know of competent and sensitive doctors, nurse practitioners, physician assistants, therapists, midwives, dentists, doulas, etc. that should be added to the list (including yourself), please submit your entries using this quick and easy survey.

CunningMinx posted about the gender differences in jealousy.

The Leather Institute for Education (LIFE), a Metro-Detroit based Leather Educational group has been named the beneficiary for LLC2010. They received over $2000.

Applications, contest rules and requirements are now available at to enter the Mr. & Ms NJ Leather Contest on Oct 15 and 16.

Jay Wiseman‘s Closing argument on Breath Play.

Jefferson on the Psychotherapist’s couch. I was surprised that he
mentioned me.

Vi’s library has its own website.

Franklin Veaux‘s great chart for Non-Monogamy.

Dan Savage writes about kink entrepreneurs in The Stranger.

Alternet‘s article on how kink is becoming mainstream and accepted.

Ralph Greco‘s perfectly positive coverage of TES Fest.

The hot “boys will be boys” calendar benefits NCSF.

Shanna Katz has a project regarding sexuality and dis/ability that involves having hopefully a large number of people responding to informal surveys.

The Windy City Times has an article about Chicago Hellfire Club, celebrating 40 years next year.

My interview on the Wet Wednesdays radio show.

The G-String Tie by John Willie.

The Masocast website has a shiny new design.

An interview with Sully Walsh who is a fabulous metalworker.

Q posted a video of fabulous Mollena’s fantasy at IMsL.

If you enjoyed my reading at In The Flesh in March, check out my reading there from January 2008.

Midori teaches us how to make love to a zombie.

Melissa Febos is getting a lot of publicity just in time for her new book, Whip Smart: A Memoir. And she’ll be reading  Thursday at In The Flesh (I’ll be reading, too!).

Mindy Chateuvert was profiled in DC’s Metro Weekly.

MAL looks like it was a lot of fun this year.

I bought Matt Johnson aka Bad Faggot’s book.

A computer mouse that has a G Spot that leads you to your favorite spot on the web.

Derek da Silva writes about public play.

Kinky Connections interviews JD of Two Knotty Boys.

Boingboing features Mollena playing the race card.

Clarisse Thorn has joined Time Out Chicago as a blogger covering sex and BDSM. Her first column is her coming out story.

British Lucky Paul has pissed off his neighbors.  A zoning issue.

Michael The Artist won first place in the glamour category of a photo contest with this piece.

Deb Malkin is fat and fabulous.

An excellent interview with Graydancer.

PhinLi, my agency, has a newly designed website.

An interview with HOM legend John Blakemore.

Psychology Today says that pornography is good for you.

CineKink NYC, running February 16-21, has all the details up!

Susan Sarandon spanking pigs at a concert.

Mistress Matisee interviews Kate Bornstein about how to do the wording for women’s parties.

From the last email Dan sent me: Why ask why?

Mollena gives some solid advice to BDSM newbies.

A positive article about Seattle’s Center for Sex Positive Culture.

I love iamfivestar’s Bicycle Bondage Calendar to benefit the AIDS/Lifecycle.

International Ms. Leather/ International Ms. Bootblack 2010 needs lots of volunteers. Sign up here.                    .