Comments on: She brought her own toys

By: Sex Toy

Sex Toy — Thu, 03 Dec 2009 12:55:58 +0000

Sharing is caring, but some toys are a no go. My pride and joys are just that, MINE!
.-= Sex Toy´s last blog ..Jimmy Jane – Contour M =-.

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e[lust] #2 – e[lust] — Tue, 01 Dec 2009 11:59:21 +0000

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By: Bondage Toys

Bondage Toys — Fri, 27 Nov 2009 22:39:24 +0000

I could not agree more, the top should not be expected to supply, transport, and buy all the toys to be used by both parties.

This is one big burden for my husband and I as we search out new partners. Though we have accumulated a good collection, we are already set in our routines.

These whips, paddles, ticklers, and leather gear have special undertones to me, and many of those I don’t want to share for both cleanliness and transport reasons.

By: thepinkpoppet

thepinkpoppet — Thu, 26 Nov 2009 20:41:51 +0000

Oh, absolutely! I personally think that although it is fine sharing your toys, or at least SOME of them, not all are suitable for sharing and it is best if the the person they are being used on is the one to make sure they are cleaned, sanitized if needed and well maintained...if at all possible. After all, it is their body that it is coming in intimate contact with. Cost can be a big consideration naturally, but like in dating, it is not fair to expect one person, (usually in a male/female couple) the guy, to have to pay for the date. It is not fair that the Top only be the one to shoulder the burden of cost, care, transportation of objects just because that person is the Top. .-= thepinkpoppet´s last blog ..Butt Love In “Spades”- Eden Fantasys Toy Review =-.

By: Femetal

Femetal — Tue, 24 Nov 2009 15:05:12 +0000

Oh, yes! Totally agree there!

My hubby and I have a nice collection of toys that we built together. Some of those toys have a lot of personal meaning.

Now that we are both starting to play with other partners, we had to have the talk about which toys can or cannot be used by/with other people. Some of it is because cleaning is more complicated than either of us is willing to undertake. Some of it is because the item has emotional significance.

The bottom line is, we’re starting to essentially build two new collections of “mine to use as I wish” toys which are unlikely to be a part of the toys we use with each other. This will include both toys used on each of us and toys used by each of us on others.

It’s complicated, but when we started out, we didn’t really realize the impact that using a particular toy only with the other for 10+ years would have on how we feel about said toy. Now, unless something either has no significance on its own and is also very easy to clean and maintain, it becomes part of a dedicated set. Our other partners also have their own toys that help fill in the gaps.

I get that it can be expensive to build a collection of toys, and so it makes a lot of sense to let each person buy the stuff that’s really significant to them, and share in the cost and effort involved in maintaining any collection they’re a party to.